ive been dating my boyfriend for a few weeks, and i find myself falling for him.. things are ok, but i think im puting more into this relationship than he is.. am i wasting my time?
2006-06-23 09:27:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
probably.... i have a problem with that myself.... i think its that with every new bad-boy boyfriend, i feel like its a challenge, like, maybe he will want to change for me... because im the one.... its not true, and its foolish....
i wish i could give you an easy way out, but unfortunately i cant. i'm finally out of that phase, thank God! But i know this, the reason i cant give you a list of ways to change is because you have to learn the hard way....it will make you appreciate your good guy some day so much more, and it will make you wise....
good luck, be strong! remember, actions speak louder than words, it you hear things from more than 2 random people, it's probably true, and don't beleive everything you hear.... our parents were right about one thing - guys will say ANYTHING!
2006-06-23 09:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by Whitney 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
From what u asked i can only guess that it's not a 50/50 relationship. Have you spoken to him about how you feel? Do you feel that his feelings aren't as apparent as his are? It doesn't always mean that he dont feel the same. Maybe he doesn't express himself in the same way that you do.
Don't feel that he has anything to prove-- just be yourself and try not to over compensate for his lack of interest. He will always be that way so rightly or wrongly that is the way he is -- so either like it or go find someone else
2006-06-23 09:37:20 · answer #2 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok... at the start might i say that it rather is merely my opinion and that as i do no longer understand him i won't be in a position to truly decide. additionally as i'm a guy, i comprehend many friends that have carried out simular. With that for the time of concepts he sounds like a dick, a participant, somebody no longer worth of it sluggish. he gave you some hours of 'interest' the comparable as he in all probability does with many many women folk each week. To be frank (and im no longer being a nob) tho this might verify to you, to him (in all probability) it potential no longer something. merely something to maintain him entertained untill somebody knew got here alongside. he's retaining you candy so which you're able to do it returned if its a quiet month for him. His pal is being honest: 'he mate will say, he doesnt think of he's as busy as he makes out and is calling out incredibly some those different women' He (the pal) must be the only you confer with, he must be the stunning one :) All in each and all the guy isn't worth of it sluggish. it won't in any respect replace and it sluggish and power may be greater effective spent looking somebody new. adult men may be creul and for that im sorry, yet there are stunning ones obtainable, merely hunt greater. Be stable. stable success and shop smiling, even however confusing it gets.
2016-10-31 09:00:58 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask yourself why you dont think you are good enough for the right kind of guy for you. Then figure out what the right kind of guy is. Then find him. Maybe the wrong kind of guy allows you to have a relationship yet not be close in that relationshiip and when it goes wrong its all his fault alllowing you to be the heartbroken victim yet again.
2006-06-23 09:30:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sis told me that if a woman likes a man, she always gets her hopes up (too high). If you feel under appreciated, dump him for a more submissive guy. But would you love a wimp as much? Us guys are basically lazier than women. Our mothers did too good a job of looking after us and as a result, we subconciously learn to expect the woman in our life to put in the same effort. GENTLY coax it out of him. If this doesn't work, look for a guy who will appreciate the effort you're willing to put in.
2006-06-23 09:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are putting more in than him you're better out of it honey. Relationships are about give and take not you doing all the giving and him doing all the taking.
Give it some thought.
Good luck sweetie.
2006-06-23 10:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in all honesty... make a list of what you NEED in life, and in a relationship... not what you WANT...
Then start looking for that in the guys that don't hit on you (and everyone else) look for it in how they conduct their daily lives... ditch the superficial and go for whats important.... then take it slow, realize that everyone has faults, figure out which ones are relationship breakers and which ones you can deal with...
finally, when you land him, dont screw it up... dont look for greener pastures, try and find things to appreciate in your own backyard...
just my 2 worthless cents.
2006-06-23 09:38:21 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U beta revise yo criteria wen choosin a man en dont thru them away due to love at first sight.
- falling in love with wrong guys imply that yo also wrong in some sense.
- still with yo criteria u can avoid everything. avoid adveture.
2006-06-23 09:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by christian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i doubt it, guys don't act the same way as girls. Most guys aren't going to be calling you and hugging you and acting all giddy when you're around but he might still care for you alot. Most guys are emmotional introverts and most girls emmotional extroverts. it's annoying but that's the way it is. don't judge his feelings too quickly.
2006-06-23 09:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by bryanocarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it's only been two weeks honey.Take your time what is the rush.Have fun.
2006-06-23 09:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋