my husband gave his entire paycheck to his mother to pay her bills, She had a bunch of vet bills, her other sons (hes 30ish and has a job w/ insurance) medical bills, and a 1000.00 dollar tattoo, but couldnt pay her bills. our house payment was due and now i cant pay it cause he gave her all this money? also he chewed me out cause i started crying when he told me he did this. Help plese what should i do. p.s we have 3 small children that this could have helped out for food and stuff liek that.
2006-06-23 10:48:24 · 36 answers · asked by lil_racer_1999 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Oh MY GOSH!! That really makes my skin crawl, a son gives his mother his paycheck to pay her bills and SHE ACTUALLY TOOK IT!!! You need to be mad at both of them!!! And you need to remind him that HE has a family to provide for and that even though it is important for him to be there for his mom---THE KIDS AND YOU COME FIRST!! Whats NEXT?? Is he gonna let her come and live with you or will you be moving in with her because you got evicted because of this? Message me if you want to vent...I feel your pain.
2006-06-23 10:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by cutipi_1977 3 · 17⤊ 1⤋
I would definitely say be mad at your husband. I'm sure you can understand that he wanted to help his mother out with her bills but he has obviously gone to far. As far as his mother goes she could have begged for his help with no care or consideration for his family, (consisting of you and your children of course.) but it was his choice to fork over his whole paycheck. You should sit and talk to your husband. He has to be made aware of your feelings in this matter. If he refuses to listen you should take measures to assure yourself that this will not happen again. Go and open your own bank account. If you are a house wife and mother try to budget more so that you can have extra money to put aside. I know this may seem like a lot of trouble but If you cant trust him to put the needs of his children first drastic measures should be taken.
2006-06-23 13:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had a husband that gave away his paycheck, I would be absolutely furious and chew his *** up one side and down the other. One of us would be crying and honey it wouldn't be me. He would know he is to never ever do something like that again and he can figure out a way to make that house payment and buy the groceries. As for his mother, I would loose all respect for the woman. She knows he's a married man with a family to support. The new rule would be he is to hand his paycheck over to me so I can make sure the bills are paid or else he can go live with his mama.
2006-06-23 11:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be furious. It is your duty as a mother to protect and provide for your children. It is your husbands duty to protect and provide for his family (being first his wife and children, then the others if he can). Someone is failing on his job. I think that paying a bill to help someone along is a generous thing to do, but when it is at the expense of innocent children and other family members it is no longer generous but neglegent.
I would be mad, hurt and not hesitate to let the other members that took the money know that your household is suffering while they sport a new tattoo.
It sounds like he wanted to be someones HERO.
I bet his children would like to call him Hero, but what will they call him from a homeless shelter??
2006-06-23 10:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would not get mad at this point it well only make a bad situation worse and that is no good for anyone.
my advise would to sit your husband down and calmly tell him effects that his decision has made on your family and were it has left you and then see how you can try to fix it. your husband needs to realize that you and your children come first.
bible says in Ephesians , 5:31-33 that when a man gets married that he should leave his mother and his father, and stick to his wife and the two should become one flesh and that he should treat his wife as he would himself. i don't know if you are someone who reads the bible but that verse always helps me and my husband to know that our family comes first before our parents or siblings.
well good luck and i hope that every thing works out for you
2006-06-23 11:07:11 · answer #5 · answered by turtle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have a serious talk with your husband... why did he do this, knowing he had other things that were important to pay.. Although mothers can have this weird ``power`` over their sons (know this from experience) , and seem to always ask help from the one that they are sure to get help from . Also if she know that he has a family to feed she should not be asking for that kind of money. You should be angry at her for not thinking of her sons family. As for your husband you need to really talk with, and see why he did something so irrational... Guys are hard to understand, their might be some reason to why he did this...
2006-06-23 10:55:23 · answer #6 · answered by fleurgerbera 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be mad at both. Do they not realize that they are depriving their childre/grandchildren from food, clothing, and possibly shelter? Your husband should have consulted you first, and your mother-in-law should have made sure that all of the bills that you and your husband had were paid before getting the money.
2006-06-23 11:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, a husband should never put no one before his wife and family. Second, his mother only does what HE let her get away with. Be mad at HIM... I mean very MAD!... And none of that pitiful wimpy crying through your anger mad. Men only respect STRENGTH!!!!
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my husband gave his entire paycheck to his mother to pay her bills, She had a bunch of vet bills, her other sons (hes 30ish and has a job w/ insurance) medical bills, and a 1000.00 dollar tattoo, but couldnt pay her bills. our house payment was due and now i cant pay it cause he gave her all this money? also he chewed me out cause i started crying when he told me he did this. Help plese what should i do. p.s we have 3 small children that this could have helped out for food and stuff liek that.
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RE :Should i be mad at my husband or his mother?
my husband gave his entire paycheck to his mother to pay her bills, She had a bunch of vet bills, her other sons (hes 30ish and has a job w/ insurance) medical bills, and a 1000.00 dollar tattoo, but couldnt pay her bills. our house payment was due and now i cant pay it cause he gave her all this money? also he chewed me out cause i started crying when he told me he did this. Help plese what should i do. p.s we have 3 small children that this could have helped out for food and stuff liek that.
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2016-11-26 16:11:44 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband has some serious issues, it sounds like it runs in the family. Mom should realize he has a family to worry about, his brother should be booted out on his butt. And a tatoo bill. Screw it, that tell them to come and take it away.
Put your foot down, if he does this again, call a locksmith and a lawyer.
2006-06-23 10:52:51 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋