so my boyfirend of 3 years, doesn't spend time with me or talk to me anymore, because he has school and work.. and the little time he has he spends wit with his friends.. i'm trying to be understanding.. but i have alot of issues going on in my family, and life, and i need someone to be there for me.. i've tried talking to him but it doesn't solve anything, he just says i'm trying to argue with him.. and all we doeis just have sex.. thats the only time he's interested in spending time with me.. so i don't know waht to do.. everytime i tell him i'm leaving he's always begging me to stay but i can't do thisanymore. i need more from a relationship and he's not just providing it for me.
2006-06-23 08:53:57 · 39 answers · asked by scream.for.me.papi. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my boyfriend of 3 years doesn't spend time or talk to me wither. he works from monday through sat, and frdiay and sunday is his only off day, he also goes to school too, and i'm on summer vacation you would think he would have time wto spend with me and he doesn't. i've tried talking to him about it, we just end up argueing and he says that i just pick arguements with him, when i just try to let him know taht i'm extremely unhappy. i need someone there for me , someone to talk to and spend time with.. i'm young and i want to have fun..like every other 18 year old. i feel all we do is have sex. like his birthday was4 days ago.. he didn't spend time with me.. he just came over ealier in the mornning and we had sex, and he left coz he had to go to work early.. and he didn't spend time with me for thewhole day.. he was with his family.. i understand that..and on frirday his only off day he was suppose to be with me.. he cancels our plans to go 2 a sox game with his friend. i'm just doe
2006-06-27 18:41:38 · update #1
So leave him. He will find someone else.
2006-06-23 08:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing all this, why do you consider him your boyfriend? He is NOT! Don't waste your time on this loser anymore, please. Three years is long enough. Good thing you're not married and I hope you have no kids by him. Believe me, if you did, he would be irresponsible toward them as well. I hate to say it, but you are just ( to put it bluntly) an appendage to him. Obviously he cares nothing for the person you are or he would be there for YOU, not just for sex. Sounds like he's a player; he may have other women in his life. For your own good write him off and take your loss as a lesson. He's using and demeaning you...can't you see this? Guys talk and brag A LOT, and for all you know he and his buddies may be laughing about what he's putting over on you. I hope in time you will come to think more of yourself than to just be some male's sex toy, because that's what you are permitting by being passive in the relationship.
2006-06-23 09:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh yea right. And you dont like having sex.
Thats why you keep doing it.
Its simple, he's busy and you guys have been together so long that he is comfortable with you.
3 years.
You two are married without the ceremony.
I got news for you, ANY guy who is with you for 3 years is not going to be there the way he was in the beginning, and neither will any girl do the same. People wear on each other.
You are getting a taste of married life.
2006-06-23 09:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using you for sex. He would spend time with you if he wanted things to work. He likes the way things are because he can get it whenever he wants it, and you don't make him work for it. I know it's hard to get out of a long relationship like that, but think of it this way. I wound up marrying a guy like that, he started beating me and telling me I was worthless, and he spent even less time with me. I might have seen him once a week towards the end, and it took me realizing I was gonna die to finally leave. No offense, I was you once, so I know how hard it is girl, but do what's best for you. Respect yourself!
2006-06-23 09:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by mandie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try again. Avoid going directly to sex. Go to a movie... to a walk...
He will notice you are different... If his reaction was not positive, advice him that the end is near... If no great change occurs and if you can do it without pain, give a "bye" ... tomorrow will be another day, full of other relationships
2006-06-23 09:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by vahucel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to stop having sex with him for a while and tell him you need to talk more instead of having sex every time he does come around. He will be mad but if he really wants you to stay he will talk. but if that don't work maybe you do need to leave him just for a while so he can see your serious
2006-06-23 09:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Cherry09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go stay with your parents for a while, Let him have some time to relise what he is ignoring, A relationship based on sex only lasts untill one partner finds better sex elsewhere. And if he really does love you, then he would listen to your concerns and not lable them as argumants, you can do much better...
2006-06-23 08:59:37 · answer #7 · answered by bradford99336 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to try being on a break, to let the both of you figure out what is really going on with your relationship. A little time away, might make him realize what he is missing.
2006-06-23 09:01:33 · answer #8 · answered by Kristen.M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure he's your boyfriend? Sounds like he just wants to like have sex and that's kinda like taking advantage of you, break up with him already and get into a better relationship with someone who cares and someone who will spend time with you!
2006-06-23 08:57:28 · answer #9 · answered by laurennn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is obvious that the only thing that he cares about is the physcial relationship that the two of you share. He could care less about the mental and emotional stability it takes to have a meaningful relationship. i would just get out and find a real man that deserves you.
2006-06-23 08:59:26 · answer #10 · answered by JACAAA 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think u should sit down with hin and tell him how u feel thats howme and my boyfriend are - the sex but i sat down on the phone w/him and said that i felt like we were drifting apart and we started spending more time together!!!! i hope u got the answer u wanted e mail me back to tell me the results!!!if u want
2006-06-23 09:02:31 · answer #11 · answered by cocopuff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋