I am a half-white/half-hispanic male with a white girlfriend. My facial features don't give my hispanic side away, but my skin tone does. Her dad supports us, but her mom is trying in all her power to keep her daughter as far away from me as possible. We are both 19, by the way. I find it unfair that her mom forbids her to date anyone that isn't white. She boasts loudly of high family violence rates in biracial marriages (I have tried to research this, and I have found nothing to support that , allegedly, 85% of Hispanic males beat their White partners). Her problem is mostly of "racial purity", as she stated that I could treat her daughter like gold (which i do), and she still would not approve. I, however, can not speak a lick of Spanish, and have no ties to the culture whatsoever, and I don't identify myself with a race other than "human". I am starting a journalism project about this, and I want your opinions on biracial relationships. My opinion? Your skin is not your brain.
2006-06-23 09:35:31 · 11 answers · asked by jlnajera 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Both my brother and I are in bi-racial relationships. We are white. Are partners are Mexican. When my brother first started dating her, my Dad was hugely upset. It wasn't until the birth of his first grandchild that my Father let his feelings go, and embraced the relationship.
I also have an aunt and two uncles in bi-racial relationships. There is no problem in the family with it. I guess we all just love Mexicans!
2006-06-23 09:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by WEIRDRELATIVES 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a son just like you. In my opinion, what counts is the culture, not the color. If you were both raised similarly, then you have a chance. When races don't mix is when their cultures, values, and beliefs don't mix, which is true even with people of the same color. Her mother is dead wrong. The only time racial purity ever mattered was when the jews had to keep their blood line clean and intact - and that was so the messiah could be traced. Even then, Jesus has many, many different races in His background - which proves we're all the same.
I was in one of those mixed marriages. My ex was an alcoholic and he was abusive. That doesn't mean my son will be that way. My son looks white, but has mexican blood. He's American, just like his girlfriend. Even my blood line includes different races - German, French, Irish, Scottish, Indian, and others. I'd be willing to bet money your girlfriend's mom has a very varied background as well.
2006-06-23 16:44:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You would think that this day and age issues like that wouldn't be a problem...but they do exist. I am Hispanic and I have dated outside my "race" it does come with some challenges besides the normal relationship ones. But your both legal and I don't think her mom has any business in telling whom she should date. Now with this if she still lives under the parents roof...well unfortunately she has to follow orders. The color of ones skin shouldn't be a factor, but sadly enough we still have people that are closed minded and old fashion.
2006-06-23 16:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by brina27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe she is just jealous that her daughter is living her ut most fantisy. As for biracial relationship I have them all the time, like you said skin is not your brain. People need to get over these little things and worry about what the world is going to come to with this war. Weather its biracial relationships or same sex, it doesn't matter. People deserve to be happy no matter in who they find it in. My fav saying and which you should tell her mom is to build a bridge and get over it. Just be happy that you aren't a part of the supposed 85% who beat their women.
2006-06-23 16:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by sexzbich 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. Since your both 19 you are legal. Neither one of you need parent's approval. Ironically enough it seems that her mom is going to end up ruining the relationship that she has with her daughter. Since her dad supports you two, talk to him and see what he will do to help you out.
Lots of luck!!
2006-06-23 16:39:04 · answer #5 · answered by jthoms9800 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont see color when i meet people..i see the person,my sister married a black man had a baby....theyre divorced now,many years,i love my nephew because hes my nephew, its too bad people judge by COLOR,usually its because theyre full of fear,or learned behavior..i too am proud to be part of the human race,it sounds like the mom has some identity issues
2006-06-23 16:43:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
to me skin color dont matter. im hispanic and anyone who has a problem with it get a boot to the face!
2006-06-23 16:40:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who are closed-minded enough to try to put limits on love aren't worth your time anyways.
2006-06-23 16:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Not Allie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, i woudl have to say that interracial relationships are just like any other relationships. some people say that it's a bad thing, but i really don't think so.
2006-06-23 22:00:42 · answer #9 · answered by colorfulharp233 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't care what nationality you are or color if there is chemistry between you both then that's all that matters
2006-06-23 16:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by cutiepie81289 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋