reversed roles?

Question

I consider myself a "spiritual" person, and I usually don't make a point of telling others around me that I am or am not a spiritual person. but my brother in-law has to make it a point that he is an athiest and annoys me. it seems like he always wants to pick a fight just so he can tell me that he doesn't believe in god and why. he doesn't care that I believe in god so why should I care that he doesn't? has anyone else been in this same position?
don't you think that it is strange it is usually the other way around

Answer 1

Personally? I think he's *kinda* being a prick and it just so happens he's an atheist. Not every atheist is a prick, or is as cynical as, say, me. Also, a good sense of humor also has to "go with the territory"... Seems he's kinda stuck and barking up an unwilling tree.

Speaking AS an atheist, but not for atheists everywhere, I can tell you that I, personally, am very open and ready for debate. Simple debate. Not a "someone has to win" kind of situation because that leads nowhere - people on both sides of the fence believe that they will ultimately 'win'. The debate that I suggest here is for understanding's sake. I mean, if I am going to better understand me, I must first understand what I am not. I can achieve that by understanding someone who has an opposing viewpoint from mine.

As for dealing with your brother-in-law, you should simply tell him that you respect his choice to not believe, but that you would only expect him to do the same in return and to leave it at that. Tell him you don't want to engage him in any kind of debate. Be honest. Tell him that you don't want to ruin that friendship/relationship because of your differences on the subject of god.

Let it play out from there...

Good luck.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

It is common that people who take extreme or unpopular positions do so only to get attention and seem "cool" because they are soooo unique. I think this is your brother-in-law's problem. Since he's an atheist only for the attention, he has to be in your face about it, or it doesn't do him any good. If he truly was a believing (or is that non-believing?) atheist, he would just be one.

Answer 4

I've been in the same position with my christian relatives, they've gotten better about it though.
I'd say your brother-in-law either has a crush on you, and he's looking for excuses to talk to you, or he's questioning things himself and he's hoping maybe you'll say something that could answer his questions.
Are they actually fights, or are the just discussions? If they're only discussions, maybe try and not let yourself get too upset about them, he probably just likes having someone to discuss these things with. Or maybe he's just venting steam... who knows...

Answer 5

I would recommend that you tell your HUSBAND to tell your Brother in law to keep the f--k away from you...

Or just kick him in the balls right in front of your husband...he'll get the message

or you could record the feud on video and show it to your husband.

He is like a gay person who only defines himself/herself by their sexuality, and nothing else.

Answer 6

my husband started that way.
at first when we were wed he couldn't even stand hearing God's name without undue anger.
as the time went on, he stopped trying to challenge my faith but still was antagonistic. we had quite a few hard times, my faith in the end held us both up.
he now wants to have counseling through a part of the clergy. i agreed, impossible as it is ,

Answer 7

Yes and remind him that you've kept your mouth shut about his
beliefs and if he continues disrespecting you and your religion,
the **** will hit the fan. Religious tolerance is a two way street.

Answer 8

Atheists - get all dressed up and no place to go. Must be difficult to do all this work for their time on earth and get nothing in return.

Answer 9

Yeah, it is usually the other way around. Tell him to mind his own damn business and that your beliefs are yours and only yours.

Answer 10

Sounds like he is just trying to push your buttons and has succeeded. Tell him to buzz off...