When you are dating, how do you know when you’ve found THE ONE?

Question

Fate. Destiny. Luck. Love at first sight. Call it what you will, but if that doesn’t happen, how do you determine if the person you are dating is the love of your life?

Answer 1

you would just know from the moment you saw this person and looked in their eyes and heard their voice

Answer 2

I have no idea, I'm not sure I've ever been in love. I guess I totally missed the boat, and I'm not even ugly either. It's like the ones who like me, I don't like, and the ones I like end up ditching me. Maybe someday it will work out, you never can tell. I will tell you this, though, the one time I experienced love at first sight, the guy died 2 months later of complications from an airplane accident. I was devistated, and fell into a depression for a year after that. Maybe after 24 years, I'm finally getting over it. It is really interesting how you can't control these things, they happen totally when you aren't expecting them to. I tell you this -being single is working splendidly, it's the one thing that can last indefinately, just learn to be happy with it. And remember the ones you loved who passed away, and others who you loved that didn't work out, try to remember the positive things. And move on to other things. I know I did. I don't think I even burst into tears at the thought anymore. That is real improvement, don't you think? I really think I have improved. Sensitive, artistic people have a hard time with life in general, they may hide it on the outside, but sometimes it takes a half a life time to get over some tragedy. Plus maybe I misenterpreted someone's not calling me back as a dump when actually their father died, but I thought they were lying and maybe they were, maybe I'll never know.
This was not a helpful answer I'm sure, well, sorry, it's coming from someone who has never been in a lasting relationship obviously. I guess I just messed up. So there you go.

Answer 3

Well.. I believe true love comes once in a lifetime....True love is a feeling that exceeds Trust in each other. Just being in the same room and getting quivers just by looks...being able to know what the other thinks or is gonna say...by the way...True love does not always happen the first time. When it happens one knows for sure. If I may, my true love died in an snowmobile accident over a year ago and saying I Love You to anyone else for me now is like cheating on him and wrong. I have started a new relationship with a wonderful person but, it is very hard to even come close to what was True Love for me. Yes, I was married and have had two children with the person I was married to for 20 years. He left and I eventually found the true love and lost him. so.. Live while you can enjoy life and do not ever settle for less than you know you want. Life is too short grab it while you can.

Answer 4

Love at First Sight is USUALLY Lust at First Sight... so, the first thing you have to do is ask yourself if you are attracted to the person because of their physical qualities or if it is other qualities that you cannot see or measure. If the answer to the question is: the other qualities... then it is probably only the BEGINNINGS of Love. True Love takes time to grow...and there is no way that you can rush it. You cannot know a person until you have spent time with that person and even then you have to be very careful. I've known people for years who have turned out to be total jerks after they have been put under the pressures of illness or financial problems. That is the reason why they used to have seven year engagements back in the old days. Believe me the only thing you feel at first sight is physical attraction.

Answer 5

Knowing that a person is "THE ONE" for me is when you feel like you can let your guard down open your book of life and let someone in. That best friend you have always wanted the one that completes your thoughts, your sentences, your dreams. Trust is just not a word you actually know without a shadow of a doubt that this person would never hurt you emotionally, physically,or mentally (on purpose). You know that they would never taunt your fears but laugh with you about them. This person will also be the one that somehow you feel like you have always had in your life little ironics and little almost clips of memory that seem like they have been there since the imaginary friend age. You can never remember your life before them. Wheather you have been together 1 day 1 week 1 year. you will just have a sense of securiy and familiar with them.
"THE ONE" will have different opinions and likes and dislikes than you and you won't feel the need to defend your ideas.
And you accept them for whom they are as they do you. There are many reasons how you know that a person is "THE ONE" and you will have to judge for yourself what that is. No one knows what another person feels or thinks so if you think it might be the one then for you it probably is. GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 6

There are no rules and absolute answers to this question! People are always looking for a perfect response to this question, but finding the "love of your life" is a lot more complicated than that! So, I'll give my two cents worth :) It has to do with the several following factors:

1. You are physically attracted to the person (includes the fact that you two are sexually compatible).

2. That you can stand to be with this person for long periods of time without wanting to douse yourself with gasoline. (When you are old and grey, there MUST be more than sexual attraction that you two have to get by on.

3. You two help each other grow. This may sound stupid to some, but I think it's vital to be with someone who nurtures you, your dreams, your passions and ambitions in life.

4. FAMILY! I think it's sooo important that the "love of your life" loves family; can laugh at the crazies in your family and have long chats with the "elders." It's not only a matter of respect, it shows depth and patience in a person.

Take it from me, (who dated the same man on and off for about 12 years before marrying him) that although fate, destiny and love at first sight may be what introduced you to the person, it is the above factors that help you truly discover whether you found THE ONE!

Best of luck,

M

Answer 7

Youll never know; you must accept the fact that you cant leave the person once you get married. If you do happen to marry/find the right person you should be completely compatible. Your interests should be the same with minor interests that are different, as you will need SOME time apart. When you are excited, in your heart to talk to or see that person then there is a good chance it is love but there is no way to know with out time. Just remember that all the fantasies from the past were fixed marriages and they had to LEARN to love each other where as now we choose who we should love and not love.

"A deep, tender, ineffable feeling of affection and solicitude toward a person, such as that arising from kinship, recognition of attractive qualities, or a sense of underlying oneness."

Answer 8

First of all, its kind of hard to say that fate and destiny won't take their courses, because in the end of it all, God is in control and his will is going to be done. However, when a person is "in the process of" realizing they love someone, its up to that person to decide how they feel. No one can ever tell another how they feel or should feel, but instead, Romeo, if you think with your heart, you will know.

-Is there a healthy infatuation with the person?
-Do you find yourself wanting to take care of this person?
-How far are you willing to go to help the person and keep the person safe?

Again, I cant tell you how to feel, but once you start putting the other first, and you want the other to be happy before you are happy, then you should know. You should know whenever this statement becomes a true statement: I would die for this person, not only because I love them, but because they make this Earth a better place to live; they don't deserve to be taken away.
Love is what you make of it, so make it something amazing.
Happy Dating.

Answer 9

I can tell you one thing I had love at first sight even though it's not with the person that I currently live with. But I could tell that there was something there. You know it's true love or you know that you have found the one when you know there is something in their eyes even though they don't want to admit it and you share the same feelings and have had the same experiences. That's what happened with this other person even though we both know that there is something there but we don't know if there will ever be a future for us. It's pretty sad. Hope you have way better luck than I have!!!

Answer 10

When you are dating, it is dating, period. It is new and exciting, sex is hot (when you get to that point), all of your stories are new and funny, and both parties are on their best behavior. A spark is created, and you go on from there. Keeping that spark is the part that takes a lifetime. I went out with my husband because he (a) was cute and had awesome shoulders (b) I thought he was full of crap, but could be fun for a week or so (c) seemed harmelss enough and knew mutual friends. I kept seeing him because he was and still is the softest hearted person I ever met, smart, good crazy, stubborn, a pain in the ***, makes life fun, and has a much better opinion of me than I do. So, attraction at first, and then, a gut feeling of real peace and happiness is why 15 years later, here I am still with the cute guy with the awesome shoulders, big heart (and mouth). He turned out to be everything I hoped he would be but couldn't really know (best friend, confidante, love-struck father to 2 kids, and still my biggest fan. I love him more than I love myself, because he loves me and the kids more than he loves himself, all the time, in every thing he does. Life can be so hard, so be sure to really share it with a good person who can take what comes and roll with the punches.

Answer 11

Yes, when you meet a person, and it just flows into place, that could be the 'right one'. You just become a part of the whole phenomenon of thinking that this one particular person is the all in all. The feeling of oneness prevails, even though you are two people. And, finally, the ability to almost merge into one another and read each others thoughts is another experience that only happens with that special someone. Yes, it is something that is destined and almost impossible to alter. It's the elixir that stirs within the soul of a poet, or artist. It's the invisible bond that ties two people's hearts together. It's love....