The man I left my husband for 2 1/2 years ago has now left me! I'm heartbroken and starting to feel my life is over, just when I thought it had begun again. I'm 52 and worried that I'll spend the rest of my life alone. Will life begin again?
2006-06-23 11:47:34 · 20 answers · asked by Melly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Shouldnt have left your husband.. i guess it is true tsk tsk... what comes around goes around... its alright to be alone... you might learn something from it..
2006-06-23 11:50:18 · answer #1 · answered by and1player2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that in this situation, people can jump in really quickly and be very judgmental. The fact remains that they do not know what happened between you and your ex husband. My feelings are that you were unhappy, you had been together a long time and tried to make it work, but it didn't help. Some people just aren't right together.
The real issue is this man leaving you now. Was it fun to him while you were still married to the other man. Did the taboo thrill him? Perhaps you fell for him, as women usually do. Sex rarely comes without feeling for us, but perhaps he felt nothing.
You are still young, I would suggest rediscovering old friends, going out with them to pubs, and joining a club. What are your interests? Join a club where people will have common interests and you'll meet gentlemen who have perhaps been through similar situations as yourself.
Life begins as soon as you say 'I am worthy of love, I am stronger than he knows.' Build yourself up, look in the mirror and say 'I am strong.' You will start to believe it. Be independant, go on holiday alone, because you CAN. Rediscover and learn to love yourself.
Good luck, and God bless.
2006-06-24 04:50:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although being married is hard with temptations out there, you had a choice and you decided to have an affair. This lead to you leaving your husband, and now your lover has left you. You have to live with your choices and try not make the same mistakes again. Also you need to ask your ex-husband for forgiveness and then forgive yourself. Allow the Lord to heal you in your grieving process. You will grieve the loss of your marriage and your lover. Be blessed!
2006-06-23 19:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by TBroadnax 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it will, this is the best time of your life! All you need is to take a break to get over the immediate shock. DO NOT DATE FOR AT LEAST ONE MONTH. Get together with friends, see a few movies, have the confidence to persue happiness. Work on you! Take a class or volunteer for a worthy organization. When the time is right you will meet someone with similar interests and forget all about Mr. Wrong.
2006-06-23 18:58:35 · answer #4 · answered by lyndajrobertson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, just be realistic and accept the fact that this is karma. Maybe your husband was heartbroken 2 1/2 years ago just like you are now. I don't mean to sound callous,but "what comes around goes around, baby." Chalk it up to experience and the next time that God blesses you with someone to love and who loves you, cherish it and don't walk away like you did with your husband.
2006-06-23 18:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by momopoly44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course life will begin again. Hopefully you have some interests besides your significant others. If not, get some new interests. That will help pass the time and provide opportunities to meet new people. You have to be comfortable with yourself before you can welcome in anyone else.
2006-06-23 18:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesnt matter u left your husband.we are free people to do what ever we want in this life right?if we dont disturb other people.when we choode to enjoy our freedom,we always pay a prize for this i believe.but can we do other wise and live a boring life?what i believe.is that there are always better people for as.mayby ur husband found a better woman than u.and u will find a better than the guy who left u.no regrets,no things in the middle.
2006-06-23 18:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by seveneight 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. I'm sorry something that tragic had to happen to you. You are never alone. There is always someone who cares about you, whether it's your cat or your best friend. Why not try getting involved in your community to try and find new frendships (or perhaps a new boyfriend...)? I hope you feel better. ^_^
2006-06-23 18:54:10 · answer #8 · answered by Bethany S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well - Its a bit late - but it can happen... Just hope you've learnt from your mistakes...
Any man or woman that leaves their partner will quite lightly do it again.. So if you have a husband.... dont **** on him again! otherwise you'll endup old & alone... Not a nice thought!
2006-06-30 18:52:01 · answer #9 · answered by want_to_explore_life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well u know what they say about what dosnt kill us only makes us stronger....i feel for u cuz my b/f just went back to his x ...although i know that it probably would have never worked cuz of our age dif. ( i was 10 years older than him....although in my def. he told me he was 4 years older than he was..i found out the truth about 2 weeks b4 we broke up) I think the best approch is not to look for someone just go enjoy urself and see what options u have ..start slow ....friends ...make sure ur over the past so it dont mess up ur future
2006-06-23 18:55:11 · answer #10 · answered by shelly h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll tell you how to get over a man. You get a picture of them on the computer. Then what you do is zoom into their face and look it all the mistakes on their face. Finally you will not be interested anymore!
2006-06-23 18:51:09 · answer #11 · answered by Potathao 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋