2006-06-23 09:43:54 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
you cannot help someone if they dont want help. I was engaged to someone for 2 years and his life revolved around drugs. I wanted to help him but he preferred that lifestyle. I eventually got sick of it and left him. Me leaving him and other issues that happened caused him to wake up and realize that he was going down the wrong road. The friends he was hanging out with did not help anything either. They were all about drugs, using and selling. Sometime you eventually have to give up...you can only try so hard..and if they dont want help, you cant force them to do it. Does his parents know? If they want the same thing you do and he is under 18, they may be able to admit him somewhere for treatment. Stand by him and keep fighting as long as you can or until you dont want to anymore. Then throw in the towel and sit back and watch it unfold. For some, its a phaze they go through...for others, it becomes a passion. Just hope he is one that will realize in the end that he is only headed for trouble....or worse. Teach him everything you can without making him feel like you are trying to control him. He may say you are anyway, but deep down he knows better. Show him the consequences....have people talk to him that has lost someone to drugs, or someone that lost their "life" to drugs and no sit at a dead end road. I wish you all the luck in the world...this a battle that is never easy to win....or keep fighting.
2006-06-23 09:53:22 · answer #1 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I tried to help my girlfriend and she chose the drugs and kicked me the hell out of her house at 2:30 in the morning. That was 6 months ago and I havent heard from her since. So I have no idea what to tell you. Do alot of thinking though before you do anything. And I would say when you do say something make sure he is sober and clean and not hi. That would probably be the worse time to approach him. Maybe even get a family member to help back you up.
2006-06-23 16:49:23 · answer #2 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the worst thing you can do is try to help him! He has to want to help himself. If you come between him and his drugs(assuming that he wants them)can create really bad fights.You will end up getting really hurt. Unfortunately you have to either boot him out or accept his habits. I think a loving and accepting aproach will work best. trying to save him might only make him worse. Tread carefully.
Much luck!
2006-06-23 16:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by Bern_CH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help him until he is ready to help himself. I tried for alot of years to get my ex-husband to stop drugs. All it got me was alot of beatings. He finally succeded in killing himself with a drug overdose leaving behind 2 young children. ONe who has alot of problems now. What you can do is take care of yourself and remember no matter how much u love him try to find a way to care about yourself. I don't know if I have found that way today but i try to get up each morning telling myself that something will make me smile today. It doesn't always happen but I have to believe in something.
2006-06-23 16:49:30 · answer #4 · answered by confused/hurt/angry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out now before you waste your time and love in a relationship such as this. Its not your job to make sure he gets clean. Im sure you deserve so much better. Drugs are not good, and do not belong in a relationship.
2006-06-23 16:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by psychstudent 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get help. If he won't, get away from him. Find another boyfriend that will stay clean. You don't want a drug addict to be in your life, so leave him.
2006-06-23 16:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by cucumberlarry1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want help then there is nothing you can do. If you threaten him he will do it behind your back. So the only way is to let him know how bad it is for him and try to convince him to go to rehab.
2006-06-23 16:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, you can find some very helpful information here
http://www.drugfree.org/Teen/
Maybe next time he comes over to your house, just *happen* to be reading that page. I think he will get the message that you care.
Best wishes.
2006-06-23 16:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to want help. you need to decide if the man for you does drugs. if not, get out now
2006-06-23 16:46:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all your boyfriend has to want to help himself, work on that angle and give him plenty of loving support.
2006-06-23 16:48:45 · answer #10 · answered by bad dog 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋