I like this lad, but the problem is that we are friends, and I don't want to ruin the friendship,!?

Answer 1

Starting from ideas of friendship: friendship could be about sharing, truth, honesty and some form of emotional context that binds you. Sharing feelings and emotions is a powerful moment and ability, but this can be weakened if the other person doesn't feel the same way you do. Is this person in a realtionship already or seeking one? What have your friends noticed or discussed with you regarding this issue? The burning question I could ask is 'Why now do you feel you want a more than a friend relationship with this person?' Has something changed for this idea to exist, if so what is it?

Ultimately you have the choice, if they are a true friend they will stay friends with you dispite what you ask or reveal. You'll never know anything unless you ask!

I wish you the best of luck, think about the questions above, they'll help you navigate through this and secure concrete ideas for your decision.

Answer 2

if you really like this lad you will be patient enough to wait and let things develop naturally. It takes a lifetime to develop a friendship and just a minute to ruin it, so have that in mind when you are deciding your next step. Good things are worth waiting for and trust me the rewards of waiting are far much better than those you get from rushing into things. lasting relationships are those that develop from friendships, if there is chemistry between you guys then go for it but be very calculating about the way you go about it coz you wouldn't want to lose a friend during the process.

Answer 3

Geez, why do women always do/say this? In my experience, male-female friendships tend to be enhanced by seeing each other naked rather than ruined. Every girlfriend I've ever had was a friend first, and I'm still friends with all of them to this day. My wife and I are best friends, and neither of us understands how any person could ever date someone who isn't a good friend. What is a friend but someone who you admire, respect, appreciate, have fun with, love, and trust? Wouldn't you want all that in a boyfriend? Isn't that why you want to turn your lad into your boyfriend?

I say go for it, and good luck!

Answer 4

I speak from experience, if you aren't 100% sure that this is what you both want then don't even try it. I ruined a friendship with a mate of mine cos i just flirted too much, feeling was most certainly not mutual and now probably thinks i'm a freak. Friends is better than nothing. :)

Hope that helps, ps- controlling your emotions is not easy, so don't beat yourself up about it

Answer 5

I know how u feel i recently; was going though the same thing. But once i told him how i felt he was okay with that and we are closer then ever before. I don't think liking your friend will ruin your friendship. People say that best friends should never date but that is the person that knows you and you know them so i would say go for it f uyou really like him and he likes you.

Answer 6

Friendship may be the first step... Go on slowly, but try to go up second step... Speak about the possibility and wait the reaction...If your are true friend there is comprehension and you will not ruin the friendship.

Answer 7

the best way to deal with this is either try and get someone else to find out on the sly what he would think about it. if you can get a guy friend to ask him it's better because he won't suspect anything if one of his buddies asks him, it's general guy talk. or you could just be honest say you like him but if he doesn't like you you're perfectly fine continuing the friendship and he wont have to deal with you liking him again unless he brings it up.

Answer 8

Instead of telling him try this if it helps
Hint your intentions by getsure eg-
1. Pay more interest in his hobbies, find out what he likes
2. use any advantage like birth days, valantimes day, x- mas a bank holiday - spend more time with him
3. Be more friendly by ging him compliments, gifts, thanking him for something.
4. Try a sneaky approach get his friend to tell him by means of saying "I think she has a crush on you"
5. If nothing works its always worth praying for it, might never know god might help you if you ask him.

Answer 9

If you truly feel persuing romance would ruin the friendship, then don't do it. Good friends are a treasure. Lovers come and go.

Answer 10

Friendship is a great basis for a relationship. You may find that this is the best relationship you have ever had. Talk it over with him and see what he thinks.