parents know best...... maybe you should listen to them
2006-06-23 08:20:20
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answer #1
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answered by catty blond 5
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Assuming that they are acting in your best interest, ask them WHY they disapprove of him. Do these reasons have a basis in fact? For example, if he's a convicted felon, that's a fact that any good friend or family would be concerned about. On the other hand, if they don't think he's "right" for you, this is entirely subjective and easily dismissed.
If this analysis doesn't come to the conclusion you like then you know logically that they are correct. However, you can still justify your plan to stay with him with the tried and true...
Who the hell cares what they think?
Good luck...
2006-06-23 08:25:14
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answered by Anonymous
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It probably depends on your age. When you are older, like in your late 20s or 30s, you should be able to show your family why they are wrong in their disapproval. If you are young, then you should realize that your family's disapproval is in you best interest.
2006-06-23 08:20:05
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answered by girlonline64 5
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How do you feel about your family? Why don't they like him?
The fact is they will come around if he is not a total tool. Of course others tend to see what we are blinded to in these kinds of situations so talk to your family and find out what it is that causes this disapproval.
2006-06-23 08:21:04
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answered by frontmann2004 3
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Which is more important to you, your man or your families approval of your man. I understand that families can have a great influence over a relationship and that there are things the family does not know. It sounds like your heart is divided and for that I am sorry. If your family does not approve of your man, and say that something unfortunate happens like Katrina for example, if you have no family the man you love is gone where does that leave you?
2006-06-23 08:21:50
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answered by andyman 4
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why not? unless you know there is a real reason for your family not to like him- like he mistreats you etc.
I say for you to try and explain to your family why you like him so much and maybe the will understand the relationship a little better and try to accept him as someone that is making you happy.
realize that we all have to grow up sometimes and a part of that is making your own decisions- for yourself. You gotta do what makes you happy- not other people.
Also some times people from the outside can see un-likeable things about a person we are dating , but we are unable to see it cause we care or love the person. Anyway my point here is for you to listen to what they have to say about your boyfriend cause they could be seeing something you are just blind to. With the information they give you try to look out for the same things in him to make sure he is in your life to enhance it and make it better, not to bring you down or seperate you from your family ( meaning to have you depend and listen only to him)
2006-06-23 08:30:06
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answered by shalirha 3
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Thats a question only you can answer. I married a women whose family dissapproved of me, it was hell for the first 5-6 years, i have since proved all of their theories wrong but it was very hard on both of us. i guess it also depends on why they disapprove of him. Most times they are right! Just be careful and follow your heart. Good Luck!
2006-06-23 08:23:24
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answered by Anonymous
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Its really hard question but ultimately I would respond with answer of No. I know every situation is different but personally I was involved with someone for 7 years that my mother did not approve of and with probable cause. I married the guy and have 3 daughters with him but had I listened to my mother, I would not be faced with some of my current circumstances. God gave us a mother for a reason and in some instances they can be overbearing but they really do know what is best. You will find that out when you start your family or your children become of age to date. You may not be to the point mentally or emotionally that you can see and understand another persons reasoning because you may not have experienced life to its full capacity as an adult in an adult world. Love can blind you from seeing a person's faults. Love is not suppose to be hard or hurtful. If you have to question the validity of your relationship with this guy because of your gut feelings or because of outside influences, he is not the right guy for you. Remember God puts people in our lives for a season or a reason and they sometimes go hand in hand. If this guy is around for a season, his true colors wil reveal and most times its when its too late. If he is there for a reason, he will teach you alot of things about men whether it be inadvertantly or purposely, good or bad.
If you truly love this man, pray about it and God will show the way. If you really want to be with the guy the outside influence can weigh heavily on your final decision. In my instance when my ex realized how my family felt about him, he tried to come between me and my family by not wanting them to visit our home, changing our phone numbers to keep them from contacting me or keeping me depressed by talking down about my family. I had to realize that I was my own person and open my mind to the reality that I was in an abusive relationship. There are many stipulating factors that may cause your family to feel the way they do. Openly ask them why they are against the relationship, but by all means keep your families feelings about this guy away from this guy because he can and more than likely will try to use that against you and ultimately try to make choose between him or your family.
2006-06-23 08:40:50
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answered by Anonymous
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remember... your family isn't marrying him. But yet, if your family doesn't like him, you might need to look at him from their standpoint. If the reasoning isn't decent enough, then it's just a personal dislike. But if he's a past criminal, or has some sort of scary background, maybe there's a real reason to think it over.
2006-06-23 08:35:25
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answered by Rock Goddess 3
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that depends, do you want to be the one sleeping with him and spending time with him or does your whole family? does your family have valid reasons for disapproving of him or is it just one of those goofy things they do sometimes? for example do they dislike him because he just got out of prison for murdering his last gf..or is it because they don't like the shirts he wears of his hair or the car he drives? if its a goofy thing i'd say if you like him and they love you they'll adjust.
2006-06-23 08:23:55
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answered by dappersmom 6
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Depends on why your family disapproves of him.
2006-06-23 08:19:08
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answered by čŖåŻęĤ! 4
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