My 7 yr old son purposely tripped his Grandma, she fell and broke her arm, she wants to have him arrested ...?

Question

I don't think it is that big a deal, I sat him down and explained to him he should not do that ever again. His Mom and Grandma think he should go to Jail. He was laughing a lot when we talked so I told him how would he like it if I broke his arm. He said he did not care and he picked up a vase and threw it across the room and broke it.

My wife says she cannot control him anymore. I think it is just that he is going threw a phase or something. What can I do? He plays these violent games and the game told him to trip his Grandma. Should I take the game away? Should I ground him for a few days? He just laughs at me when I pushish him and then just does what he wants anyway. I am a little afraid he may do it again. Any ideas?

He is a little pisser isn't he, I mean, you have to kind of laugh at it a little don't you? Or is this really serious?

My wife is ready to hit me!

Answer 1

sending a young child to jail will only traumatize him my advice is to have him help his grandma to the best of his ability with her daily routine so he is forced to have responsibility for his actions

Answer 2

If you live in Canada, your son cannot be charged for any crime until he is 12, so tell Grandma that is not an option.

It sounds like your son has Oppositional Defiance Disorder...and I wish I had had found that out about my son when he was only 7...now hes 15 and its so hard. I spent years wondering what was wrong...was it him...was it me...was it his father.....???

Had I known about ODD sooner I think it would have helped me and my family. Take him to a counsellor or phycologist and have him assesed. If your son has ODD you need all the support and knowledge of behavior management you can get. These kids can literaly destroy your marriage and other family relationships.

This link below if BY FAR the most comprehensive information I have ever found about ODD. Take a minute and check it out. And if it looks familiar..take it from another parent who has been there (and is still there) get help

By the way here is the diagnostic criteria.....

A pattern of negativistic, hostile, and defiant behavior lasting at least six months during which four or more of the following are present:
1. Often loses temper
2. often argues with adults
3. often actively defies or refuses to comply with adults' requests or rules
4. often deliberately annoys people
5. often blames others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior
6. is often touchy or easily annoyed by others
7. is often angry and resentful
8. is often spiteful and vindictive
The disturbance in behavior causes clinically significant impairment in social, academic, or occupational functioning.

Answer 3

This is very serious, he's only 7 and he's already committing assault!!!! I don't know if a 7 year old would get anything out of going to jail, but you should have a police man scare him by coming and putting hand cuffs on him and putting him in the back of his car. He should see a physiologist, it is not normal for a 7 year old to do things like this. Obviously your son is very impressionable by these games and should not be playing them. (Take them away!!!) He also seems to have no empathy for anyone and this is a definite warning sign that he should get help. Or next time (and there will be a next time) it may be alot worse then just a broken arm. IT'S NOT FUNNY IN THE LEAST BIT!!!!!! If you love your son, and I'm sure you do, get help NOW!!!!!!! before it's too late.

Answer 4

He is only 7? You are going to have an absolute
nightmare on your hands by the time he reaches adolescence. He is not going through a phase. He is turning into a criminal. If you want him to develop a conscience and don't want to be bailing him out of jail until he is 40, it is time to get control of your household.

First of all, what is he doing with those kinds of games? Get rid of them.

Second, it sounds like you and your wife need to take some parenting classes. It is neglectful when children do not get consistent, firm, and loving parenting. You are making excuses and raising a pet, not a child.

Third, get him into a psychologist for an evaluation.

And fourth, depending upon the kind of justice system you have for minors, it may not be such a bad idea for him to have charges pressed. It may have him learn to be accountable and open doors for psychological evaluation and parenting. Again, it depends upon your justice system. If he is going to end up in a juvenile detention center (jail). Then, no.

You have a responsibility to get this turned around NOW.

Answer 5

This could be serious. Get him a physical, maybe he has a untreated condition such as touretts, add who knows. This isnt normal behavior, you can expect kids to do kid stuff but this seems extreme. I have 1 child he is 28 yrs now, I also did foster care I raised around 20 kids, from all kinds. Sometimes all it takes is family structure and stick to it.
Soon he will be trouble in school and the parent will be called away from work, this could cost your job. He is probably telling stories about his homelife,be careful, creative stories are reported, you dont want the system involved.
Get medical help asap

Answer 6

There's probably more to this story than what you've written here. Your wife probably should hit you. Grandma should have drank more milk. It does the body good. That's what my mom told me. You must be really proud of your little prankster boy! Buy him a book on pranks! Take the game away and tell him to get to reading. Tell Grandma to watch where she's going next time.

Answer 7

I think your son has a real problem and do think he needs some sort of help before he hurts someone really, really bad. If calling the Police and pressing charges for what he has done to his grandmother gets him help, I say do it. If he has no respect for you, your wife or anyone else, he needs some help. Fast!!!!

And you, for you to think it's okay for your son to do the things he does and laugh at you the way he does, I think you are in need of some bad help yourself. Hope the two of you get it fast before it's to late...

Your lucky I'm not your wife, I would have done alot more than be ready to hit you. I would have clobbered you several times already...

Answer 8

at first it sounded a little extreme, but as i read on it sounds like taking him to jail to scare him wouldnt hurt! at least not like he hurt his poor grandma, he's lucky yo have her, mine died when i was 5, i wouldnt have dreamed of hurting her and laughing at her after the fact, shows a major behavioral problem, he more than just a little "pisser" a lot of kids might do something to hurt an adult not realizing the after math, i think its the part about not showing remorse thats desturbing to me, somethiongs not right and he needs to be evaluated by a doctor, maybe on meds-its not A normal boy thing-at all!

Answer 9

You have a belt around your waist?

Good, take it off, lie him forcibly across the bed face down and spank his *** about 10 times real hard. Tell him that whenever he hurts someone or damages something on purpose that's what he's going to get.

If you don't disipline your son, society will. Think about that.

Answer 10

i don't think its funny at all. what if next time he decides to push grandma down some stairs? i don't think the cops would arrest him anyway, but you should get him some serious help. take the violent games away and crack down on him before someone gets seriously hurt.

Answer 11

Put him in SERIOUS therapy. Take away all of his games like that. Don't let him do anything until he changes. Good Luck!!! But child therapists are typically really good, try a few ti'll you find one that you like. I don't think prison that young is the answer.