i'm a virgin,determined to have sex only when i am married.How do i keep my dude,who claims to be a virgin to interested in me?Some deep instinct tells me he is the one for me.I need advice on how to hook him so he can only think of me and want to marry me(without having sex).Serious stuff,this is my future.I need him to be mesmerised by me.
2006-06-23 08:53:55 · 13 answers · asked by kareen 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
God bless you, All you can do is stay normal as you can. Do not push your limit, make him comfortable when he is with you. All (REAL) mans are looking two things in their life, first good sex partner and second, somewhere back in their mind they are looking for good homely atmosphere (meaning they want to see how comfortable they are with you), if you offer both of these two things to him. then you must 'BELIEVE ME' he is not going anywhere, he will be with you forever.
2006-06-23 09:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anil G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 27, male, and I wouldn't be ina romantic relationship with a girl I was going to marry without testing the waters. You have your reasons, I'm sure--but this is not a practical approach, it's idealogical. Seriously, ask yourself why it's important to save this until marriage? Men aren't quite as simple as sex = stay / no sex = go. Sexual activity, whether it is intercourse or not, IS what defines the difference between friends, family, and romantic partners--so , there needs to be something that makes you special in a physical/ romatic sense. That's my opinion without knowing more.
2006-06-23 09:08:02 · answer #2 · answered by Drew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget the "mesmerised" stuff..you will not be able to maintain that stuff forever..go for the sure and steady, the love, not lust, the everyday goodness that a good relationship can offer. I have trouble with the general context of this question, "how do I keep my dude...." IF you have problems with this now, hold off, and back up! If you think sex is what keeps a man at your side, you have some serious learning to do. Men, like women, can get sex on every street corner, and in between! If you think you hold a treasure between your legs, get over it now! The real gold is between your ears! Trust me, virginity is not what it used to be cracked up to be. Men do not consider this to be a make or break deal when dating and marrying. IF you think this is all you have going for you, you need some rethinking...going to your wedding bed a virgin is a crap shoot at best..one or the other really may have made a much worse mistake. I am no jerk...I would have serious problems marrying if there were a chance I was not going to be compatable with my significant other in bed...bed is a very real, very big part of any good marriage. But, I will repeat, the real treasure is between your ears!
2006-06-23 09:04:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have gotta marry this guy? What, you a gold digger or looking for someone to financially support you and he's rich? What's being virgin have to with this?
Don't know who raised you, GET A LIFE!!!
If your only goal is to get married by "hooking" a guy, hopefully it's not anyone I know.
2006-06-23 09:22:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, if he's the one for you, it means ur the one for him, he'll come around eventually. My Fiance wanted me for about 4 months before I ever thought about the possibility of being any more than friends and... well, she's my fiance now isnt she? :-P
2006-06-23 08:57:46 · answer #5 · answered by anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control other people's feelings or actions.
2006-06-23 09:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by Ponderous 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If "He's the One", you shouldn't have to keep him interested! He'll be interested on his own which it sounds like he is!
2006-06-23 09:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by amylr620 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i wud say here is tht if he says tht he loves you and really means it then he will respect the fact that u want to do it after marraige only but don't be stubborn talk this out if u r really thinkin of spending ur rest of life with him and are so sure abt it then wht diff does that make if u have sex b4 marraige or after it ?
2006-06-23 08:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by addy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BJ or a HJ if you want the juice you gotta deal with the squeeze baby!
2006-06-23 08:57:54 · answer #9 · answered by Stosh Polaski 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of things you can do without vaginal intercourse. You can give him head, he can give you oral, you can mutally masterbate(each other), you can make him a love tunnel with your breasts. This will be good for both of you. It will help you to become closer and get to know each other even more intimately.
2006-06-23 09:00:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋