How was your relationship and are you all still together?
2006-06-23 08:42:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I ran into someone I went to Jr High school with about 10 years after the fact, we had always had a thing for each other, but at the time he was a "bad boy" and I was very "green and shy". So fast forward 10 years, I run into him at a skating rink, the man was still great on wheels and he was fine (to me). Anyway we exchaged phone numbers and started hanging out. I fell kind of hard for him, but he told me he was a crack addict. I tried to be patient with him. The great thing for me was we were really good friends and he didn't try to turn me into an addict. I didn't know anything about drug addicts or how they thought, but he answered all of my questions. When he wanted to get high he told me to go home. He told me his addiction was a sickness and he didn't want me to see him like that. He truly educated me on some things and not all the stories he told me were good. If he stayed away from home too long I would actually go to the crack house to get him to go home so he could shower/change clothes. Anyway, he once told me if he had to choose between getting high and having a relationship I'd lose. That's when I gave up. Imagine what that did to my selfesteem. To think a person would rather get high then be with me. I couldn't put it together. But as time went on, I understood that he cared enough about me to not keep me holding on. That's a person that cares about you. During his time with me he NEVER asked me for money. That's the great thing about me being someone he had a crush on he school. Long story short he went to jail for attempted murder for a crack addicted craze. He got 26 years and has to serve all 26. He's been in prison 18 years.
He told me one has to want to be clean in order to stop and he said he didn't want to stop. Because of my experience with him, I can honestly say, I will never put in that kind of energy with another addict. It's draining emotionally, physically and if you are not careful, FINANCIALLY. An addict will sell the clothes of their own back, steal from the MOTHER/FATHER/SISTER/ BROTHER so what would make you think they care about your things?
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2006-06-23 09:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been with many women that use drugs, and I have as well. My partner is a social worker, and has seen everything. Basicly, depends on the drug, the problem, etc. If self medicating for another problem, then often they will respond well to a new solution from a doctor. If they are physically addicted to something, and feel like they need help, then yes. But, if they feel like they're fine, or don't think it's an issue I Doubt things will change.
2006-06-23 15:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by Drew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they usually reject any help, because they dont think they have a problem, they have to realize they have a problem before they can make a decision to go into any type of treatment, but usually if they go into treatment they will be successful for a little bit but can start back just as easily...it takes alot of will power for them to want to actually get off the drug and remain straightened out, they need a good support system and alot of enabling in order to really get themselves off of it....but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel...
2006-06-23 16:01:23 · answer #3 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can help a person that does not want to be helped. There will come a time when you realize the drugs ARE more important than you. Make a decision.
2006-06-23 16:04:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, I used to be best friends with a crack addict that eventually "borrowed" alot of money from me and never paid it back. People who are addicted to hard drugs can only be helped when they decide that they want to stop using drugs. Otherwise, you're unlikely to be able to truly help them.
2006-06-23 15:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jenn 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no we are not together I have 2 adult kids with him.he is my ex-husband of 18 years,and I truely loved him but drugs are a very powerful thing and it grabs a hold on weak people and sometimes there is no hope.I hope your able to help this person but if they dont want your help your just wasting your time.that person has to want to stop you just cant wish it away believe me I tried.It doesn't work I had to make a very hard dissision to stay or go.and thats what your faced with right now.good luck
2006-06-23 15:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by vallegirl2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing someone with a drug problem is nothing but a Problem.
People usually become codependent. So now they both have problems. It'll never work. only they can help themselves.
2006-06-23 15:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by sodapop44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the relationship was awful, and no we are not together any more,they wont get help til they are ready, no matter what you do, i kwon because i was the one with the drug problem,been clean for about 6 years now...
2006-06-23 15:48:15 · answer #8 · answered by nate diggitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex-boyfriend who was 24 was addict to dah bubble or dope one of those things he got locked up for 6 months n i waited for him i didn't know he had dat kind of addiction i told him if he really care about me he wouldn't touch dat **** u know what i mean i know once u addict u cant stop u know what imean
well my new boy friend also 22 is was a dope head he goes to his prop36 meeting but does kind of drugs can leave ur system in to day if dah guy is hard head he aint gonna listen just leave him cuz he aint worth it he live in a faster life seen **** did **** u r going to be stressing it aint worthe it gurl just leave him alone u deserve better
2006-06-23 15:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by Loca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did..and it bothered me sometimes..but eventually you just grow to know tem with and without the drugs..we are no longer together but we were for 6 months..(even though i miss him now) but other than that our relationship was great.
2006-06-23 15:46:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋