I was taken out to lunch on a first date. It was a lovely lunch although both parties seemed slightly nervous and it was a little awkward rather than fluid. Do i text to say thank you or do i text and ask him out on a second date. He was very old fashioned, paid for the date, opened the door as i left but made no inclination that he was interested apart from that and did not mention meeting up again although it was probably just unsaid. After lunch we sat talking for about an hr before he asked for the bill but i still think feel that it was not as great as it could have been and wondered if he is feeling the same and therefore if i shld give him time to ask me out again or give him feedback saying i would like to go out again ie an invite of my own please help? I still have no idea if he is interested.
2006-06-23 08:23:02 · 15 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by paid for the date i mean paid for the meal and wouldnt let me pay
2006-06-23 08:32:18 · update #1
Either he was
1) nervous too
2) not interested in you
It is odd that he did not mention meeting up again. In this case ask him out casually and see what his response is. If he is shy then this will give him encouragement and if he was not interested you will soon know.
Even if the date was bad maybe both of you need to give it another go, try something more fun than a lunch and cross your fingers
2006-06-23 10:14:00 · answer #1 · answered by a friendly therapist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, no, don't text him to say thanks for the date. You have already thanked him for lunch at the time, I presume, and to do it a second time will just make you look like you are grovelling in some way.
Also, if he made no signs of interest towards you (paying for the meal and holding the door open is just common courtesy and not necessarily a sign that he is interested), I would take it as a signal that he doesn't plan on seeing you again. Men who are interested will usually try to make a second date, or at least make some kind of comment that indicates that they are thinking about seeing you again, by the end of the date. Failing that, they will call within a few days to ask you out again.
Of course, there are always exceptions.
If you want to, call him up and ask him out. At least you will know by his response where you stand.
2006-06-23 16:19:47 · answer #2 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT sounds like you are keen on seeing him again. I would say yeah! go for it! give him a call you have nothing to lose.
At least that way you know you tried he just was not interested and you don't have to have that funny 'maybe I should have what if I did' feeling. Give him a call thank him for the date and tell him about some other great place asking him to be your date.
He can only say yes or no but at least you know where you stand then and can close the chapter . All the best.
2006-06-23 15:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why was he "paid" for this date?!
It doesn't sound like you had the greatest time ever, so maybe you should just phone to say thank you very much, (this is mere politeness) and wait until the next date with somebody else.
Modified:
All right thank you for the precision, I don't blame you for your explanation of the situation, only my bad English!!Sorry then.
Well, I just stick to what I say, I don't think you sound like you were ube happy smiley as my BF would say, so maybe he's a nice guy, but not more, and you should wait...
2006-06-23 15:29:19 · answer #4 · answered by julia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babes, call him. We're in 2006, times have changed. Let him know that you like him otherwise you'll be going around in circles. He's probably feeding of your insecurities, men don't want to be rejected. Anyway, If he doesn't like the forward approach then its his loss, Okay.
2006-06-23 15:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's certainly appropriate to thank him for the first date, and maybe even throw in a comment like "would enjoy seeing you again"...beyond that I'd let him make the next move...if he's interested he'll let you know...
2006-06-23 15:49:35 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a couple of days or more, if you really do like him and want to spend more time with him then give him a casual text saying thanks and it would be nice to it again sometime ;-)
2006-06-23 15:54:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like to sweat it out to make it seem quite casual, don't be suprised if he calls in week
2006-06-23 15:28:50 · answer #8 · answered by themanwithnoname 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should wait a week and then say you just found his number and you forgot who's number it was and the ask the person if they want to meet up
2006-06-23 15:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by flickydodar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the initiative... you have nothing to loose, text him, call him... try and make another date
2006-06-23 15:43:08 · answer #10 · answered by engineer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋