Hi
I mean i just saw a movie an di realized that love could be between friends right. But what is love. True love.
GOD bless you.
2006-06-23 11:47:13 · 11 answers · asked by Jetta C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Friendship, acceptance and fondness of someone in the whole - their faults and their bright spots. True love is not infatuation which is a human bonding response.
2006-06-23 11:51:19 · answer #1 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"True love" is a confusion because English uses the same word for multiple meanings. In Greek, there are no less than 6 different words for "Love." No wonder we keep wondering what it truly means!! Additionally, it allows the duality of "love" being a verb and a noun, despite the meaning of the two uses being vastly different.
In a Philosophy of Love class that I attended in 1995, the professor described love as a dichotomy:
Eros: the noun, emotional, lustful, and destructive.
vs.
Agape: the verb, thoughtful, caring, and creative.
For example, romances (Eros side) almost always end in tradegy or are in some way catastrophic. Most of Shakespeare's plays revolve around this topic. One notable exception is The Tempest, where Prospero is about to wreak destruction on all, but finally relents when (my take) he realizes he is about to become the tyrant he so hates - i.e., he steps out of the emotional state and really starts to think. Compare this to the romances of Romeo and Juliet, Hamlet, and Othello: almost everyone dies.
Even deeper into this old dichotomy is a more than 2 millenia conflict between the two sides of this concept, sometimes taking up political opposition to one another:
The Stoics - believers that emotions ought to be justifed or controlled by thoughts.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stoics
The Hedonists - believers that one ought to do whatever feels good, subordinating thought to emotions.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hedonists
Although there is some reconciling the two sides in any healthy society or person, more often the two are opposed - sometimes violently so. Although they might not view this as linked, I think of examples that include the first millenia conflict between Taoists and Confucians or second millenia conflict between Catholics and Protestants (not that each side could not once again be split again internally, but that there were larger trends at work), and the current schizm between "conservatives" and "liberals." In any case, it is not unusual for each side to accuse the other of being evil.
Being on the Stoic/ Agape side, I call "true love" thoughtful caring.
A Hedonist / Eros person would disagree and that it is being consumed with a feeling of passion for something or someone (and will probably resent my dismissing such feelings as something else: Lust). Mutual desire for one another might be a requirement.
2006-06-26 14:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by Cheshire Cat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love goes like this:
The first stage, when you're all goo goo is not true love. That's Eros and its a kind of naturally induced dementia that makes you think your lover is faultless and infinitely wonderful.
The next stage is when you start to come to your senses and realize the person has faults and is a real pain in the *** sometimes. This is when you might think you picked the wrong person and they aren't your "True love."
The third stage is when you suck it up and start practicing true love. The person you chose isn't perfect, but neither are you. You love them by choice at this stage. You choose to see their good traits and forgive their bad. You want to see them happy and you do what you can to help them. True love is an act, not a feeling. Its also the most noble and fulfilling thing any human can do in this life.
You won't find anybody on the planet that is perfect, so you must go through these stages no matter who you choose. Most people don't make it to stage 3 because they believe true love is a feeling and when its gone, its time to move on. They spend their lives jumping from one relationship to another. Its sad, but our society is completely deluded by the fairy-tail ideal of true love.
Sorry for the tirade. I hope you know true love in your life!
2006-06-23 19:03:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree,watch The Notebook. True love to me is always thinking of your one, everything reminds you of him or her. No other person compares,and they are perfect in your eyes. You want to spend every second with him/her.You want to be with them for an eternity,not just a lifetime. It's not the one you can live with,but the one you can't live without. Just because you argue doesn't mean it's not love,and just because you don't argue doesn't it mean it is. Your love continues to grow,even through disagreements.The notebook kind of love is the best love,even the ending,without the hitting. It's staying together and working through. It's how your eyes light up or your heart races when you see the person.You don't even realize others of that sex exist because all of your thoughts are of your one. You see your future with him/her and all of your dreams and desires are about that person only. It's the most wonderful feeling in the world when it's true love.
2006-06-23 19:18:40 · answer #4 · answered by nativeamericantay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey love must found and thought of by every different person who feels it. But if you ask me what I think love is i'd say when you can accept everything about a person and love everything about them the good and the bad, when you would do anything for them and know they would do anything for you, being able to forgive them and know that they'll forgive you. It's a partnership not one can be compleate without the other. May God bless you too.
2006-06-23 20:09:18 · answer #5 · answered by Jessie T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me.. True love is the unconditional kind of love. No matter what they do good or bad you still love them. If you can't be with the person you miss them. If you are with the person you realize how perfect it is. You see their faults and imperfections and realize that these are just more things that make them who they are and you love them just a little more each time.
Basically true love is the love between a mother and child!!
2006-06-23 18:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by belapointe2004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love can only be defined as the people in your life that care for you the most and the ones that look after your welfare. True love is true love is your best friends and family the people you confide in
2006-06-23 18:53:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just watch the movie "The Notebook" with Rachel Mcadams and Ryan gosling and you'll know
2006-06-23 18:53:56 · answer #8 · answered by moviefan190 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you see someone and you know you would die for them, or do anything to make them accomplish their destiny. Its a devine kind of thing, and you HAVE to love your friends, or else they arent your friends. (I do it on the street, I would rather myself die than ANYBODY else on the world)
2006-06-23 18:50:31 · answer #9 · answered by Holly N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What ever is in your heart.
2006-06-24 22:32:18 · answer #10 · answered by beth_l2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋