christian says "i love you" is anyone else insulted by that?

Question

so yeah, i get insulted when a christian says "i love you" and even when they say "ill pray for you" is it me or are those phrases basically a looking down (looking down at you as if they were higher than you) ?

are you insulted by that too?

Answer 1

Nah, I'm so used to it I just laugh.

Answer 2

First of all, are they sincere when they say this to you?

If they are then they truly love you! That is always a good thing.

Now about the prayer.A Christian is someone who has been touched by God's love when he realized that what Jesus' suffering on the cross took away his sin and and made him right again with God so he can be in Heaven when that person dies!

"But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (Romans 5:8)

This is an amazing realization of love! When you find something wonderful you then want to share it with someone you love right? Like if you watched a great movie or ate a nice restaurant. Its not because he is insulting the person but he also wants the person to experience such joy! So when a Christian finds this love he wants to share it with someone he cares about. And the sharing of love is at the heart of Christianity.

"Dear friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God. Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. This is how God showed his love among us: He sent his one and only Son into the world that we might live through him."
(1 John 4:7-9)

When a Christian genuinely says he or she loves you and will pray for you be happy. It is not meant as an insult but a way to experience a Source of wonderful joy.

Answer 3

I think you your mind has told you that when a person says one thing, they actually mean another... When a Christian tells you that he will Pray for you... That is not saying yeah I am your superior. Seriously, I am a Christian, and if somebody tells me that they will pray for me, I am thankful to them, and appreciative that they are going to take time to ask God to bless me and supply for me or whatever. Now saying I love you... Seriously, I don't think I would be offended if somebody told me that they loved me...especially If it was a girl... JK! But yea...

There are Christians who have taken on the Holier than thou attitude and this is wrong... In reality A christian is no better then anybody else in the world. They are not better, yet there is a very significant difference between a Christian and a non-Christian... Christians have had there sins forgiven and paid for, and they have the assurance of heaven.

Answer 4

What is it that you don't understand about loving your neighbor as yourself?

What don't you like about someone talking to God on your behalf?

Christians (followers of Christ) should always be looking up, not down at you. The basic Christian message as contained in the bible is a plan to find out what is available and how to get it. The four witness tell of Jesus life and death, how God kept his promise for a redeemer and raised Jesus from the dead, and that Jesus will return.

Having said all that, the bible is the word of God spoken by the prophets. It is not a conversion manual. The key is belief; you either belief that it is God talking to man or you don't.

Last point especially when you have Christians behaving badly, read the gospel of John focusing on the word belief.

I hope that helps.

Answer 5

Oh, absolutely.

Those kinds of phrases just drip of condescending enthusiasm. It's demeaning, demoralizing, and just plain mean-spirited. It's completely disrepectful of that individual (even on a humanistic level) to throw that in someone's face.

While, in one respect, those phrases may be sincere from a devout believer and it's being done as an act of one's faith, in another respect, it is throwing your beliefs in someone's face -and insulting them if you know their beliefs do not even remotely parallel yours.

If you MUST believe that you should "love" or "pray for" another person, what is the harm is doing so silently?

Saying anything to contradict those "I love you's" and "I'll pray for you's" adds fuel to the fire and reinforces the belief that you are, in fact, a heathen. With saying, "shut up", etc. you are reinforcing their beliefs because they will believe that, with that attitude, you must need to be prayed for and loved. Somehow your life is miserable without their God, bible, or Christ in it. Even though you know that's not true and that you don't lose sleep at night over it.

It's absolutely insulting to hear things like that from Christians.

There's really not much you can say in return or retaliation unless you want to sarcastically thank them, ignore them, laugh at them, or shake your head in disbelief.

I say you should take the higher road, even if it does enrage you to hear it.

If anyone else has a better idea of how to respond, I'm open to new ideas.

Answer 6

I am a Christian and I also get irritated when people say "I'll pray for you." If it's someone who I know will *actually* pray for me and isn't saying it as an insult, then I don't mind. But yes, some people do say that to look down on people... which is wrong.

I'm not sure I've ever felt offended by "I love you"...

Answer 7

No I am not insulted at all, being a Christian, and knowing what it is that they mean. It is not a put down, or a look down. We really mean it, when we say that 'we love you', or that 'we will pray for you', it is the Love of God coming from Him, through our hearts to you. Satan hates us and is getting as many people as he can to get the wrong idea about us, that way he gets to spread his lies more.

Answer 8

there's a particular quantity of bluster and bitterness contained in the question, yet there's a useful element in the following too. First, there is the ambigiuity about what the note 'love' potential at the same time as Christians use it; secondly, there is the problem that each and each one Christian protestations of 'love' are meaningless until eventually they're subsidized up through action. we stay in a society with an fairly selfish, self-absorbed idea of what 'love' potential. regrettably, the questioner shows precisely that variety of records of 'love': that is a few thing you in undemanding words provide once you obtain it in go back. i imagine this can be a marginally debased, cheapened, and self-serving idea of 'love'. yet he's nice to say that many christians spout the note with out heavily thinking in simple terms how a lot it calls for of them.

Answer 9

I don't think you should be insulted by it. They're just trying to be kind and helpful of their fellow man. There are so many more worse things in the world than someone loving you or praying for you. It may seem intrusive sometimes, but there's no harm. They don't mean they'll pray for you as in you're broken or need it, they're just being nice. They do a lot of praying.

Answer 10

I am a christian and I try to be sensitive about what I say to people. Love is as love does. I think it is better to demonstrate love by actions. And the last time I said I'll pray for you it made me uncomfortable. It would have been better to ask, would you like me to pray for you. Or maybe I could have just said nothing. I try to do what I think Jesus would do and for the most part He did what people who approached Him asked rather than seeking them out. He let others come to Him and asked what they wanted of Him . I think that's a better way. But not always. I try to be sensitive to God's Spirit.

Answer 11

Not at all. Christians say those things to other Christians as well. You say "i love you" to people, but are you looking down on them? Probably not. Usually we say that to people we look up to. Is it different just because of a person's religion? Christians say "ill pray for you" to other Christians, even Christians who they think are better than themselves.