2006-06-23 10:19:00 · 8 answers · asked by bigmommy240 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i get along with my mom more, but not so much my dad. he's a creep. you realize that they are people and that they can screw up just as much as you can. and that some things are unforgivable.
2006-06-23 10:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by JerseyBleu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initially, adult children are SO anxious to prove that they are competent, that they HIGHLY agitated by their parents good advice. They take all advice from the parent(s) as the parent telling them they are still naive and not smart enough to manage their life.
Now, parent, don't get in a huff, you mean well, but you've got to let go! Your little birdie can now fly on it's own. Your lessons are not longer wanted. They want you to butt out of their life decisions, and just hang in there for when they have time to visit with you as equals. Of course YOU know that they don't know all the stuff you do, but you can't tell them that...they'll almost hate you for it...so let go! Let them flounder and flail.
Now, YOUR job, is not really over, so don't go getting that empty nest feeling too strong, because they will need you again...uh, usually for a $ loan. Your new job is now First National Mom & Dad. Loans for no interest, or maybe even "grants". ...you might not see your loan $ back again. So don't loan it if you MUST have it back.
So, what to do? Get a new life. Go out with your friends, volunteer at church, become a BigBrother or BigSister mentor, get a part time job, TRAVEL !!!, Plant lots of roses, they require a lot of attention. Donate your time to an elderly neighbor. Get involved in the neighborhood associations. There is tons you can do to distract yourself from that sickening feeling that they don't care.
THEY DO CARE !!! But now, in a different way. They don't NEED you all the time, but they still do LOVE you as much as ever, maybe even more.
Now, be prepared for a little waiting period, before they really begin to appreciate you. It won't be until after they start having difficulties raising their own, and experience the amount of work and sacrifice it takes...THEN they will really begin to appreciate you A NEW, and more than ever before.
One other neat trick to get some appreciation/recognition. When you're asked to baby-sit be too busy in your first answer....
then of course, relent, because you really don't want to miss a chance to be with those precious grandchildren that will adore you even more than your children did at the same age.
And remember the neat part with the grandchildren, when ever you want, you get to leave and go home to peace and quiet. You don't have to count the years left out of 18+ until you'll get a moment to yourself (remember those times? ha ha ha ha)
Enjoy this time in your life to it's fullest
Don't sit home and feel blue, get out and Party!
stw
2006-06-23 17:42:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many of us don't get a long with parents, but I guess this is normal.U see out there teenagers getting a long with parents very rarely...I guess it's bcuz us teenagers feel like we know everything or that were old enough n we know how to handle situations all by ourselfs n we won't let our parents help us out n that's when complications come n we fight...
2006-06-23 17:25:46 · answer #3 · answered by mexi_girl02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as there is plenty of space for most of the time, then they get along fine
2006-06-23 17:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by akballer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so for the most part.
2006-06-23 17:24:22 · answer #5 · answered by Dusty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get on with them but I don't forgive them.
2006-06-23 17:22:16 · answer #6 · answered by ftmshk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't. I can't stand my parents.
2006-06-23 17:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do. They are my best friends.
2006-06-23 17:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by WiserAngel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋