ok so me and this guy have been talking and hanging out 4 about 3 months and at the beginning i didnt really like him,,well i did like him but i was afraid to fall for him because he was older, but now i am strting to get feelings 4 him and i dont want to fall in love w/ him, but i think its going to happen and i dont no wat to do. esp since he will be going to college in the fall.. hes going to be staying at home tho and hes not going far. we have talked about wat we should do and we both agreed we still wanted to be together through out the summer, but the ? is wat about after.. should i stop things were it is now, wait til the end of summer, or see how it all turns out?
2006-06-23 08:06:06 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm 15 years old and he jus turned 18, but he is only 2 1/2 years older
2006-06-23 08:17:01 · update #1
I'm 14 years older than my wife and we've been happily married for 4 years, together for 7. she's 27 me 41.
2006-06-23 08:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by gumby3419 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me the more you hang out with him the more feelings you gain for him. But you also have mixed emotions with him being older. Does it ever cross your mind that once he goes to college that he's going to want to experience the habitat of older women? I'm sure that once school starts for the both of you eventually you guys will go separate ways. okay so your 15 your going to be a sophmore that means you have 3 more years of high school and there are going to be other guys that cross your mind. I just don't think you should get too far into this relationship that you won't be able to get out... It'll be harder let go later then to let go now... But if you really think that things might work out then go for it just let things happen naturally. time will take it's course. If it's meant to be love will find it's way. Good luck!
2006-06-23 16:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by ash6lei2a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should stay in the relationship[ because ive been through it..my boyfriend is 4 years older than me and when i was 14 i started going out with him and he was 18...Now im 16 and hes turning 20 in July and we have a baby girl and it all worked out fine.. i was freaked out too..but i had feelings for him and i didnt let my age stop me...and now i have a beautiful family and my own house..imagine things could just turn out fantastice..so i think that you should give a try and i dont really think youll regret if he likes you and you like him..
2006-06-23 15:22:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay?? I don't understand about him being older but it sounds like you are too young. Anyhoo I say just be friends for now and wait to see how it turns out. Long distance relationship rarely work out but who knows, right? If he is a good guy then he would wait for you too. If anything starts going sour then break it off before anyone gets hurt. just my two cents.
2006-06-23 15:14:55 · answer #4 · answered by ravinaznrich 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this..
Which would you regret more?
Ending things now and never getting to see where it could have gone
or
Spending the summer soaking up his affection and seeing what happens
Either way, you may have to say goodbye to him, but personally, I'd take as much as you can get, if you really care for him, it will be worth what ever hurt you might have to deal with
2006-06-23 15:11:31 · answer #5 · answered by violet1656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all u didnt tell how much older this guy is or your how old are u. u need to find out if u explored with yourself to know what u want as in going out of town going to different places that u like and stuff like that. sometime when u with somebody that u really dont know u really want to be with , it kinda slow down what u want to do in life, so need to follow your heart.. and what is it that u want in a older guy.
2006-06-23 15:14:56 · answer #6 · answered by geoffreyf.brown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it all depends on how faithful the guy is. if he's true and you guys build a stronger bond over the summer then yeah keep it going you said yourself that he's gonna be close. you might be scared cause there are gonna be college girls there but hey you know what he's with you (this is where the faithfulness comes in play) and that's all that matters.
2006-06-23 15:13:12 · answer #7 · answered by oaklandolee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my experience is that if you date a guy that is like 46 and your 18 something bad is bound to end happening and depends how much older he is
2006-06-23 15:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be friends, do not go any further for 6 months. See how you both feel at Christmas.
2006-06-23 15:21:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should stop this before it gets really serious
he might love you now but later he won't want to be with you
and it's too late cause you're already deeply attached to him.
trust me on this it hurts badly
best of luck
2006-06-23 15:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋