Nosy People!!!!How to deal?

Question

My two year old son has a therapist who comes to our house to give him treatment.At first she was really cool and friendly.Gradually she started to become prying and nosy.She found ways to venture into everyones bedroom.She asks really personal questions about my family and lovelife to myself and two daughters.She makes remarks about members of my family(myself included)She reads things that are left on the coffee table and she constantly looks over my shoulder when im on the computer.She has done alot for my son,but is driving my family mad.What should I do.

she is a great therapists(ABA).Hard to find,she is just nosy by nature,not job related.

Im not being investigated by CPS-My son is autistic.

Answer 1

well do this, i tried it and it helped. first because you have been so patient now its the pay back time for her, start asking her very personal questions e.g.. about her life, love life, how she loves to have s.e.x, how many men she has slept with and dated, how many kids she has, are they all from one father? has she ever cheated on her husband or boyfriend, is she poor?
I mean just ask her all sorts of things and see how she responds, she will after some times realize that she has been very nosy and will eventually stop.

Answer 2

You didn't state why your son is receiving therapy. If this "therapist" was assigned as a result of an investigation, or his remaining in your care is contingent upon the results of her observations, you may have very little choice in the matter.

There are things that you can do, however, to preserve more of your family's privacy. Make sure that your house is in clean, neat, and orderly condition before her arrival. Put away anything left out that you don't want her prying into (mail, magazines, novels, videos, etc.). You can best believe that if she is a social worker, she is making observations about the entire family. That's why she's going into the various rooms.

Have allegations of any sexual abuse or inappropriate behavior been made, even if by your son? In that case, she would definitely want to see the rooms, the sleeping arrangements, and perhaps even ask questions of your other children.

For your child's best outcome, you might consider being less offended by the therapist's intrusions, and be more cooperative. If there is nothing to hide or be wary of, your demeanor will be more relaxed, and these sessions stand a better chance of being successful.

You might also approach her before or after her next visit and ask the reasoning behind what you perceive as her prying. If you don't feel comfortable with her response, you might inquire through the proper channels about being assigned a different therapist. I would not do this, however, if your son has bonded with her, and trusts her. Sometimes, however, a bad mix between families and counseling professionals can sometimes hinder, more than enhance, the counseling goal.

My experience with this is that my sister's son resides with me. His mother has serious mental health issues. During the three intermittent years that he has resided with us, my husband and I have been subjected to all kinds of inquisitive experiences, whether by the courts, the caseworkers, their supervisors, law enforcement, forms and applications, and I'm sure, the pediatric counselor my nephew is scheduled to begin seeing in August. I must say, that for the most part, the varius caseworkers assigned through the years have been sensitive, capable, and respectful. (We did have to request that one be reassigned, but it was not due to these issues, but rather her discomfort with her assignment, and her inability to properly handle the case.)

Basically, our attitude is that we pretty much have an open door, and are receptive to these inquisitions because of their purpose: ensuring that he has a safe and wholesome home in which to live.

Best wishes for a favorable resolution!

Answer 3

I agree with woodsywoman33. I think she is trying to gather evidence. Strange thing is it sounds like she's doing the investigative work that Child Protective Services (CPS) would normally do. You said she makes "remarks" about members of your family, yourself included. Are these stereotyping remarks? Is it possible that there is some cultural misunderstanding going on? Do her remarks sound bigoted or racist? Does she have a superior you can speak to? If not, perhaps it's time to make a complaint with her state's licensing board? You may want to document what she says and does from now on in a log or journal. Even though your son has benefited from this therapist, I think you should find someone else to work with him. She sounds like she's crossed the line professionally. I would think she'd want to be on good terms with you and your family--to facilitate your son's therapy. As it turns out she's made you into adversaries.

Edited to remove references to possible CPS investigation. Maybe this therapist interacts with kids all day and simply doesn't know how to conduct a polite conversation with adults? Perhaps her nosiness is just her trying to show interest in you and your family? Does she have a family of her own? Maybe she's simply a lonely single person with bad manners?

I can understand if you don't want to change therapists. If you've seen improvement in your son after working with this therapist, perhaps you shouldn't give up on this situation. Maybe things can be improved if you have a friendly conversation with her, where you express your concerns about your privacy? Good luck!

Answer 4

Put away anything you don't want her to see and close the bedroom doors before she comes over. Don't answer her questions about anything personal. If you catch her going into one of the bedrooms go in and ask if there is anything you can help her with. The shock of being caught may make her stop. If she continues doing these things tell her you don't appreciate it and would prefer she keeps the therapy at a medical level only. If she still continues it let her supervisor know.

Answer 5

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Answer 6

You need to tell her in a polite way that though you are very thankful for what she is doing for your son, the rest of the family and what goes on in it is not your concern. And if you cant say that, try telling her straight forward when she asks you these questions that make you feel uncomfortable, that's its none of her business or you don't see how that pertains to your son.

Answer 7

The next time she does something "nosy" you should say...excuse you and take what she picked up or take her elbow and remove her from the room she shouldn't be in. Then I would report her and ask for another therapist. She'll only do what you allow.

Answer 8

What is the therapist for?

Maybe she has a right tobe that nosy, especially if it involves mental health.

If you don't like what she reads, put it away before she comes over. If she asks you a question you don't want to answer, tell her you don't want to answer that.

Stand up for yourself.

Answer 9

Get a different therapist. If this one is through a medical agency you should report her. She has overstepped her bounds as a medical professional.

Answer 10

she may be trying to gather "evidence" for a department of family,childrens services. She may be looking into a child welfare case. Be Careful Keep you close but your enemies closer.