how hard do you spank?

Answer 1

~Much harder when she's on top.

Answer 2

First I think you should try other forms of discipline & if they don't seem to be working then spank. So many people think that spanking is wrong but have you looked at the kids in the world today. Hello?!...They should've been spanked! You spank because you love your kids & you want to teach them that there are consequences. Never spank when angry. Three swats is usually the norm. & I don't think it has to be very hard. I'm 35 yrs old now & when I was a child I was spanked. Not beaten, simply spanked & told why I was getting the spanking (so what if I just beat my cousin with a stick or shot my friend between the eyes with my new bb gun). Imagine what I wouldve done if I hadn't gotten a spanking for these things! lol... If my parents had've been the passive type to try to just "talk" me into being good or gave me a time out...trust me...that wouldn't have worked. My parents raised a very loving, kind, & gentle adult. I think they did a wonderful job with me. THEY were the parents. Nowadays you dont know who the parents are...is it the adults or the children? The Bible says to teach your child in the way that he should go and when he is old he wont depart from it. Is anyone teaching their kids anymore? Don't be ashamed of trying to raise your child into a happy, healthy adulthood.

Answer 3

While I am a firm believer in not spanking, there are those who do, and I was spanked when I was a child. I would like to first say that it is illegal and considered child abuse to spank a child under the age of 2. After that, if you MUST spank.. it should be open palmed, always on the rear and it should NEVER leave a mark. If you're leaving a mark, then you're spanking too hard. ALSO.. never on bare skin. But there are better alternatives to spanking.

Answer 4

I spank hard enough for them to feel it, but not so hard that it still hurts ten minutes later. I only spank on the bottom and only one time (as opposed to swatting them over and over). ALWAYS do it out of love in an effort to correct them, NEVER out of anger. Also, it should always be followed by a couple minutes of hugs and TLC so that they understand why you did what you did and they understand what they did. My daughter gets spanked once in a while, like once/week at the most. Every child is different.

Answer 5

I don't agree at all with people who say it is wrong to spank children.... there's a difference between spanking and abuse. I've had and seen both. I was spanked as a child.. and i turned out great. We only spank our girls if they have done something serious. usually we sit them in a corner. but you should spank to the point that they know you mean it. So, firmly but not roughly.

Answer 6

You should never, EVER spank a child.

Just think about it - how would you like to be hit by someone so much bigger and stronger than you? How would that make you feel?

A much more effective discipline technique is constant coaching - talk to your child about behavior that is and is not appropriate, model appropriate behavior yourself, be consistent and show that there are consequences when behavior is inappropriate.

For example, rather than hitting a child that is hitting another child (which boggles my mind - how could you possibly teach a child that it is not okay to hit someone else by hitting the child?!), separate the two children, tell the hitter that we do not hit others, require the hitter to apologize then monitor the behavior. If it continues, end the play date - show that there are negative (though not corporal) consequences for inappropriate behavior. That teaches a lesson, spanking only teaches fear. It's short term, it's lazy and it's just plain wrong. Any parenting expert or pediatrician would agree.

Answer 7

I usually spank hard enough to get their attention, and let them know that they are in real trouble. There is a difference between discipline and abuse, and if your asking this-your not abusing your children. The pansies who say "never" spank, either A. Do not have kids or B. should start preparing for visits to the penitentiary because they never taught their children that there are consequences to their actions.
Too many parents are too concerned with being their child's friend instead of being a parent. Your kids have enough friends...they NEED SOMEONE to teach them right from wrong and impose punishment when they don't follow the rules. When they become adults and get in trouble for something, the judge and DA aren't gonna take away their favorite toy for 10 minutes-they're gonna send them to their room-a CELL.
No one wants to be responsible...if kids grow up and get in trouble, its always the parents fault anyway, either for no discipline or because we BEAT them....
Do what you feel is right, and hope for the best..Good luck!!

Answer 8

A new law was just passed for North America not that long ago stating that you may spank your children between the age of 2 - 5 so long as no marks are left on the children (including redness) and the child may only feel the "spanking" as a warning. "Light tap" is how they prefered to describe it. .... does that help?

Answer 9

I always make sure that I'm not angry before I spank and I only give 3 swats. It sounds like you are feeling guilty. Just make sure that you spank with love. I always talk to my children before spanking to let them know why they are being spanked. I hope that this helps.

Answer 10

I dont spank(i dont have kids im 14) but this piece of advice has stuck with me
"Spanking kids is supposed to cause temporary pain-NOT damage"

I fyour kids can't sit down /go to the doctor youve crossed the line.

Answer 11

Not very hard, just hard enough that they won't do it again. It's better to lightly pop the hands so they understand.Remember these are children and you don't want to hurt them however angry you may be. But also try other methods such as time out and use spanking as a last resort.