ive had enough?

Question

i am 15, got acne, cant lose weight and have braces that are shredding my mouth to pieces.
My dermatologist goes on about how much my acne is going and i wont have to see him again but i have a face covered in scars..i dont want to spend the rest of my life covering my face in make up. I have never had a boyfriend because they all see repulsed to the point of not even wanting to talk to me. it is really getting me donw and have no idea what i can do.

going on the pill made things alot worse then they all are.
I have to go through constant bullying about the way i look, i have had acne since i was 7 and a half..

i have basically screwed my chances of anything, because i have been so down with this i failed my GCSE's, cant go to college or sixth form, cant get a job because they were that bad.

to silver spoon..no need to offend..but i have tried the god thing..for a while i prayed and prayed and..nothing happened..as far as i am concerned there is no such thing and if there is..he is deaf and blind because he atleast would have helped even a little

Answer 1

You're only 15, just wait it out. It won't last forever. If people don't want to get to know you just because of how you look, then they're just ignorant and superficial anyway, you deserve way better.

Answer 2

You sound like you may be suffering with some form of depression, have you seen a herbalist or good doctor who might prescribe more natural solutions?

Just because people with no acne run around as though they haven't a care in the world doesn't mean their lives are all rosy either - you are so so young and one day the scars will definately fade, maybe not completely but you will learn to live with them accept them. Its a very big deal to you right now, but in 10 years you will look back at this stage as being a difficult time but you will get through this. Things will get better. Try enjoy being 15!

Answer 3

You know what, when I was 15 I was overweight, had braces, looked terrible and thought it would never get any better. It does though, you just have to remember that all teenage boys are horrible and most of them aren't even worth considering until they've got a bit older and less driven by hormones. Try pretending to be confident (even if you're not) and smile at everyone - it sounds a bit of a cliche, but eventually your outlook will change and you will be confident and the braces and the acne won't matter anymore. That will all go sooner than you think and then you'll meet someone who values you for yourself.

Answer 4

Hi, good on you for posting your question. I am 56 and can well remember at 15 years of age, having skin that was what I perceived as hideous. But, you can overcome your feelings of self image that are really low just now. First of all - you havent screwed up the rest of your life because of exam results. I left school at 15, got married at 19 and was a housewife for over 30 years. My self confidence was at an all time low when I had my 3rd child, I went to night classes, got qualified and resumed the career I had started at 18 years of age. When I left school there was no support, no help (well it seemed that way) and I just sort of drifted in and out of jobs. Then I applied for health professional training, as an Enrolled Nurse it was then. My skin improved as my mood improved - sounds daft? But it really did - I also ate far more healthy food when I was in training, also the running around after kids meant no time for me to think about looking in mirrors too much. I think you need to focus on what you have achieved so far - you are 15 years old and presumably not on drugs or smoking or drinking or living in a cardboard box? Try and be positive - get outside today - it is summer (supposed to be) and get some fresh air. Dont go to the shops, just walk in safety and get some daylight on your skin - no dont over do the sun - try and focus on what other people are doing. Help some one in their garden - I know this sounds like crap information, but really, you can achieve a lot if you put your mind to it. And if people are repulsed by how you look they aint worth being freinds with. Good freinds will support you, acquantainces will help you sometimes, but a lot of people aint worth knowing. Be a good freind to someone else and things will be right for you soon. Good luck. x

Answer 5

You're trying to do too much at once. Take your problems apart and deal with them one by one. Ask your dermatologist about acutane. It's a 100% sure cure for acne, even for the scars. But use caution!! It has serious side effects and I wouldn't recomend using it unless you're that desperate.

As for your braces, just wait it out. Just imagine how good it will make your teeth look when you're through with them! But if you absolutely can't stand them, you can always ask your orthodontist to remove them.

I wouldn't even worry about trying to get a job until you're 16. Just get some working papers and apply at a fast food restaurant. They're always hiring.

It sounds like your biggest problem is lack of confidence. You need to build your self image. When you feel better about yourself, everything will start picking up. Take a minute to seriously look at your life. Look at where it's going. It can't be that bad. Just remember that there's always someone worse off than you. Listen to "Stop Crying Your Heart Out" by Oasis. That always cheers me up. Maybe you could talk to a counselor. Or you could turn to God for help. I'll pray for you. Trust me, things will get better. They always do. Just be patient.

Now about being overweight, don't even think about it until you've got these other things in order first. This one is going to take a little more. But chances are, you don't have to lose weight. Cheer up. Guys will like you if you're optimistic and cheerful. Personally, that's what I like the most in a girl. And if they don't, then they're not the kind of person you want to be around anyway.


**Be happy with who you are. Before others can accept you, you must learn to accept yourself.

Answer 6

Hello there, i am sorry you have been going through such an awful time. Life can be so cruel at times. It's good that you have asked for help and look at all the great replies you have. People really do care about you and we don't even know you so how much more love must your family and friends have for you....
Please don't give up hope of becoming a beautiful young woman outside and inside, 15 really is the worst age to be and my guess is in a couple of years you will look much better...and you will start to like yourself and then other people will start to see a beautiful little flower open up...most of us felt the same at 15 without going into details.....look at chelsey clinton when she wore braces and look at her now!! she is very pretty.... please don't give up WE LOVE YOUXXX

Answer 7

Do not ever think that you must look perfect in order to be loved. At your age, you shouldn't stress over having a boyfriend. I did not even have my first boyfriend until I was 18. Rather, just focus on school. They are the key to your future. You're only young once.

We live in a shallow society that places importance on the materialistic and physical looks, but these are not truths. Have total acceptance and unconditional love for yourself! Don't deny it to yourself just because of your facial problems.

Maybe you can learn a bit more about what to eat that can help skin become healthier like drinking water always, going vegetarian, something like that. Maybe ask another question if there is a particular way of eating that can contribute to healthier skin. I know there is a way.

I personally knew a male co-worker who was tall, thin and attractive, very friend and a hard worker. His wife was overweight and had severe acne problems. They just had a baby. I was amazed how much love he had for his wife.

You know love is truly blind. The heart does not care what love looks like only that it can love the person. I have personally experienced it before. I have given true love for a person regardless of the physical imperfections. My significant other just could not believe I chose to love her because I was attractive. But I am very sincere, I live my life by my heart. There are plenty more people like that. Do not worry, it WILL happen to you later on when you are more ready to be able to focus on relationships and have much better self-esteem within.

If your doctor is unable to help you with your acne problems, keep in mind that one doctor does not speak for all doctors. Do continue getting second opinions. Try to research more about it online, maybe ask acne related questions on here. Educate yourself, eventually you will find the right doctor and right treatment that works for you. Just because one medicine works for someone, does not mean it works for all. Try to approach it with an overall way of living: diet, medicine, attitude, etc.

You can do this!

Answer 8

I'm not surprised, it sounds as if you are going through a tough time with self image. So you have a dermatologist and the acne is cured but you have scars? In which case there are treatments to deal with that which you can ask about but they will fade anyway. You won't 'need' to wear make -up forever.

Braces are tough, but you can get through that. Use this time when you are unhappy about your brace/skin to get fit. Look at your diet, increase the water/fresh fruit and veg etc, try to take exercise. Its good for your skin and your mental health and will help reduce your weight.

But if you still feel so down, please see your Dr and tell them how you feel, it is important, you are important, and I know from experience you will not always feel this bad so it is worth hanging on!

Answer 9

as for the braces don't worrie to much about them they will help in the future, lossing whait used to be hard for me to but it realy isn't try to cut bread out of your diet take a hour walk every day,stop drinking soda,coffie stick to water or smoothie dirinks if you realy have a sweet tooth frozen strawberries,bannanas,ice and a little 7-up in the blinder no more then one maby 2 a day or drinking crandberry juce before bed helps burn callers,but its got to be real crandberrie juce not that friut coctal stuff oh but what ever you do don't skip meals the more meals you skip the more wait you gain because your boddy stores more callers bbecause it dosn't no when your going to eat again. eat a good brecfest and lunch and dinner if you eat breadfest your body starts working to burn those callers and by lunch your system is still going and bye dinner its been burning callers all day.When it comes to acne, well its just somthing we all have to go through some wores then others, but is you use coutips to pop them it helps not to brake opean the skin so it doesn't leave scares and try not to sqeeze untell they bleed,but you could do steaming treatments at home on the weekens, boil a pot of water and put a tawl over your head and lean over the hot water and let it steam your face then pop all the balckheads and zits and then put your face in a bole of ice water for 10-15 sec do this abought 4 times right after eachother,and try to use a clean pellow cace if not every night then every other night oh yhea and if you get some vitem E oil and put it on your face at night it will take a while but it will help the scars fade.I know it sounds like a lot but it worked for me,but you realy do have to dedicate yourself it wont work if you keep going back and forth.

Answer 10

I cannot answer about the acne--but I was always atleast 4 or 5 inches taller than everyone and fat and have buck teeth... I really am sorry that you are going through this. Please talk to someone you trust and tell them how you are feeling--I am now 40 years old and have found that the older you get the less people comment on my appearance. I believe it has caused a lot of my mental health problems and really would like you to talk to a trusted adult that you can show this question and my answer to. Feel free to e-mail me if I can help with moral support.

Answer 11

u sound really down - i suggest a chat wiv the doc.he can giv u tratments 4 ur skin - mayb the pill u tried jus didnt suit u

its hard but u cant expect things 2 change overnight - u have 2 make the effort.instead of saying "i cant" say "i can & will"

concentrate on feeling happier about urself rather than trying 2 get a boyfriend

i know how it feels, i was in the same position - if u go in2 skin & body under health & beauty u can read the suggestions there about ur skin, and as 4 ur weight, im sorry, but that will involve a healthy diet (u dont have 2 cut out sweets jus cut down on them) & exercise