we both want it?

Question

im here with my boyfriend. (we're both 14) and we think we are ready to have sex. we both love each other a lot. we're just thinking if we are too young. our friend says its fine and to go ahead but that goes against things we've learned in school of course. i think im ready and so is he. should we do it?

Answer 1

dont do ittttttt!! are u nuts! ppl say 30 is the halfway point of one's life, and u wana do it at 13?? thats like one-fifth of ur life, that is wayyyy too early. think of it like that, duh

Answer 2

Do you want to look back fondly on your memories of high school yet to come? Then don't do it.

Do you want to know you made the right decision and the safe decision, sleeping better at night? Then don't do it.

Do you want to rest secure in the knowlege that you are not bringing an accidental child into the life of a boy and a girl far too young to care for it? Then don't do it.

Do you want your first time to be something really special and important, something you'll smile thinking about for the rest of your life, not a clumsy act of fumbling puppy love between teenagers? Then don't do it.

Do you value yourself as a human being? Then don't do it.

If you are truly in love, that love will last into adulthood... which is the time to make adult decisions. Making love is -definitely- one of those decisions. I was seventeen when I lost my virginity, and looking back, even that was dangerously young.

If you ignore this advice, then at least take the advice of others and have safe sex. But I urge you not to ignore this, and to postpone. Enjoy life, enjoy each other, and don't make this massive decision while you are so, so young. And you are so, so young... as you will realize a few years down the road.

Be well.

Answer 3

No. Don't cloud your thoughts about having sex at such an early age. You are both still too young and should focus on other pertinent issues out there (i.e. school, family, life). To complicate your relationship with sex right now would be a terrible mistake. You don't even know what LOVE is at 14! C'mon! This stage is called "Puppy Love" or "Infactuation." Lose the mindset about sex, and gain some self composure.

Best of luck!

Answer 4

I think you're too young. Having sex right now is a big step and can be very emotional. Do you think you're old enough to make a decision like that? Are you ready for what the consequences may be? Are you prepared? Really think about. It's better if you wait so you can appreciate it better.

Answer 5

wow this one's a toughie...my first instinct is to tell you to wait, your really young and having sex brings a whole new world of **** into a relationship as innocent as yours. However, I lost my virginity at 13 and I regret it, but only because it wasn't with someone I loved, it was my boyfriend who fu-cked my friend a week later
If you both think you are ready
a) use a condom
b) get some birth control
c) try some oral or digital sex first and see how you like that, if you don't feel comfortable doing that chances are you are not ready to have sex

Answer 6

In my opinion you are too young, you don't even want to know half of the stress that this will cause you. Or for that matter, half of the emotions that you will go through. But I can't tell you guys what to do, you have to make your own decisions, All I can say is that I think you should wait.

Answer 7

No. Plain and simple. It's your hormones overruling your brain. Wait until you are older. Please. An accident now could lead to regret later. Think about the responsibilities here...are you ready to face the possibilities of getting pregnant, or contracting a disease? Have a talk with your parents...they should be the ones to educate you about these things, including taking you to a doctor or clinic and teaching you about contraception, etc. Please wait, and then when it's right, you will be truly ready.

Answer 8

Nobody ever regrets waiting. I know a LOT of people that wish they would have waited though!!!!!
14 is really young. You have your entire life ahead of you. Just because you're physically capable of the act, doesn't mean you're emotionally ready.

Answer 9

i'm kinda in the same situation i'm 15 but it's like a commitment when you do it... Don't listen to your friends. this is your decision. if you feel your ready then by all means but always use protection i don't think parents would be to happy about the whole situation let alone know that your 14 year old daughter is having a kid

Answer 10

i definatly think you should wait!!!!!! your only 14 and i agree with other people that asnwered this question, you dont know what love is?!!!!!! i thought i knew what love is at 15 but i was mistaken. just think about it if you lose your virginity at such a young age what would other guys think when say you break up with this guy????!!!!!! if your boyfriend truly loves you he would not forse you into sex. but if he thinks he loves you then he would force you into sex and would just care about his feelings and not yours. sex is not the answer!!!! why are you trying to give your virginity away so fast and so easy???? you should leave your virginity as a present for that special person that you truly love and want to spend the rest of your life with!!!!!! think about it and dont hurry to chose the wrong answer!!!!!

Answer 11

You shouldn't. You really don't know that you're ready, because you've never done it before. If you get pregnant, you can damage the baby and your body permanently. It may destroy your relationship and though you think it's OK, it could be on your conscience for a very long time.