I have 8 kids. The oldest is a !0yr old girl, the next is an 8yr old boy with ADD, a 7yr old girl, a 5yr old girl, a 4yr old girl, a 2 yr old, and the last two are twin boys and they are 3 months old. The older 5 fight all the time and they never get along. I have tried to dicipline them many different ways and they still wont get along. They also never listen to me or their father. They always get into trouble and when we get on to them they still go and do it again. We have tried everything from standing inthe corner to being grounded to spankings and nothing seems to work. It is hard especially with my oldest boy having ADD and then having to deal with the twins. I feel like I am doing nothing but getting on to them none stop every day all day. Is there any suggestion out there that can help? I am at the end of my rope.
2006-06-23 09:32:00 · 18 answers · asked by motheroftwinboys_9 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
my first goal would be get some solitude for myself right away.. find someone you trust to keep them safe for a few hours and use that time to plan and seek help mentally and relax alittle its easier to make discisions when your head is clearer .. sounds like you need to step back and make a plan.. and there father has to do the same.. you have to be consistant and a team on all things infront of the kids.. then meet privately about discrepancys you may have with each other .. i had two and trust me you will preach and teach and spank and revoke privalages till God only knows when.. but dont give up.. th eday they come to you and thank you makes all the pain go away.. some a.d.d ppl need to get off junk food and sugar it helps a great deal to not even bring it home.. caffine and sugar is poison to the ADD person. take a deep breath and pray ... cry if you need to.. then strap on your belt and your smile and know that you do them a good service to drive the rebellion far from themProverbs 22:15 ¶Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him.
2006-06-23 09:42:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good grief people...she didn't say she couldn't feed her children, and was here to ask about obtaining government assistance. She has a discipline question, so why are you judging her??
I would say do what one of the other posters said and start with the oldest (your 10 year old daughter). She knows better than to behave like this. With such young babies, I'm sure you're stressed out enough as it is without having to deal with your older kids picking fights when they know better. Threaten them...threaten to take away toys, ground them, etc. The key is...if they continue to misbehave, you have to follow through with your threats...don't just make idle ones. Then your kids, when you tell them you're taking away TV for a week, will be like, "Yeah right...you said that last week" as they run into the livingroom to watch cartoons.
2006-06-23 09:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a million. constantly punish flippantly, on no account out of anger or frustration. 2. constantly clarify what they have carried out incorrect, why it rather is incorrect, the thank you to act in comparable circumstances, and so on. 3. shop on with by way of with punishment for the undesirable habit. 4. Spanking is between the main useful punishment techniques. it would constantly be carried out with an enforce rather than the hand because of the fact a mothers and fathers' palms ought to furnish love and convenience, no longer reason discomfort. After age 5 or 6 spanking must be on the bare backside. The spanking ought to reason discomfort yet no longer harm, and should no longer stop until the new child is crying genuine tears.
2016-10-31 09:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that must be soo hard for you with that many children why dont u speak to some 1 surely some 1 could help u maybe give u a break from the twins ( maybe a family member or babysitter to help u have a little time with the other children and maybe they are just craving for attention ?
2006-06-23 09:40:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dicipline, what do you know about dicipline if you had 8 kids in 10 years. You have no time for dicipline if you can't get off your back!
2006-06-23 09:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by Olive Green Eyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a teacher and I have to deal with 5 groups of kids weekly (each group does have 30-32 kids). First of all, do not spank or hit them, just talk with them and take it easy. If they do not listen to you, just take away things they like (PlayStations, Xboxes, bicycles, ATV's, etc.) and they will listen, it works for me. Good luck
2006-06-23 09:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by sammydavidjr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get Maria from the sound of music!!!!
Actually, you have to do one at a time. If you can capture and make the oldest one listen to you, the rest should be easy..
Don't do all at the same time!
2006-06-23 09:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SUPER NANNY!!!!! I don't know if you've ever seen it or heard of it. It's a reality show about this very experience nanny named Jo Frost. Jo is a very sweet lady from Britain, and shapes all the kids on the show up. She also helps the parents on their parenting. Here's the website to apply for it: http://www.supernanny.net/
I hope things work out for you well. God bless.
2006-06-23 09:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say u should try and get at least 1 to do what there told then give them a prize 4 doing it . and the others will follow
2006-06-23 09:39:03 · answer #9 · answered by Jenny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat thier behinds they arent the parents
2006-06-23 09:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋