He has an alcohol addiction, which means he can go for months without drinking, and suddenly gets very drunk at an event. I have been showing him tough love, so really, that's not my problem. I mean if he can't accept it, what can i do? My problem is that i have a 17 year old boy who has had a drink or two when he goes out to party, but one day he'll eventually will get drunk (we all have). How can i correct him or advice him, without putting his father as an example (He's a great dad and deserves respect). won't my son rub my husband's addiction in my face? I almost never drink, by the way. Can't find the fun in it.
2006-06-23 12:02:15 · 6 answers · asked by AMBER D 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
What you described doesn't sound like an addition -- it sounds more like "binge" drinking WHEN he does it -- sporadically. Generally alcoholics can't quit drinking, and their behavior under the influence has a pretty big negative impact on those around them. Just getting "overly" drunk "once in a while" and not drinking the rest of the time is a lesser issue in my experience.
Teenagers will drink - almost without fail. It's almost a right of passsage. Basically, you need to explain the dangers in it -- including addition, drunk driving, legal issues, etc. And as far as throwing it in your face, at 17 you're not LEGAL yet, and his father is. THAT is a huge difference. But, if he doesn't like the way his dad "is" when he's drinking, you can use that as an example, too.
2006-06-23 12:22:29 · answer #1 · answered by Shadycat 4 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Just because a Dad drinks, doesn't mean the son will, or if he does, become an alcoholic. In fact, just the reverse happened to me. My dad was an alcoholic, and I grew up around the 2 week drunks, and the abuse, so I purposed in my heart, never to be like that when I grew up. I'm 55, and might drink a beer now and then with friends, but certainly not an alcoholic. I didn't drink anything until the last year or so. I have a glass of wine, or a beer now and then, but not much, and not often.
2006-06-23 13:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should speak to your husband and tell him how concerned you are about your son and his drinking and even though he is a great father he would be an even greater father if he drank less and set a better example.It will make the rest of you and your husbands life less stressful in the future not to mention your daughter in laws.
example for your son.
2006-06-23 12:16:05 · answer #3 · answered by sandy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call your local Jail or prison and ask if you can bring you son in to talk to some of the guys who were put there because of being drunk. My friends dad did it to him and he never touch a drinks since.
2006-06-23 12:08:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
AA has groups that support the children and spouses of alcoholics. They can help you and your son enormously. Please contact them. Alcoholism is genetic, by the way.
2006-06-23 12:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to stop drinking and to go to AA for help. good luck.
PS: my dad was an alcholic for many yrs.
2006-06-23 12:05:47 · answer #6 · answered by Girly♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋