My 18 yo daughter is dating a 43 yo man!! How do I make it STOP?? Am I overreacting?

Answer 1

Yes your over reacting the more you react the more she wants him. If you show little or no reaction then she will stop. I feel age is just a number but this day and age most guys won't stay with a girl that young for that reason she is immature the first sign of immaturity he will run. He is probably going through a mid-life crisis and wanted to burn the bridge of sugar daddy. She on the other hand is probably want to do the most outrageous thing she can now that "SHE IS AN ADULT" and you can't stop her. Hun I feel for you but my advice is to bite your tongue and let her make her mistake.
Try finding out if the man is married that could stop it really quick with a call to his wife. Dirty but it would work.

Answer 2

You can't stop it she is of age and has the right to date whomever she wants. She's probably just doing it to get attention seriously what does an 18 yo girl have in common with a 43 yo man her va j j maybe. I'm sorry but it's true. You're not over reacting you have every right to be concerned about your daughter dating someone that could be her father. Maybe you could sit and talk to her about it ask her what she likes about him how did they meet get to know more about their relationship and see if it's a true relationship based on common interest or her way of sticking it to society. If they do like eachother then be happy for them and hope that you raised her right. If you think its not a good relationship try bringing hot young guys around the house or take her to places where she'll see hott young dudes and i'll bet you anything she'll be so done with that old fart in no time.

Answer 3

Many people will just give you joke answers, but this is my serious answer:

Although she is legally an adult and is probably a mature girl who truly believes she is in love, you are not overreacting at all. If she gets serious with an older man now (who may not be a "pervert" like many will say, but is nonetheless not what she needs), she will be missing out on the years of her life where she shapes her own identity. And that will only come back to bite her in the a s s later in life.

Try to sit down and have a discussion with her. Hopefully the two of you have a good relationship and can do so. Make sure to treat her views with respect and consideration, and be level-headed about expressing yours. In the end, at 18, she will make her own decision, but you have an obligation to at least voice your concern that comes from experience.

Good luck :)

Answer 4

Well, she's 18 so not much you can do. Support her and don't make a huge deal out of it. It will most likely die out on it's own...they can't have too much in common and chances are she's not going to settle down at 18 anyhow;)

And by the way...there must be a lot of kids on here with the ewwwww, that's disgusting cause he's so OLD! LOL...I'm 29 and my husband is 42 and we have a great marriage. (Not to mention he's a man so automatically he acts like he's 20 about most things anyhow!) The last time I checked...43's not old!

Answer 5

Unfortunately, she is 18, and legally there is nothing you can do about it. However, if she's still living under your roof or you are paying her bills, she has to abide by your rules.

Maybe you should have a nice chat with her about why dating a 43 year old man is probably not good for her. As she matures, mentally and emotionally, he will remain the same. As she ages physically, he will too. They may desire different things as she grows older. He may be using her, etc.

Answer 6

Hell no ! You're not overreacting ! Does she still live in your house? You are the parent. As for this 43 year OLD MAN ! He makes me sick !! If I was you I would find out every thing that I could about him ! Find out who are his friends and relatives. Contact as many of them as possible and let them know what's going on. If that doesn't work, announce it in the newspaper! Do a background check on him! Does he have kids? Grand kids? Trust me she will move on to a younger man when she sees that he can't keep up with her and what she really wants to do in life.

Answer 7

Don't get bent out of shape, those things don't usually last that long, and the last thing, you want if for your daugher to rebel against you. It's really all a fantasy for her now, as he can take her to places and buy her things, that boys her own age, can't do.
Let's hope he is a decent man, and just over the moon that he is dating an 18 year old, and will soon come to his senses. No way he can keep up with one that young.
Not to mention all those other generational gap problems with movies and music.

Answer 8

Is there somthing wrong with your daughter? I believe that there is. Your daughter needs to date with her own age not an 43 yr. old man.That's disgusting. You and your daughter need to do some serious talk. Ask your daughter why don't u date a guy with ur own age. Mother, you are not overreacting.

Answer 9

Whoa. That is a tough one. Well she is 18 so at this point you really need to trust that she knows what she is doing.... and be there for her when and if it all blows up in her face.
My thoughts on this is that perhaps she is doing it to shock you? So dont be openly freaking out about...play it cool for now and if she sees she isnt getting a response than maybe she will get bored of it herself and dump him.
Or my other thought is that MAYBE just maybe they actually are in love and in that case it will work out somehow...
I hope it is the first one.... hopefully she will tire of the old guy and go back to hanging out with young adults and do what the rest of the 18 year olds are doing...
Good Luck

Answer 10

you are not overreacting, but you cannot make it stop.... unless she still lives at home... but even then, it would be hard.

If she's living at home, you should tell her that she has a month to find a new place to live, and she should be grateful you're giving her that much time. Remind her that you love her, but if she's old enough to make this kind of decision, she's old enough to pay rent by herself.

If she's not, tell her you disapprove immensely and he will not be welcome at any family gatherings.

When this relationship falls apart (as it will), and she comes back to you, accept her back. Do NOT lecture her, do NOT tell her that you were right. She will have learned her lesson the hard way and will not need you to remind her.