2006-06-23 09:34:36 · 5 answers · asked by jonahma 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
When I separate the person from who they are, i.e. a body part, that person has an incredible bottom, or they are hot, I am separating the person from who they are to how they appear/look. I am also idealizing who they are based on the objectification of their body, i.e., because that person is hot, I would like to get to know them, or somehow they are appealing emotionally mentally because they are hot. As I am objectifying, lust shows itself in fantasy. What would I like, what would I like to do with and to them. So I would say when the idealized picture of this person is replaced with reality, IE., who they really are. You can accept and be willing to see past faults, issues, problems because Love carries no jealousy, love doesn't judge, love don't do anything for self gratitude, love gives unconditionally, love is trust, love is respect, love is truth!
2006-06-29 01:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is based on our own percieved reality, which means everyones definition of love is never going to be the same. And it also depends on what context you use it:
1. Love: as in 'you love food' is related to 'like'
2. Love: as in 'making love' is related to 'sex'.
However, we confuse love with lust sometimes because love is not based on feelings. Love based on another person's feelings and what they feel. If we love someone because we feel loved, this is not love, and is a selfish form of lust for one's own use. But if we love another, regardless of our own feelings, this is true love.
Infatuation, again is not love, because it is primarily stimulating the primitive form side of humans and is self-centred.
Contrary to beliefs, love is controllable. We control our feelings, and thus we can control our love. We don't 'fall in love' or 'see love at first sight' because this an uncontrolled love or infatuation. We control our feelings, our feelings don't control us.
I would define love as being totally selfless, doing something for someone else rgardless of your own feelings, letting go in spite of yourself, not boasting or being proud. My definition of love is putting someone else's life before your own.
In this way, real love won't actually feel like 'love'. I have a girlfriend who lives a long distance from me. Each time we see each other, it is special, but we don't have it too many times. Last week, i was going to see her. But she rang me up and asked me if we could postpone it for later because she had old friends come back from Europe. In this way, i said yes because i loved her, because i let her go in spite of my feelings, but inside, my feelings were that i felt like ****.
Don't confuse all the different definitions of love. Our society has many. Think about this definition of love for me:
"Love is like a rainbow. It takes both rain and sunshine to make one"
2006-06-23 17:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
love-is when there is more than a physical attraction its more on a spiritual want to be with for the rest of my life feeling.
Lust-its a hookup once or twice and its purely sexual in nature with no hopes of moving forward.
Infatuation-guy or girl keeps telling you no and it makes you want them more, also stalking
2006-06-23 16:38:55 · answer #3 · answered by irishfan46241 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't define LOVE...thats the beauty of it!
2006-06-23 16:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by jdelgado120 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love = emotional
lust = biological
infatuation = psychological
2006-06-23 18:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by genaddt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋