is it normal if your boyfriend doesnt want to see you everyday?

Question

my boyfriend says he loves me very much, and i do feel that from him, but he says hes stressed at work and he wants to come home some days and just be by himself or be with his brothers and relax. i dont know what to feel about this?

Because personally, i would rather come home and relax with HIM if i was stressed. I thought people who love eachother want to see eachother all the time...?or at least everyday?

Answer 1

well i suggest that it is not the most obvious thing to do when a person is stressed, but youalso have to keep in mind that not all people are the same and that reactions so stress are different

I would like to reccomend that you go and plan a weekend getaway at a lake, resort, ocean/beach, or the woods

it will help him relieve his mind and body, and it will strengthen youre relationship

thank you,
eric d.

Answer 2

Didn't you post this earlier? Stop worrying! I'm telling you that you will scare him off if you push here. When a guy asks for his space, give it to him. You must be young, because when I was younger, I thought the very same thing. Until I got out in the working world. Sometimes it's just nice to come home and chill without talking to anyone, even someone who you love more than anything in the world. Don't you ever just come home and want to veg out in the bath tub? Or paint your nails? Or give yourself a facial? As long as he's not constantly dodging you, this is very normal and in fact, very very healthy for you to spend a little time apart. Be cool and give him the space he needs. If you do, he will appreciate it very much and show you that appreciation. Trust me on this! I've been there!

Answer 3

Abscence makes the heart grow fonder. Let him breathe, if you are together 24/7 you'll both become the others mirror and have nothing to offer the other. Everybody needs friends.
It is important to get to know each other, if you are planning to get married and actually grow old together.
He might also be getting comfy, thinking that he knows all there is to know. Add a little mystery, let him find out that he doesn't know all there is to know about you, be more unpredictable and don't always choose the safest route. This could make him curious of what you're up to, who you really are, what else he could be missing. Make him addicted enough and you'll be looking for ways to find time on your own. Do yourself the favor and read "Don't Shoot the Dog" (not really about dog training), you can train almost anything and anyone that breathes. Life is more satisfying and has less friction when everybody knows what is expected of them,

Answer 4

Not everyday. It depends on the kind of person your boyfriend is. Sometimes it's best to let each other have some personal time. Trust me, too much of anything is bad. If he's stressed out and wants to be alone for a while, that'll be good for him. If you trust him, and know he's being truthful (and not out partying somewhere), then it should be fine. It'll be better for your relationship if he can blow off some steam somewhere else. That way he doesn't take it out on you and you guys don't have to argue.
We girls have a different way of "blowing off steam". We like to communicate, be with someone, accompanied. Men are a bit different. They enjoy alone time. If they are deprived of this, some get freaked out and back away. So yeah, in some cases, it is normal.

Answer 5

It's actually fairly normal in some relationships....it's good to give each other a little bit of space so that you don't feel squashed up against each other. Only if he starts doing this a lot do you have to be really concerned, or if you hear from like his brothers that he's actually hanging out with a lot of other girls or something, but don't be too jealous because that will kill the relationship.

Answer 6

I am in the exact same situation.

Some people just need time alone, or time with their posse. It is very difficult to understand this, but it is perfectly normal for him to not want to spend every waking moment with you. It isn't because you are irritating, or because he doesn't love you, or because he loves somebody else.

However, if you don't give him his space, he might THEN decide that you are smothering him, and look for another woman.

If you are anything like me, you love this man so much, you have built your life around him. So, it hurts that much more when he is away.

Join the gym and make a weekly aerobics class part of your routine. Or, schedule a night out with your friends. If you say, "Oh, I haven't seen them for months because I've been spending time with my boyfriend" then we have a problem! You shouldn't neglect them. Make time for them. :)

Answer 7

Sometimes we feel that we need some time to ourselves. Most certainly he loves you, and he needs some family time. Otherwise, he might be doing it for the better. For me, I know that I don't want to see my boyfriend when I'm stressed because I get cranky. I just don't want to put my anger on him so I choose to stay home and relax before coming over to give some loving. Don't let it bother you. Seeing him everyday can lead to arguments. I know that for sure. Trust me.

Answer 8

That is absolutely normal for a lot of men! You have to remember that men and women are VERY different. Men tend to process their thoughts better on their own, women like to talk them out. If you let him have a break, he will come back to you refreshed, in a lot better mood, and happy that he has a girlfried that understands the importance of him retreating into his "man cave" now and then. Men typically like it when a woman needs them, but not when they are NEEDY about it. Just be confident in his love for you and know that hes not spending time alone because he doesnt like you or something. He just needs the time to turn off his brain, or work some things out in his head, or whatever.

Answer 9

First of all for every one who said that it's not normal and not to trust him. Don't listen to them..they're stalkers and a are probably single. Yes, it's very normal to want time apart. I'm not talking weeks or months for no reason, but a few days is O.K. You should try it. Absence makes the heart grow fonder!

Answer 10

Yeah, 9 times outa ten, it'd be nice to see my girlfriend after work. But some days i just need to have a beer.. invite a friend over the the place and just paintball some calves or go ballistic on my thai bag or go off roadin in my truck... just some stupid **** you can do holdin a beer with noone lookin for anything from you. I still love my GF(5 yrs been datin her), but **** if i'm gonna see her every day of my life, some days i need to be a dumbass guy and wreck stuff, spit, and just be redneck.

Answer 11

Are you kidding me??? Seeing each other everyday will lead for you two to get bored of each other very quickly, its best to see each other about 3-4 times a week so that you two won't get bored of each other and there will be lots more things for you two to do instead of hanging out at home all day not knowing what else there is left to do. People need space too, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with him not wanting to hang around you for a day or two, its just that he needs to be around his guy friends at times or he needs his own time by himself.