Im in love with a guy who in only a friend we have discussed our situation and decided that just being friends is the best option for us right now. I just cant seem to move past the feelings for him that i have. How do i move on because im afraid if i dont learn to ignore or get rid of the feelings i have i may ruin the friendship?
2006-06-23 10:18:22 · 9 answers · asked by swthrt182986 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Moving on is never easy when u feel so strong about someone..the consolation is not so much that it will get easier over time but more that by doin what is right you might save yourself and others a whole of pain..
I know it is difficult but sometimes we have to do things which are emotionally painful bc they r the right thing to do.. in those cases you ave to literally force yourself to steer away from poor yet very strong feelings.. You need to move from being ruled by your feelings to being ruled by your mind..
This is not easy but with determination and with a goal in mind (for eg you want to move on and find some1 who will really love 100% or you dont want to destroy the friendship etc. )you stay focused and neva lose sight of this goal..
You also need to keep yourself busy with OTHER people bc initially it will be tooo tempting being around this person.. who knows.. u might meet ur true love in the process...
And lastly.. open up to ur loved ones.. ask them for support.. and in the process pray..that you get thur this and ave the courage to do wht u need to..
Best of luck..hope it all turns out good! email if u need any support
2006-06-23 10:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by Sugababy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow...it is rather hard to let go of feelings. Considering you can't just turn them on and off. I can honestly tell you I've been where you're at. The only answer is TIME... time will help you through this process. Also you will need to seperate yourself from him if you can't be around him without having these feelings. (which you can't) You're also gonna have to be honest with yourself and ask yourself if just being friends is good enough. We (women) so often find ourselves conforming to what works best for men ,neglecting what we really see as being the best option for us. Your biggest issue here is FEAR.. Fear of the unknown!!! Face your fears and just LET GO.... If he is suppose to be with you NOTHING can stop that... Don't worry about it, in the meantime Pray about learning to let go without bitterness or strife.
2006-06-23 17:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by T.B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you can't get rid of your feeling cuz if you do that you could become cold hearted. Having feeling is a good thing.
Your just goin to have to what until your ready to move on, and that one guy come in your life and sweep you off your feet.
but your friend and you may grow closer, but that's not a promise. Just when your around him just be yourself as w/ a friend. there's not much you can do. I'm sorry but you could ask my friend here's his e-mail address: djsam13@hotmail.com, he went through the same thing you did, with me. and we went out. but like i said it's not a promise that yall will grow closer than yall are now.
eskimo
2006-06-23 17:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by Eskimo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you right ya'll should stay friends its always to have close friends rather than goin out with him then ya'll end up breaking up then ya'll become eneimes... i kno its hard but once you fine somebody else that can take ya mind away from him u will be alright... that way you can have a man you care about and the friendship wit this "guy friend" won't turn out ugly !!
2006-06-23 17:25:16 · answer #4 · answered by sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will ruin the friendship. Find something to take your attention off the situation. Get a hobby (I suggest...Yoga!) and focus on your other friends for a while!
2006-06-23 17:20:28 · answer #5 · answered by yogazen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not in love; you just think you are. Love is forged between two people after years of struggle against the evils the world throws at them. Raise your head, raise your standards and move on.
2006-06-23 17:23:54 · answer #6 · answered by christopher s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DECIDE to. Decide means to cut off any other possibility of going back so look for other guys and every time you look at him just remind yourself that you can't be with him.
2006-06-23 17:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok,i've been in this situation its tough,what you need to do is to tell him in person that you can't get over the feelings and that your sorry your like this but you can't help it,i did that and it worked,best wishes.
2006-06-23 17:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just put one foot in front of the other.
2006-06-23 17:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋