F**K BUDDIES does it work good or bad what do you think tell me.my ex girlfriend has become mine.?

Question

and it's all getting very complicated should their be any rules or agreements.

Answer 1

Bad - Bad - Bad!
Those situations never work out the way you want them too, things always get messy (and sometimes ugly!), and someone always ends up getting hurt.
If you don't want to be in a relationship with her, you need to cut all ties - before it's too late. (If it's not already!)
I guarantee that she is reading a lot more into your sexual sessions than you think she is...no matter what she might say.
Think long and hard, my dear.
You know this won't work.
Take care of things as quickly and painlessly as possible...for both of your sakes.
I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 2

F**k buddies or friends with benefits are a double edged sword. On the one hand it feels good to have the pleasure without the commitment. on the other hand it could be very dangerous. I'm not only talking about the danger of getting one or more STDs, which is always a concern when having an intimacies without some form of commitment. I am also talking about the danger of the emotional toll this might take on one or the other. As much as we would like to think that sex can be an emotionless act most times it is just the opposite. There is no such thing as friends with benefits. If it is getting complicated that means it isn't working. There are no rules or agreements that could be made that would complicate the matter less. Sex should never be treated as just an act of receiving pleasure.

Answer 3

The problem with this kind of hook up is eventually one will meet someone who they want as a long term relationship and the other will get jealous and their feelings will be hurt. It is enevitable. Most couples try the friends with benefits after they break up for many reasons:

1. Guilt
The dumper feels guilty and bad for the dumpee so they figure if they do this that it will be easier to transist into new relationships

2. Scheming
(Usually the girls) One will pretend they ar okay with this kind of hook up because they truly belive the other will see how great they are and change their minds and make up. I have experience in this and it never works. Guys think it is the greatest deal - sex without complications and everytime the girls get let down when they realize they are kidding themselves and get jealous when the guy goes out on dates or sees other women. NEVER believe a woman who says she is into casual sex. Women use it to manipulate their way into a mans life and it always goes sour.

3. Lonliness
F.W.B. is never a soluton for lonliness, because at the end of the day, there are no romantic feelings. There isn't someone to hold you through the night, say they love you etc... You will just feel lonlier.

4. Alcohol
Drunkeness always brings out the stupidest ideas. When they sober up and realize what they are doing - someone gets hurt.

If you are to engage in a F.W.B. contract, there are some guidelines that some set out to keep the pain in check.

1. No dinner and a movie
Going on a date before you 'do it'. Adds feelings. It will deceive one to believe that the other really cares and they will fall for you. If you do decide to pal around go DUTCH. Pay your own way and not both. That means a date and you still care for her/him.

2. No sleepovers.
Sex is sex, not sleep. Cuddling is intimate - feelings will form. It leads to false pretences.

3. No sharing sex conquests.
Doing this will fuel jealousy no matter who you are. It is already dangerous to have sex with more than one person at a time, not only for your health, but for all parties involved.

4. Keep it in the bedroom.
No trips together, no bragging to your friends (especially mutual ones). If you are to engage in this, you have to keep it quiet. A girl that you may find a total babe and want to land may hear of your conquests, find out and be turned off. You may ruin any chances with future chicks (same goes for the women).

Basically - don't do anything that is intimate or couple related. It blurs the lines.

You should both be honest with each other and END THE SEX if you start dating someone else. Be honest and true to all parties involved in your life. CHEATING IS BAD.

*Make sure you draw the lines clear with the girl. Make it verbally clear that you are not interested in starting or re-starting a relationship with her and only want the sex. Be honest, or she will feel led on to believe you still want her romantically. If she doesn't like to hear that, then she will not be a good candidate for a f$&k buddy.

GOOD LUCK.

Answer 4

Basically the only barriers in relationships are the ones people put there themselves. There's no way i'd agree to a monogomous relationship with anyone until i knew them really well, but it seems that people just 'go out' with each other on the off chance they manage to hit it off. I think that's a bit silly. You don't get much time to live and you should get the most from it.
The only way to have true love is by wishing each other the best they can have. That means no rules. People get jealous cos they're scared of their lover finding someone better than them, but that's no more likely to happen in an open relationship.
Personally I find the most rewarding sex is with friends. There's more emotion there, not less. If it works keep doing it, if it doesn't stop.

Answer 5

friends with benefits is an extremely bad idea and it almost always winds up with one or both parties getting hurt. It is just putting off the inevitable bad feelings from a breakup and stalls the emotional impact of not being together. You should make a clean break and find a different girl instead.

You can make all the rules you want, but it will all go out the window when one of you decides they want to have a relationship with someone else.

Answer 6

Personally i think it is a bad idea especially with an ex because there was once feelings there and sex tends to bring all of those feelings flooding back. Soon she will think that she has you again and maybe her acting like she is ok with just the sex is her way of getting you back. I have tried it once with an ex and it complicated things all the more. Exes personally in my point of veiw are best left alone besides maybe on a friendship level

Answer 7

been there done that..and then some. If you guys get along good..theres really nothing wrong with it. you already now if the sex is good or bad, And your not sleeping with alot of people. Basicaly the rules are there are none...you are not in a relationship. If you guys want to have some sort of agreement I guess it couldn't hurt.

Answer 8

no 1 rule- your relationship is truely based on *******
thats it
no 2 rule-you do not get involved in each others personal lives

no 3 rule-you are allowed to date other people

no 4 rule-if you choose to get engaged or married the fu*k buddy must not have sex with you anymore and keep secret hidden from other spouse
good luck

Answer 9

My ex and I tried that. It started off with just sleeping together after we broke up but led to feelings again. It was too painful and frustrating at the end. F*** buddies should only be people you've never had the emotional attachment to.

Answer 10

As a womans point of view been there done that, when you have a understanding on the level or relationship you want yes, you can enjoy it as that but believe me, someone always gets caught up in wanting more because its open and no limits.. Be careful someone heart can't take sharing