He is 18 and about to go to college, she is only 16 and about to enter her junior year. He has cheated on girlfriends before, and has even dated our very good friend who thought of him as someone who makes things seem so serious. That is wat I fear has happened to her. He is her first boyfriend and i think he has made her feel like their relationship is very very serious, when i do not believe their relationship is even steady at all. Today they all went to planned parenthood to get her birthcontrol, because they knew I would try to talk her out of it if they included me in their plans. I seriously fear for my friends respect for her bady and herself, and I feel like she is gonna regret this, but she wont believe me. HELP!
2006-06-23 10:23:08 · 17 answers · asked by wittywaffle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Unfortunately all you can do is tell her how you feel. It is up to her and she will have to deal with any consequence or regret. You can't tell her what to do...she has to make her own choices and if that is what she is wanting to do...then be her friend and be there for her if things do go wrong.
2006-06-23 10:26:45 · answer #1 · answered by brina27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i too had a friend who was in somewhat of the same situation.. her b/f was a sr and they began having sex after jus 1/2 a month.. she was only 15 and he was 18.. in the end he ended up cheating on her jus like he had done in the past and they broke up.. she says that she regrets doing it with him and that she was pressured to do it, but i dont think that was the case i think she sometimes wanted it more, but in ur case i think u should let it run its course with them because when he goes to college he is not going to want to still date her and she will prob be very hurt.. once someone has those strong of feelings it is there first real relationship no one can tell them that maybe wat they r doing is wrong.. most likey even tho u r friends she prob wouldnt take ur advise anyways, but u can always say u were there 4 her..
2006-06-23 10:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes she is,i know this for a fact.My mom did the same thing with my dad that i'll never know and tried to meet, she will regret it very much,you need help fast before its too late. One thing can go wrong with thier relationship and its all over for the baby's hope of having a father,my mom was 16 when i was born and my dad was 18, she is now 28 with two other kids that r my half brother and sister.Abd THIER dad is in jail,find a way Quick,and god bless you for trying to help her.Your such a great friend to her.
2006-06-23 10:30:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is love and support your friend. You do not have to agree with her decisions but you do have to respect that they are HER decisions to make. When she talks about her bf, just listen, and stay neutral. If she asks you about him outright you can say "you know how I feel. I want what's best for you. And I'm worried that you're taking a risk in trusting him."
Whatever you do, do not alienate your friend by speaking out against her first love. Who knows, maybe he's matured a little. Maybe he really does care for her and will be faithful. But if not she's gonna need you there when she's heartbroken.
2006-06-23 10:34:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my, you've got a pickle.
I guess the best way is to be kind and make sure you don't sound self-righteous, you know what I mean? Try to be as kind and understanding as you can.
She's probably already feeling bad about this, if not a little ashamed, so try not to make her feel any worse.
It's a touchy subject either way though.
However, you should be proud of yourself for caring that much. Lots of people would just say "I told you so" when it crashes and burns, if it does.
I'll pray for you!!!
2006-06-23 10:32:15 · answer #5 · answered by relientkfreak_pippagethetook 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately nothing. Continue to live your life as an example and hope that she follows. We do not have the power to change others, we can only change ourselves. Your Friend has to decide for herself what to do. If she makes a mistake and falls down just be there when she needs help getting up.
2006-06-23 10:31:55 · answer #6 · answered by gmommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is a whore. Sorry, but there is nothing you can do. She has to learn the hard way. When she goes on the pill and lets the guy come inside her all the time and catches some STD he got from some girl he nailed at college, she will wish she listened to you.
2006-06-23 10:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend will stand by your side no matter her/his feeling are. What is important is that you LISTEN to her. Be there for her when she is ready to talk to you about this. Maybe she would love to talk to you but because you are being so negative shes afraid. Do not tell her what she should or shouldn't do, all you can give her is advise from all angles and try not to be so hard about it.
2006-06-23 10:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to pray for her and be patient. Talk to her from a loving standpoint. pushing will make it worse.
We live in this age of easy sex and that it is ok, when it is not. He is actually commiting statutory rape and that is illegal. When he gets to college he will find the "Pool" much bigger and he will probably leave her alone with the damage done.
Be her friend and Pray. Keep talking to her!
2006-06-23 10:27:46 · answer #9 · answered by Angelus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you'll win any arguements by telling her it's wrong and immoral. if you're a Christian, then you should believe that there is only one judge, and it's not you. it's up to you to support your friend, go after it from a different angle - rather than discuss how wrong you believe it is, bring up the pregnancy, disease, cheater aspects of it.
2006-06-23 10:27:40 · answer #10 · answered by kc_brig 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋