how do i tell my dad to stop yelling at me when i screw up (i do that alot) and that it hurts me?

Question

avice from anyone who has it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!111

Answer 1

Just to let you know.. Parents tend to do that a lot when your growing up, because they love you and don't want you to have a hard life. Your dad probably does that because he wants you to grow up to be a responsible, outstanding human being. If it hurts you let him know what you feel, and he will understand... He has to when you tell him how you honestly feel, let him know you are a kid and your not perfect! Tell him you out of all people deserve RESPECT!!!

Answer 2

I think the best way to handle it is to start recording what goes on in your house on hidden CD or tape recorder. You will just have to continue until your dad creates a good example. After you have recorded your dad's yelling, write him a letter about how upset you feel when he yells at you. He is probably unaware of it, but if he IS aware of it, he probably is unable to control himself. There is something else going on in his life which disturbs him ; this is not your fault and you shouldn't have to be hurt by it. What you didn't mention was your mom. If your mom is at home when the yelling occurs, she is as responsible, if not more so, than he. Your parents are supposed to protect you.
After you write a sincere letter to him (or them), put it in an envelope, along with the recording, and address it to your mom and dad. Leave it where they will both find it and will be able to listen to the recording. If he (or they) doesn't (don't) apologize, you need to let one of your teachers at school, or minister, or other trusted adult, know about this. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 3

Acknowledge Daddy dearest in a quiet voice, without being sarcastic. Just let him know you hear him and maybe he'll quiet down. If he doesn't just nod agreement (without a smile) and act all humble till you can get the hell away from him. Save the point you need to make or the excuse you have or whatever untill the storm has passed when you feel he will hear you in return. Your dad has anger issues. Don't participate in his drama or you'll eventually be having your own outbursts, which will make you even more miserable and stressed. Stay sane.

Answer 4

It's okay to make mistakes as long as you're not intentionally doing things to tick him off. Have you respectfully talked to him about how he makes you feel when he yells at you? Maybe you could try that. On a day when you are both in good moods, ask him if he has some time to talk with you about something. Then let him know thta it hurts your feeling when he talks to you that way and maybe he could find another way to get the point across. I find that a lot of parents don't realize how it affects their children when they yell at them. Good luck sweetie!

Answer 5

well try not screwing up so much for starters...actually thinking before you do things can help with that. then when you aren't screwing up and everything is calm talk to your dad. yes he should have better ways of dealing and communicating with you, yelling seldom accomplishes anything hopefully you can make him understand that...perhaps try getting your mom or another adult to talk to him about how you feel, he may consider what they are saying more than what a kid is saying.

Answer 6

Ask you Dad where he learned to do this in these situations. Is that what happened to him when he was growing up and if so how did it make him feel. Screwing up is part of growing up and learning. If you don't screw up occassionally as you grow up it means you aren't learning and growing. If it doesn't stop him it has at least made you aware of how painful it is and you can stop the cycle of this kind of behaviour when and if you have children of your own.

Answer 7

Wait till your dad is calm and tell him you want to talk. Let him know that his yelling only hurts your feelings and doesn't change the fact that you messed up.

Answer 8

I'd wait until he's calm, and then bring it up. Just say "Dad, when you yell at me, it hurts me. It makes me feel so horrible, and makes me nervous and more likely to mess up. I don't do it on purpose, I don't mean to screw up." Just tell him how you feel.

Answer 9

Write him a letter telling him how his yelling makes you feel.Ask him if he can help you how to not make the same mistake again.Sometimes parents take other stress out on their kids.He may not even be that angry at you,just releasing steam.

Answer 10

Well dude u just have to tell him to stop yelling. cuz sometimes when someone gets really angry that could lead up to abuse not just verbal abuse but. if you can't just tell him to stop yelling, just tell him that teenagers screw up, and that yout not perfect. that your a human being and you can hear him clearly when he talks normally. and that your human, we all screw up, and tell him that it hurts you when he does yell. try to do your best not to screw up, i know it's hard but you have to ask yourself is this goin to get me yelled at and in trouble, sometimes you have to be cautious. but if you ever need to talk here's my e-mail address: [e-mail]

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