I don't think it is that big a deal, I sat him down and explained to him he should not do that ever again. His Mom and Grandma think he should go to Jail. He was laughing a lot when we talked so I told him how would he like it if I broke his arm. He said he did not care and he picked up a vase and threw it across the room and broke it.
My wife says she cannot control him anymore. I think it is just that he is going threw a phase or something. What can I do? He plays these violent games and the game told him to trip his Grandma. Should I take the game away? Should I ground him for a few days? He just laughs at me when I pushish him and then just does what he wants anyway. I am a little afraid he may do it again. Any ideas?
He is a little pisser isn't he, I mean, you have to kind of laugh at it a little don't you? Or is this really serious?
My wife is ready to hit me!
2006-06-23 11:40:39 · 26 answers · asked by Jay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Take him to a child psychiatrist. Have him evaluated. It could be a physical/ emotional/ or mental disorder.~hugs+sr= *shrugs!
2006-06-23 11:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by molly m 3 · 11⤊ 1⤋
Of course it is serious misbehavior, and the fact that you find ANY humor in his violent actions is very disturbing. My guess is that Grandma is your wife's mother, cuz if she were your own mom I bet you would be more angry over son tripping her.
He broke her arm ....... how much more severe an injury would she need before you consider it serious ???
Kids that age are too young to be arrested ....... but it's real clear that he has had a lack of physical parental discipline or he wouldn't have such a nasty attitude. If you really wanted to put FEAR into him, ask the cops to come over and lock him up alone in jail cell for hour or two (with both parent's permission) ...... I bet then he would think twice the next time he contemplates acting that way.
2006-06-23 18:56:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't normal, and he shouldn't be laughing. Take all of his violent and non-violent games away and don't just ground him, but take everything he likes and uses every day, AWAY. It may seem harsh but doing that to your own grandma isn't very nice. I love my grandma very much and I would NEVER do that to her by any means, even to another elderly person. Take him to a psychiatrist and see what she/he says. They may even give him therapy. He also can't go to jail because of his age, but only to Juvenile Hall for a very light punishment. It's kinda also your fault because of the video game you bought him. Kids at his age take it seriously like a hypnotism. Since you think it's not that big of a deal, then you are most likely to blame. There's a lot missing in this puzzle, and without those pieces you're out of luck and time.
2006-06-23 18:46:35 · answer #3 · answered by Hot T-Bone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not dealing with a garden variety misbehavior here. He delibrately hurt his grandmother and thinks it is funny. You also say he plays violent games that is not normal. That is in no way a phase. I have younger brothers and they never went through the phase. Boys like to wrestle but to delibratly hurt someone and laugh is serious business NOT SOMETHING TO LAUGH AT!
He needs a psychiatric evaluation as soon as possible to figure
out what is going on. If you don't care of it it can got to the next step where he is killing animals or other people. Please take this very seriously.
2006-06-23 19:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by butterflykisses427 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't funny. This is quite serious and if he is doing this at 7 then he will be MUCH worse at 12, 15, 18 etc. I have a cousin who at 24 had spent more than half their life locked up for crime. You need to find help in controlling the child. And a big part of it is consistancy. Every time they do something wrong there should be consistant and appropriate punishment.
2006-06-23 18:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by billybetters2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's not easy raising children and sometimes no matter what you try they still tend to get out of hand, but never give up on fixing whatever issue this child may have. For you as a parent to even consider it funny...well sounds like you may need a little help youreself. What if Grandma's injury would've been more severe? How you have enough time to get online and ask questions like this rather than find serious help is beyond me.
2006-06-23 19:00:45 · answer #6 · answered by Jess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this game away, yes. Ground him, yes. Send him to boot camp for a year, entirely possible. Have him arrested? Um...no? He's seven. He needs to be severely disciplined, but I don't think he should have to go to jail. Is that even legal? He needs to be punished until he gets that you're serious. Be severe, and take away all of his privileges. If he does it again, get even more serious.
Yes, this is really serious. I don't know why you'd laugh. It seems like you've let things get a little out of hand.
2006-06-23 19:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by zoemstof 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boy could use a frontal lobotomy. That's a simple procedure where a chunk of the frontal lobe is removed through the eye socket.
You'll really notice a change in his attitude after wards. He won't talk back or throw things. He won't be inclined to hurt old people anymore. Excessive drooling is the only nasty side effect. You can tie a cup around his neck to keep the mess down.
Good Luck! Hope this helps :)
2006-06-23 18:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think u need to send ur child to any mental place yet. lol. and your wife and grandma needs to calm down. if he's only 7 and misbehaving like that, that's a little extreme for a 7 year old. i don't think its the child either, its probably also the way you guys are disciplinin him, and if u can't handle him, yall should go see family counseling or a therapist, not just for him, but for advice for how to raise him. remove the games, actually, u shouldn't reward him at all, remove whateaver that is influencing him. if he's laughing at it all, i think ur parenting is not being as effective, not to attack you, but u can see it...
2006-06-23 18:55:12 · answer #9 · answered by j1 projectz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to set up boundaries. If he is bad let him know what will happen and to expect it. Nevertheless, when he is good, (no matter how small the situation or good is) let him know it and reward him for it. But let him know under no circumstances is it right for him to put his hands or any part of his body on someone else.
Next, give him outside hobbies. Let him go outside and run off steam by playing, excercising, etc. This way, when he gets home, he is too tired to bother you or anyone else. In a nutshell, he is having fun and letting off steam and negative energy.
Don't let him think that it is funny to do something like this, (even if it is kinda funny). Did I help you?
2006-06-23 19:48:50 · answer #10 · answered by ljones_0424 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is not funny. You need to go to a parenting class and learn how to be a better parent. Of course you need to take his violent games away (and throw them away)! Take away what he cares about most, whether it is t.v., video games, internet, etc. You need to discipline this child. If he gets angry with you, so what? He is YOUR child, you are not HIS child. You are the adult, you tell him what to do. Otherwise, he will grow up thinking violence isn't wrong and he WILL become a killer like someone mentioned already. Do you want the blood of innocent people on your hands? Wake up, this isn't a phase. *Gosh, 7 year-olds hurting their poor defenseless grandmothers on purpose, what is this world coming to?
2006-06-23 18:52:27 · answer #11 · answered by 1big teddy graham 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋