i meet girls all the time but always get hesitant when i want to bring up how i like being bossed around. Any ideas on how i can get past that barrier of shyness?
2006-06-23 09:17:37 · 16 answers · asked by Michelle's boyfriend 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Some girls don't like men like that becausse the think it is a weakness you need to take charge somewhere in the relationship or you'll get walked on if you just mean in the bedroom make a game of it and every now and then surprize her by being defiante she'll get off even more.
2006-06-23 09:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by can't sleep 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't anything wrong with liking strong, assertive people. What you need to be careful about is, why do you like this? Do you simply like being around strong people, or are you afraid to take charge of situations, so you are always looking for 'bossy' women? Think about this and try to answer it for yourself.
As to how to overcome your shyness in asking an assertive person to be more assertive... well, how 'bossy' can they really be if you have to ask them to take charge? :) If you do feel the need to ask your partner to take a more assertive role in your relationship, a type A personality shouldn't mind being handed the keys. If it has been your experience that when you ask this, the girl gets all 'weird' on you, she isn't the person you are looking for, correct?
So, logically, where is your fear? A strong personality should relish the idea of taking charge. A weak personality would not like it. You are only looking for a strong personality, and would not be happy with a submissive personality, no?
Don't be afraid - just ask! Though, if she's a real you-know-what on wheels, you shouldn't need to. ;)
2006-06-23 09:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by fallenangel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girls have absolutely NO RESPECT for guys who like to be bossed around. Girls can't love a guy they have no respect. Girls will love to abuse you if they have no respect for you. your shyness can come across as sweet to some girls but in general, they want a guy who is confident. If she's under 25, she wants a "bad boy" and that is the exact opposite of a guy who likes being bossed around.
What you don't realize is that liking to be bossed around is a sign of a deep psychological imbalance. Growing into a man is about growing into a position that is comfortable being in charge. Men lead. When a guy has had an overbearing mother, hasn't had adequate positive male role models, is a "mamma's boy", has homosexual tendencies or is low in testosterone he likes to be controlled by women. It may even grow into a full S&M fetish.
I'm not here to judge you but I would like you to consider the larger implications of your desires and ask yourself if it is a path that you really want to follow. If you do decide to follow such a path you should only bring up your proclivity after the relationship has been established and you know she likes you and you know you can trust her not to laugh in your face and run to tell her friends and make you the butt of every joke forthe next 20 years. If she has lots of other reasons to like you (if she thinks you're cute, smart, athletic, etc.) base your relationship on that and once she digs you, tell her about your "fantacy" to have her be incharge. If she thinks it's just something you like from time to time and not something you want all the time, she would be willing to "play along". As long as she thinks it's a game you like to play shell go along with it. If she thinks you're really like that because you have no spine, she'll abuse you and leave you broken. Let us know how it goes...
2006-06-23 10:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by Captain Obvious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some bosses are bossy, some bosses are style. some all and sundry is bossy even although they at the instant are not your boss. It relies upon on the character of the guy. There are bosses who're style & nonetheless get the job finished properly. I even have had many females bosses who did the two o.k..
2016-12-09 00:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all NOONE should BOSS you around. You're the MAN remember? Second of all you do for a girl what you want to do for her and If there is something you agree on than you should compromise! Until then, NO girl BOSSES you around!
2006-06-23 09:22:24 · answer #5 · answered by amylr620 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just blurt it out! girls like it when a guy tells her the truth! Every girl likes to boss a guy around! Not many boys let them so it's a good oppratunity.
2006-06-23 09:20:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol just try to find girls that you already know they boss. you can tell by looking at them 90% of the time.
2006-06-23 09:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey honey I love to boss.
2006-06-23 09:19:27 · answer #8 · answered by from me to you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wear a skirt and give her a pair of pants and tell her to be the man!!!
2006-06-23 09:31:01 · answer #9 · answered by cmholster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you LIKE bieng bossed around?? wow. just tape a sign to your shirt that says that, see what happens.
2006-06-23 09:20:01 · answer #10 · answered by stargirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋