what do you do if you have apologized to sum1 for what you've said and they won't take your apologi?

Question

cuz I told my ex that he should go f*** himself and that he should go to hell and that he never needs to talk to me again. cuz I was told he cheated on me.

Answer 1

Jeeze, you have no idea how often this happens, at least to me. I apologize, but it doesn't matter. I never did anything in the first place, but it doesn't matter. Eventually, I just have to give up on the other person, even though it sucks, because nothing gets through to them. I've done this a few times, and now I'm of the opinion that if they won't trust me, they don't deserve my trust; if they won't be my (girl)friend, then I will not be their (boy)friend; etc. There's unfortunately nothing you can do when your significant other makes up his/her mind, better to just drop the moron so you can get back to your life.

Answer 2

If you apologized sincerely, and that person won't accept it, then they are not being forgiving like a good friend should be. You should just let them be for a while if they need to cool off and let the apology sink in. If they still won't accept it, the I agree with the above answer. Walk away.

Answer 3

Don't apologize everytime you see them, but dont stop completely neither. The fact that they arent taking your apology does not mean that you should start acting rude to them neither, as if you're saying "fine, dont take it then". Dont try to avoid them because you're afraid. Keep being kind and polite to them and then over time things will cool down and they'll find out what a jerk they are and you'll be thought of as the hero! Worked for me ;) Suprising because the thing I did was not worth forgiving =P

Answer 4

that is a good question. we should know that people have the option of not accepting our apology...and that is their perogative. however the important thing is that we asked for forgiveness..and that is what counts. leave it alone...after that. if you are truly sorry and was rejected then give that person space to reconsider. they may come around and they may not,..dont beg...and although them accepting the apology would be great,,it is not necessary. so move on... you did your part... hold your head up.. also realize that there are times.. we have asked forgiveness soooo much that people are tired of hearing it,.. or we did something that was so painfull that it might take years or never for us to be forgiven.

Answer 5

As long as you were sincere about the apology, then just give them some space to get over whatever you said and if they never do.. then there is nothing that you can do. You have done all you can do in this situation. Good luck!

Answer 6

Maybe they are not ready or you are just giving them the power to dramatize and add their fake fealings to make you feel bad or worse control you. You were a great person for apologizing and that is all you can do even if it was a really bad thing what you did (within reason that is).

Answer 7

If you sincerely apologized, and try to rectify what caused you to make the apology and not repeat it, and it's still not accepted, I say either move on, or allow time to re-build trust and hopefully the friendship. Depending on the incident, it may take some time. Trust is easily broken down, but hard to re-build.

Answer 8

Walk away with a clear conscience ---it's on them from here

Some people love to hold grudges and those people will never forgive---you've done the right thing--now it's their baby to rock

Answer 9

The forget about them because they obviously aren't a friend, and the obviously don'tcare about what you have to say, hey you were adult enough to apologize, and that person is still acting childish, and pouting

Answer 10

Really isn't much more you can do. If you are mature about it and give them some time on their own to cool, they should come to their senses. Pestering them is probably the worst thing for both you and them. They need space, and you need to keep your self respect.