any suggestions on how to convince them that I'm responsible?
2006-06-23 08:13:38 · 34 answers · asked by mayris 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
LOL.. I'm about to turn 14 and my mom told me that I was allowed to date! hahahaha. Do stuff around the house. Act responsibly. Tell them that you won't do 'it'.
2006-06-23 08:15:31 · answer #1 · answered by roxy81492 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My parents were the same way! Are you really responsible? If so, why do you think you are responsible? Do you get good grades, do all the chores, take care of your little brother/ and or sister? If you do all of that, point it out to your parents! Tell them that you are 16 and that you always do your best at school and at home (make sure to bring up your good grades and all) and ask them if you ever gave them a reason not to trust you! They will have a hard time coming up with an answer! Make a deal with them. Tell them that you'll bring the boy home for them to meet first and maybe even have the first date be at your home (like invite the boy to your house for some pizza and watching a movie). Let them get used to the idea first. Good luck!
2006-06-23 08:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk with them. Let them know that u are not a child anymore and you need to start making your own decisions even if they don't approve. They are probably worried that you and the guy will have sex and get you pregnant, so u must try to understand their point of view. Your parents only want what's best for you and that's understandable because they were around much longer than you were and they are aware of what this world is like and what ppl are capable. Do u really need a boyfriend at this stage in your life or are u feeling left out because all ur friends have and u don't. Peer pressure can be very challenging but u can't allow it to control ur life. Talk to ur parents about guys ask them wat u need to look for in them etc. be open and honest with them about everything. The time is gonna come when they too will want u to date but for now just respect their wishes, wat they are sheilding u from is well worth the wait. You can have guy friends yes but a boyfriend at this stage is not necessary, give it time.
2006-06-23 08:41:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not easy. Find out when each of your parents started dating. Ask your aunts and uncles to get the right answer. You need to talk to your parents about why they dont trust you. and dont be easy on them. You are 16, and in 2 years you will be a legal person that can do what they want (including getting married without their input). Tell them you need to begin dating, under their rules and guidelines, so that when you are 18 in 2 short years, you dont make BIG mistakes.
16 is not too early to date. There is definitely a way to reach a compromise with them on this, just stay on them until they come to their senses.
2006-06-23 08:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister was not allowed to date till she was 18. Why? The only answer that I can give you is that my mother, after 1 divorced, re-married, then widowed, used her experiences to help guide my sister into the person she is today.
The point I'm trying to make is that she used her past experiences as a refrence point, so my sister wouldn't make some of what my mother considered mistakes from her past.
The lesson you learn are the experiences and since your parents went thru a dozen of them, they don't want you to get hurt. Of course they know you can handle yourself, but you are their flesh. Until you become a parent, your going to learn that it's a frightning experience when you see your child grow and eventualy move away.
You are your own person, and they are proud of that, but parent who love their children, for some it's hard to let go, knowing they have to in the future.
Ways that you can work around that is to go out with friends (for now) and let them know where your going and be sure that you ask them to pick you up before comming home. That way, you get to go have fun. That will give your parents a peace of mind and it will show that your working with them to make them feel at ease.
That's what people do to learn and show responsibility.
Hang on sister. You'll do fine.
2006-06-23 08:23:05 · answer #5 · answered by monkeymustard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated twice in High School before I realized that I wasn't interested in getting married or having a family until I was done with college. For me, it was a lot more fun (and a lot less hassle financially, emotionally and sexually) for a bunch of us to go out as a group to the movies or whatever. I'm sure your parents would feel more safe if you were out with a group of people that includes guys and some people you know rather than in a one-on-one situation with someone you don't know very well yet.
I dated in college and got married a year after I graduated from college.
2006-06-23 08:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by adrienne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are just trying to protect you, and given the state of society i don't blame them. Maybe you should not try to convince them otherwise. The boys you might want to date now probably seem great, but when you get to college and see a whole new world, you will wish you had waited. And the only way to change their minds is with actions, not words. Be responsible in ways they can see, and don't pester them. Accepting their decision in a mature way could actually change their mind. ("Wow, she didn't have a tantrum, she understands....maybe she is growing up!") It's reverse psychology in a way!
2006-06-23 08:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by advicemom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could sit down with them and ask them why they don't want you dating and then tell them why you think you should be allowed to date and then work on a compromise. Tell them that you promise to let them meet him and all that and you promise to be responsible about it and see what they say. But remember, if you promise to do something you have to go through with it otherwise they'll take the dating priveledge away..
2006-06-23 08:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are still seeing you as a little girl and you need to slowly show them the great woman your becoming... perhaps start it out slow with them.. tell them you have to start dating sometime and wouldnt they rather know who and where your at instead of you lieing and building an untrustworthy relationship if your serious about a guy.. then he should be ok if your mom tags along the first couple of dates... or have him over for supper... its all about getting your parents to know the guys and you. sometimes its not you they dont trust.
2006-06-23 08:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by trudie_barraza 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them about this and convince them to let you go have a boyfriend and that if you do have a boyfriend that you will introduce him to your parents that you are a responsible young mature girl and they should be able to trust you because you will never do anything stupid and that your a bit older now and they should know that you are more responsible then you were 3 years ago
2006-06-23 08:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never be responsible at your age, that's just a fact you will have to learn...
You are jail bait for men of any age and you don't want to end up pregnant and the man left you to fend for yourself...
Men who want sex only will tell you anything on earth to get you to go to bed with them...
This happened to my daughter and now she is gone from me and the man who took her wanted her for sex...
Now she got pregnant and had a baby and her life is screwed up at such a young age...
Please do not get involved with any male untill you are out of school and able to fend for yourself...
Get a job, your first apartment and get set up with your own furniture, electricity, cable and food and all that goes with living on your own...
Be single a while and date different men and do not place so much importance on sex...
Take your time please...
You have a lifetime to try new things...
2006-06-23 08:25:55 · answer #11 · answered by aspenkdp2003 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋