I recently had a job interview, if I got the job it would have meant a move to a different office. Someone from the company, who works in the same office as me at the moment, offered to help me with the interview; and when I didn't get the job seemed disappointed and gave me feedback. As being succesful would have meant me leaving, was this 'help' just him trying to get rid of me?! I would hope that he didn't want me to go....
2006-06-23 10:39:41 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No I didn't want the job, but it would have allowed me to apply for better jobs back in our office. I know he wouldn't have helped out anyone else in my organisation.....
2006-06-23 11:07:48 · update #1
Ha, You sound like me - I sometimes look too hard at things and end up analyzing them to death. I would say look to your inner office relationship with this person. Do you two normally get along? Does he usually hang around you? Ignore you? Have you had issues in the past? Perhaps he just wanted to help. Perhaps he has a crush on you and thought this would be a nice way of getting to talk to you. Just because he was disappointed doesn't mean anything. If you are curious, just ask him politely - say something like " You know, I really appreciate all of your help. I was wondering, I'm not used to people taking all this time in an effort to assist me with something like this - why did you originally offer to help me? Just curious, cause I really appreciate the effort." That way he has to give you an answer, he can't take offense because you aren't accusing him of anything, and you won't be coming across as acusing him of anything.
2006-06-23 10:46:53 · answer #1 · answered by shirlock27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter now, it's over. Use this experience the next time. You want to get or lose a job because of what you did or didn't do. When you bring in a third party you're giving them some of your power. When you don't get a job I think it's because there's one out there that's better for you. Good Luck.
2006-06-23 17:44:49 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was probably just trying to be helpful. He was probably bummed that you didn't get the job because he worked so hard with you and got all psyched up with you and it was a let-down for him, too. NOT because he wanted to get rid of you, but because he was cheering for you.
2006-06-23 17:43:25 · answer #3 · answered by ericalsmith2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this seems a little paranoid, i'm sure he was just trying to help because he thought its what you wanted seeing as how you applied for the job.
2006-06-23 17:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably, just wanted to mentor you, and got involved trying to help you suceed. and when it didn't happen, was disappointed for you. After all, he had invested his time in you and the interview.
Better to think the good thought, the worse one.
2006-06-23 17:44:19 · answer #5 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
but have you tried, thinking about this in a positive way? may be he cares, and wanted to see you happy. unless you want to tell me you did not want that job, but applied. in which case case it'll be freekier
2006-06-23 17:49:44 · answer #6 · answered by Rasman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your getting paraniod just be thankfull for the help and advice (as long as it was good)
2006-06-23 17:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by meach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he either hates you or likes you.
2006-06-23 17:48:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋