when i sleep, I dream about him. when i am awake, I think about him and everthing makes me to remeber him and yet I can't have him, am I crazy?
2006-06-23 11:21:34 · 23 answers · asked by Jerome 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for the answers so far, they are really insightfuull, thanks.
I can't have him coz he lives in a country that I can't live and i would need to kill his wife also, so to have him.
2006-06-24 02:00:07 · update #1
well you were in love with this person, but, you have gone beyond love for you can never have him. when you don't follow thru on emotions or feelings you start obsessing about that particular person leaving you vulnerable to any guy you think gives you that feeling you expect to get from the forbidden fruit(guy you can't have). get yourself a life coz you are heading straight for crazy find yourself a guy you can feel all the things you are currently feeling for this guy. move on and save yourself from going crazy.
2006-06-23 12:22:39 · answer #1 · answered by mo 1 · 4⤊ 2⤋
No you aren't crazy.
However, these feelings can only bring you heartache, if you truly can't have him.
You need to put it into perspective, you are obsessing over someone who can't feel the same about you. There is nothing wrong in loving someone, the feelings you have are feelings everyone has gone through at some point in there life. There is always someone we can't have, and its hurtful, but it's like many things in life.
I want enough money to make sure my friend can buy herself a house and be free from her abusive husband, but it will never happen. I don't earn enough. Therefore I stop thinking about it, and instead tried a constructive approach. I look after her the best I can under the circumstances.
I think you need a constructive approach. Go out and meet other guys, you will soon forget this one. Get out there, have fun, it;s your life, don't let not having the guy take up all your time.
2006-06-23 21:40:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No; you are not crazy. You are instead infatuated/obsessed/in love with this guy all at the same time. The fact alone that you can not have him is in part driving you wild, and causing you to think so much about him. Assess why you can not have him, and then work from there; if you truly can not have him, then you should try and move on, for your own sanity.
2006-06-23 11:31:56 · answer #3 · answered by pilotmanitalia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're not crazy. I'm in exactly the same position. We finished up 2 years ago and he's still my first thought in the morning and my last thought at night. I can't move on. Noone could ever compare - not ever. I guess I've just resigned myself to it. He's in new zealand now and I know I'll never see him again. I wish you all the best and hope you'll be able to find happiness again.
2006-06-23 20:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by teisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obsessed, I'm afraid. I fancied a guy out of my reach for years....eventually I managed to prise myself away from obsession.
It doesn't mean I don't fancy him anymore - or that if I meet him I won't go all shy. It's just the fact I've dealt with my obsession enough that I perhaps only think about him once or twice a week now....!
So - whatever happens it's not particularly healthy to be obsessed with someone, but you've got to work things through with yourself and sort it out.
2006-06-23 11:29:28 · answer #5 · answered by badgerbadger 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I went through this a few years ago after my one ex. Six months after I broke up with him, I would still wake up at 4 in the morning - It was the time when I would wake up so that I could call him to wake him up for work. Some things just take time, and letting yourself walk away from a person that you love(d) is a tough thing to do.
2006-06-23 11:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by beauvoir_babe1865 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Infatuated
2006-06-23 11:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by September 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not crazy - in love! Why can't you have him? If he's a celebrity or married or a teacher then stay away, but any other reason, go for it! You have to... your whole life depends on it!!!
2006-06-23 12:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by floppity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...well maybe a little...
If you really can't have him then you have to wean yourself off thinking about him.
It's hard i know, but It will wear off in time if you make the effort to stop feeding your obsession. There really is a whole other world out there :)
2006-06-23 11:26:56 · answer #9 · answered by charleymac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he in your thoughts throughtout the day and fill your dreams at night? Dude seriously your not crazy but you are crushing. deal with it you'll feel better soon enough.
2006-06-23 11:27:51 · answer #10 · answered by Trish H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋