The other night my girl and I went out to a club. There was a group of guys at a table behind us, and one called out my girlfriends name. She looked over and he said "Thanks for last night Lisa". Then the other guys at the table all started laughing and high fiving eachother. I asked her what that was supposed to mean, and she told me she had no idea who the guys were. Then we went to another club and she went to the bathroom- I looked around the corner and she was hugging some guy. When I asked her about that, she said it was her cousin who she hadn't seen in 10 years. I think we have a great relationship- we see each other 3 times a week, and up until now I haven't had any reason to doubt her. I'm going to ask her to marry me this weekend, and just wanted to make sure that I'm just being paranoid worrying about stuff.
2006-06-23 10:00:38 · 49 answers · asked by kingofnewport 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do not ask that girl to marry you. She is obviously screwing around behind your back. Why didn't she introduce you to her "cosin." How did those guys know her name?
She is a whore. Ditch her now.
2006-06-23 10:04:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all if you're suspicious or paranoid right now I would definitely hold off on the proposal. About hugging that guy yeah maybe it's her cousin but then why didn't she introduce you to him? And about the guys at the table if she didn't know them at all then how did they know her name? I'm sorry but that's just way too suspicious. Did you tell her it was bothering you? If you're thinking that she cheated on you then you should just ask her straight up if she did or not. Being caught off guard is the best way because you can tell if she's lying by her response. If she didn't she'll be kind of defensive and confused. If she did she might say no right away but it will take her a while to think of anything else.
2006-06-23 10:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude but if all this stuff happened and you marry her without an anwser than your dumb. Why didn't she let you meet her cousin? I would not just pass it off and think thats its nothing. Whats gonna happen 5 years down the road when your married and have kids together and then you find out the whole time she has been living a secret life. I would hire someone to follow her when your not with her. The worst that could happen is you find something out that you didn't want to be true, but at least then you have the truth. If nothing happens and she's not doing anything than ask her to marry you then and go from there. She will never have to know that you hired a P.I. to follow her. Just think if nothing else and she is doing something wrong than you will know before its too late. Hope everything works out.
2006-06-23 10:13:12 · answer #3 · answered by butterfly71086 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please wait before asking her to marry you. That is a big step and a lot of commitment. If there is ANY doubt in your mind about ANYTHING, I would say now is not the right time. You need to find a way to try to get her to open up to you on her own. That way you will know what the heck is going on and she won't feel that you don't trust her. If she feels like you don't trust her, she will just distant herself from you little by little. This might sound silly to you, but maybe after sex you both could just lay there and talk all night. I bet that if you bring up the right topics and she is in the right mood, she will open up. I don't know why, but I think women tend to feel more safe and secure after sex because of the closeness you just shared. Talk about alot of different things and try to stear the conversation into what you want to find out. If something is going on, try to be understanding about it. Women do things for a reason, and it might not be to hurt you in any way. If you just try to understand how she is feeling, it will take you a long way. Good Luck to you, hope everything works out..... they always do. :)
2006-06-23 10:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by megmb3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have doubts, I wouldn't propose. Marriage is sacred and bonding and can be expensive and messy to get out of. Be more aware of her behavior. Both examples sound a little suspicious. She is probably being honest with you but if you have doubts, they may be warranted. Wait and see, maybe even discuss these issues with her. Did she introduce her cousin to you? It is awfully weird that those guys at the club knew her name. I know talking to her may be awkward but approach it delicately. You deserve an answer and it's the only way to be sure.
2006-06-23 10:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by Peace2All 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a great relationship if you don't have trust. You need to think about whether or not she is acting out of the ordinary, even behaviors like when she showers or dressing up a little more, doing hair and make up more. And sometimes men are worried about their girls cheating because the though has entered their heads. Are people around you constantly insisting that something is going on. All things to ponder before ruining your relationship or continuing to let your girl ruin it.
2006-06-23 10:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by rstar7606457 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well the guys behind you were jsut trying to be jerks and lie to you. Maybe she was right about it being her cousin but it seems a lil weird that all of sudden he was at the bar. I suggest just continue with the marriage but when u asked who taht was if she had a weird tone of voice then it prob someone else
2006-06-23 10:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep an eye on her. Don't stalk but like if she is going out somewhere ask here where. Then 'spontaneously' show up there. Have some flowers just so she doesn't become suspicious of you spying on her.
Or just don't do anything, ask her to marry you.
2006-06-23 10:05:07 · answer #8 · answered by sweetsugakb24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to tap the brakes on the marriage proposal. Sounds like she might be messing around on you. Date her for a year or so more. If she is messing around you will find out. I had a girlfriend to it to me and one night at dinner her son just blurted out that her (I thought) ex-boyfriend had spent the night a few night earlier. If she is cheating on you, it will come to light. Better to just be dating her than married to her if it is true.
2006-06-23 10:06:09 · answer #9 · answered by dwcofer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is deff. doing something she sint supposed to... She might be a stripper at clubs where you guys live... Or she's a stripper and she does other things like sexual favor's to make some more money... Dont marry her... You need to investigate into this a little more and see where she goes at night... Follow her one night and see what shes doing...
2006-06-23 10:06:08 · answer #10 · answered by Krystle T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If those are the first incidents ever throughout your whole relationship with her, then I think that you are being paranoid about the 'weekend', we all want to be sure, right! But, never second guess your gut feeling on things either. Congrats on your engagement!
2006-06-23 10:05:40 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋