One of my coworkers (a physically non-attractive woman) told us the hard times she was going through during and after her marriage. She married her x-husband right out of high school never being sexually active.
During 2 years of marriage she never gave her husband oral sex, never let her husband perform oral sex on her, never practiced anything (not even a 69) other than old fashion sexual positions (missionary, doggie style, side by side) and only in the bedroom. Her husband left her for a stripper and she felt he was the most disgusting man on earth. She had his kid shortly after he left and he does visit and pay child support.
She said that she has been alone for the past 4 years and could not get a date or find a man who wants to share her bed. Also that her X-husband will not touch her when she invited him back into her bedroom.
I advised her to get about a dozen **** films and have a sex crash course but she finds it gross. What other advice can help her?
2006-06-23 07:40:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that one is hard. i would get her drunk, but not trashed, you want her to have a slight memory of it. then **** her brains out. do everything that she would before. as long as she can remember bits and pieces she might want to try it again. have fun man!!
2006-06-23 07:44:32 · answer #1 · answered by <3King Julian :-) 4 · 9⤊ 10⤋
well, you mentioned she was unattractive, she may feel the same about herself. No-one may have never told her what a beautiful person she is.. Maybe if you told her she was beautiful, because beauty comes from within maybe that well help her to appreciate the good quality's she has. Tell her to get a make-over and a new hairstyle.. She needs to be comfortable with herself.. telling her to watch **** would prob'ly be the wrong advice, it just shows sex as an act not something intimate. or she needs to seek a therapist about these issues..
2006-06-23 07:50:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're an idiot. Tell the lady to loose weight if that is a problem, get her hair done, find a great make-up artist, clear up her complexion if that is a problem buy some great clothes, with a consultant, have her teeth fixed is they are not just a killer smile, have some stunning photos taken, and post a profile on Yahoo personals, or Match.com. No one will open a book if the cover is shabby....... Stop being an idiot, and give her some advice that she can use to find nice men -- ones unlike yourself and her husband....... Print this out for her....do her one positive favor. Then, as far as your giving others advice? If that is all you can come up with, "shut the hell up", dude, you're an idiot.
2006-06-23 07:50:32 · answer #3 · answered by ladyren 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She shouldn't have to make sex base and meaningless (which is what **** does) to experience it. Every person is right to 'hold out' as you put it, or save themselves for the one person they intend to spend the rest of their lives with. I hope the man I may some day marry isn't out there sleeping around and watching ****. I'd rather he experiment with me.
It's going to take some healing for her. She can find that in God, wh can also show her what true love and acceptance is. She needs to learn what love is, accept herself, and be able to relax before she can enjoy sex. It would be awesome for her if she finds a man who can truly love her and cherish her for who she is. That's when she'll feel the freedom to explore. Until then, you're just making things worse for her by making her feel unacceptable the way she is.
2006-06-23 07:47:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Homegirl is trippin, to you she may be physically unattractive, but for someone out there she will be attractive, furthermore, why shouldn't an ugly person be able to have sex just like anyone else? She needs to see a counselor in my opinion, she needs help, she has some issues that are probably deeper than you and i can see. I would suggest she seek help. If she is just ***** and wants a piece, tell her to hit the local bar for a couple hours around closing time. Beer goggles work wonders!
2006-06-23 07:47:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like she is just not comfortable with the 'fun' sex stuff. Maybe she needs to meet a guy with similiar sex habits. Maybe try a book club or a church group. Someplace with a bunch of good wholesome people that are generally not down to get 'nasty'
2006-06-23 07:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by Stewart S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be very attractive is she wasn't so afriad to express herself. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but that statement can only go so far. She needs to open up. Watching **** won't help her. She needs to gain confindence. She needs to do for her.
2006-06-23 07:46:38 · answer #7 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to know that men will get bored with a women who does want to experiment. Tell her if she wants a man, she needs to experiment with different positions and techniques.
2006-06-23 07:45:29 · answer #8 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its simple,she should respect herself first before looking for sex cause then she will really know her preferences and not describe herself as unattractive.
2006-06-23 07:47:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to meet me im as old fasioned as they come and cowboy so heres my ady tonydiekman@yahoo hope you give it to her iv been alone now 8 years no dates cause i feel the same way she does and im a cowboy go figure ill be weighten to hear from her
2006-06-23 07:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by tonydiekman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's unatractive..she has little choice but to put out...otherwise she will be lonely for a long time until she finds a "****** that will put up with her.
2006-06-23 07:45:59 · answer #11 · answered by artist1974 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋