What can I do if my daughters father never wants to see her?

Answer 1

Youre best option would be to flip him the middle finger and find a decent guy. Secondly, I'd hit him up for child support so hard his that he experiences a pain in his testicles everytime he gets the bill.

-J.

Answer 2

For one thing, give her the best quality life and nurturing that you can give her. If he does not want to see her, there is nothing you can do about his decision. You can not force a person to see another person. Eventually he may change his mind however, never say never. If he does, I hope that you have not filled her with hate or ill feelings towards the father she has never seen, as it will come back to bite you instead. I have seen that too many times with people where the child turns away from the parent who has raised them all that time because of things that were said against the other parent. Just do your best to give her a great life, try to include others in it as well, and perhaps see if his family at least would want to have a relationship with her. Grandparents, aunts, uncles, and other family members sadly get left out of the loop in these situations, and they usually want badly to see the child and have the opportunity to enjoy their company too. If possible, ask the man why he does not want to see her (if you have not done so already). Is he sure the child is his? You may need a paternity test. Don't take that wrong, it is actually in the best interest of the child as then he can not deny responsibility for child support payments. Just remember to give her the best possible positive life that you can, and minimize any negative things associated with not having a father around. (It seems to be the normal thing nowadays, a one parent home, sadly enough.)

Answer 3

make him pay child support. use a portion of it to help with your daughter's child rearing expenses. and use a portion of it to do activities and things with your daughter, like a good caring father would do. like going to a ball game, or a theme park, or an action movie (depending on how old she is) take her clothes shopping, and out for an ice cream on sunday afternoons. you may try getting her involved in some group activities where there are other children and their parents. this way she can at least experience what a father figure is like. being raised without one is definitely not anyone's first choice, but knowing how families interact will let her see how dedicated you are to her, and it will keep her from growing up with a negative outlook on men or traditional families.

if you have or find a man who could be a good father figure, be very cautious. no matter how much you think of him, it may not be to her benefit. keep your daughter as your primary concern and keep a positive outlook, everything will work out well in the end.

Answer 4

i have a 9yr old son and his father has never wanted him, We were a couple for 5yrs before he was born at the age of 4 he left, I did handle things at all the right way as I felt i had to fight to get him in his life and my heart was ripped out not understanding him why, at that time! As long as you take each day as it comes and dont force or try anything towards him calls etc, that backfierd big time on myself as each time he ring the police, i only wanted to arrange things? now after a 5yr split he has decided to take me to court! I honestly hope your ex is not as cruel as mine as our son is disabled and he has no intention as the court has ordered him to learn of his sons autism which the 4th time coming back 2 court is soon and he still has not rang the school! I strongly would say to you, You and your daughter live life 2 the full day to day with a big smile and never looking back or question thoughts you may think needs answering ask if poss your friends to book a hol that caters 4 the kids mainly with a bar on the side let me no we wil go ha a happy mam is a brillant thats what counts everything else will fall into place leave him to it he wont sleep at night knowing you are happy men like him get their pay backs mine is getting his now with his young mad girlfriend insercure is not the word ha your happy she will grow strong x

Answer 5

Close the door on that chapter of your lives & move on. The time WILL come when he wants to see her - it will then be up to her whether or not she wishes to allow him into her life. Try not to prejudice her with your anger/hurt towards him as she grows up; she needs to be able to make her own choice when the time comes. It's a whole lot easier said than done, I know. If another man enters your life, perhaps he will take on the loving job of father to your daughter. How about your dad? Can he be there for her? What about his parents? Can they see her? Try to find positive influences for her life & good people to love her. God bless you both & best of luck to you -

Answer 6

I'm assuming that she's young. the best advice i can give is, your not going to able to make the father see his child which is a shame. but what you can do is love your child and when the time comes and she asks about her dad, just tell her the truth. it will probably break her heart for a while, but then she'll realize that she has a great mom and that's all that counts. make sure you at least get child support though.

Answer 7

Well there is really nothing you can do! If he doesn't want to see her, then that's his problem! I wouldn't want my kids around someone who didn't want to see them ya know? Why be somewhere your not wanted? But if he doesn't want to see her now, let him know he will never be in her life! It's important for a father to be in thier child's life, but not if it's unwanted! If he doesn't want to be there you can't make him be there! Just he can't come strolling in years from now. That is his loss, not your daughters! He's the loser, not your daughter! Let him know!!!!

Answer 8

Accept that he isn't willing or responsible enough to take on a daughter. It's sad that her father isn't willing to see her, because you shouldn't have to raise her by yourself. Hopefully in the future he will change his mind and be willing to meet what he missed out on-his daughter. Good luck!

Answer 9

Well, you could pay him a surprise visit, or if any of his parents are still alive, contact them, and arrange a lunch with them, and have them invite him over for lunch, but tell them not to tell him that your coming too. And then, when he arrives the day of the lunch, you could have your daughters walk in, and probably have them all give him a surprise hug. If you do do this, I really hope this does work for you.

Answer 10

There is nothing you can do to force him to see her. If he wants to be like that then fine. But be prepared to answer some hard questions to your daughter when she is older. It's not your fault that he won't see her. Give it some time and he may come around. If he doesn't then it is his loss and one day hopefully he'll regret his selfish decision. Good luck