I'm a kind guy, not a nice guy. What's the diffeence? Nice guys get treated like s***. I treat women with respect from the get go but they always diss me. I'm not a super sensitive wussy, nor am I an ****** jerk. So what's the deal?
2006-06-23 11:08:50 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Women think they want a nice guy, but they are mostly too materialistic to date a nice guy, because we normally aren't rich, gorgeous, rich, drive a great car, rich, hung like a mule or rich, so they can't "go down to our level." They get what they deserve. When you find the right girl you will be happy and it will be great. I did. I found someone that appreciates my love affection, supporting nature and it's great.
2006-06-23 11:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by spudric13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women do buy into the whole "bad boy" dating experience. Basically those kind of guys provide short term excitement but turn out to be selfish, arrogant and only concerned about their own needs. (But there are men who want "bad girls" as well for the same silly reasons). And there are the clingy, doormat or harasser types that call themselves "nice" but aren't at all. It's easier to blame problems on being too nice/too goodlooking/too intimidating instead of looking at the way you treat people.
Genuine good guys treat people the way they'd want to be treated. Some of these guys tend to be more introverted and less aggressive with women than the Mr. Showoffs so they may get overlooked initially, especially by females who wouldn't dream of making the first move and asking a guy out. But these are the guys that are worth the trouble of dating, and often end up being taken by women who appreciate them.
2006-06-23 18:14:32 · answer #2 · answered by simplysilly1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women are like that! I go for nice guys! Some women feel being with a nice guy can be dull, so they go for the bad boy. I am a nice person and I dated who I thought was a good guy, but little did I know he was mean and broke my heart. Then came a good guy. My ex came looking for me,but it was too late. You describe yourself as not a jerk, but not too nice, and I think that is a good mix. You'll find a deserving lady who will appreciate you, so don't mold into a fake person to suit someones ideals.
2006-06-23 18:18:29 · answer #3 · answered by Rosie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I do want a nice guy, not a bad guy...and secondly, the reason most girls claim they want a good guy instead of a bad guy is because they know a nice guy will do almost anything for them, treat them right, etc...whereas a bad boy will make you work for he's love, he's a hard nut to crack if you will, he makes you work for his love, which although it seems like a challenge at first, once you actually get him you realize he wasn't even worth it.
But the nice, kind guy is somebody who'll always have unconditional love, respect, and consideration for you...I'll take the nice guy over the bad guy anyday...
2006-06-23 18:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Cynicaldreamer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women are confused, so without intending to, they are always lying.
Look at all the magazines they read that are supposed to tell them how to act to attract a man?
All that contradictory disinformation makes women crazy.
So, if you act civil and respectful, women think a guy is a W-I-M-P, which does the cause of womanhood no good at all.
A man wants one basic thing out of a relationship. Women want anywhere from 6 to 9 "requirements" on their "Wish List".
2006-06-23 18:18:26 · answer #5 · answered by DinDjinn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women do want a nice guy, however, they want to start off with a jerk and CHANGE him into the nice guy that they want to have. Taming the "bad boy" if you will. What ends up happening though is the "bad boy" lets the woman think she is changing him....then he does what he wants with her and goes back to being a jerk and she dumps him (generally because he's cheating on her because he got tired of her).
The cycle repeats itself....
2006-06-23 18:13:28 · answer #6 · answered by tjjone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the "nice" guy after dating a whole crap-load of *******. Mature women like the nice guys. Immature 15 year old's won't understand.
2006-06-23 18:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Hot Pants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just meeting the wrong girls. if its just looks yr after then you probably going to get alot of shallow girls. try for someone with intelligence, maybe shy and a winning personality. there are some out there for you. just dont give up we're not all like that. im still waiting for a nice guy lol
2006-06-23 18:12:26 · answer #8 · answered by lushy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I like nice guys but i either find jerks or guys that seem like nice guys and then turn into jerks.
2006-06-23 18:11:27 · answer #9 · answered by reallyfedup 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women are that way; I would jump at the chance to date a nice guy. That being said, women like men who are not wishy-washy. Don't say "I don't know, what do you want to do?" when she asks you what you want to do. Be fun. Stop dating tramps who only want a bad boy and look at someone that society would say is attractive but not "hot". "Hot" girls tend to be shallow, and all they want is someone who is going to take charge and boss them around. Again, not all of us women are that way!
2006-06-23 18:12:49 · answer #10 · answered by Georgia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋