Can someone help me I am have a bad time?

Question

How can I get out of my depression? I just started cutting myself and its horrible! Its really hard living each moment with a broken heart. I'm 17 and cannot talk to my parents about this. There is no way I can get to a therapist without them knowing.

Answer 1

You need to open up your heart and talk with your parents. Any kind of support will start with them since you are a minor.

Answer 2

Depression is a serious medical illness; it’s not something that you have made up in your head. It’s more than just feeling "down in the dumps" or "blue" for a few days. It’s feeling "down" and "low" and "hopeless" for weeks at a time

** Depression in Children

Only in the past two decades has depression in children been taken very seriously. The depressed child may pretend to be sick, refuse to go to school, cling to a parent, or worry that the parent may die. Older children may sulk, get into trouble at school, be negative, grouchy, and feel misunderstood. Because normal behaviors vary from one childhood stage to another, it can be difficult to tell whether a child is just going through a temporary "phase" or is suffering from depression. Sometimes the parents become worried about how the child's behavior has changed, or a teacher mentions that "your child doesn't seem to be himself." In such a case, if a visit to the child's pediatrician rules out physical symptoms, the doctor will probably suggest that the child be evaluated, preferably by a psychiatrist who specializes in the treatment of children. If treatment is needed, the doctor may suggest that another therapist, usually a social worker or a psychologist, provide therapy while the psychiatrist will oversee medication if it is needed. Parents should not be afraid to ask questions: What are the therapist's qualifications? What kind of therapy will the child have? Will the family as a whole participate in therapy? Will my child's therapy include an antidepressant? If so, what might the side effects be?

The National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH) has identified the use of medications for depression in children as an important area for research. The NIMH-supported Research Units on Pediatric Psychopharmacology (RUPPs) form a network of seven research sites where clinical studies on the effects of medications for mental disorders can be conducted in children and adolescents. Among the medications being studied are antidepressants, some of which have been found to be effective in treating children with depression, if properly monitored by the child's physician.8


The first step to getting appropriate treatment for depression is a physical examination by a physician. Certain medications as well as some medical conditions such as a viral infection can cause the same symptoms as depression, and the physician should rule out these possibilities through examination, interview, and lab tests. If a physical cause for the depression is ruled out, a psychological evaluation should be done, by the physician or by referral to a psychiatrist or psychologist.



Talk the talk! Kids and adults can learn to talk things out. It’s normal for young people to feel strange talking to their parents about sex. But guess what? It’s even harder for your parents to start the conversation.

Someone has to make the first move, why not you? Remember, if you only talk to your friends about tough topics like sex, you may not be getting the right information. Try talking to your parents to get the straight scoop

Answer 3

If it gets worse than cutting, go get help, but I can understand you not wanting to tell your folks. You shouldn't have to if you don't want. But this is what I suggest you do, and it really works. You need these three things: a composition book (you can get them at drug stores, for a dollar and they come in pretty colors), get a pena nd a highlighter. And everytime you feel terrible, write about it, write the date and the time and highlight it for future referance, and then write. Write about anything, let the book be your confidant. Write when you're bored, and especially use it as a substitute for cutting, that's no good. Draw all over it if you want, glue things to the pages with a glue stick, make it a piece of your personality, a piece of you. And when you write, read over it before you close the book, make sure that's all you want to add, and if it isn't, write more. Mine took a month to complete, and after I had, I found the writing had helped me understand why I was feeling bad, and it helped me feel better to get it all out. In a month I had come very far, and I wasn't so depressed anymore, and then I read through the book about how childish I had been and I felt like I had grown tremendously. It made me feel a lot better, and now I'm one of the happiest kids you ever met! This really does work, my parents sent my to a psychiatrist and this is a trick she taught me, and nobody but me ever saw this book, nobody read it but me and it worked. I hope you feel better soon. And if it gets worse than cutting, you can't keep your silence.

Answer 4

It is very brave of you to reach out for help like this. There are many things to take into consideration in your situation. First, you write of "a broken heart." It sounds like you were really hurt by someone. Do you have people around you who you care about and trust that you could talk to about this?

Second, how long have you been "depressed"? Do you mean sad and down in the dumps, or do you think you're clinically depressed? As difficult as it is, I would really recommend that you try to find a therapist you can talk to. Are you in school? If you are, there should be some sort of a counselor (psychologist or social worker) that you can talk to, and it is confidential (he/she will talk to you about confidentiality when you first meet).

Third, I know you may feel very scared, and it sounds like you are a bit ashamed too, and that may be the reason you don't want to talk to your parents. This is a very scary and difficult time for you, and you may have your own reasons for not wanting to talk to your parents. I don't know your whole story, so for right now I'm going to say that I think it's okay that you don't tell them (you may have other people that may tell you otherwise). But what IS really important is that you have an adult you can talk to. An adult that you trust a lot, be it a teacher, pastor, rabbi, mentor, neighbor, relative, or anyone. It is really important for you to have support at this time.

Again, it is really brave of you to reach out for help. I would strongly advise you to find a counselor or a therapist to talk to. That person will help you gain insight into what is going on and will help you look for alternative ways to ease your pain. Remember, he/she is there to support you, NOT tell on you or betray you in any way.

Take care.

Answer 5

Many helpful answers to your question here, And the number of answers, all attempts to help you is encouraging for those who despondently believe people don't care. I have only my own experience to go by. I'm on medication for depression and it works. Talk to someone. You mention a broken heart. Few things are as painful as being rejected by someone you love and you thought loved you. I been there and I can honestly say it was
the worst emotional experience of my life at the time. But everything arises and then passes away. 2 things, let it pass away by not dwelling on, just let the emotion flow out of you without you holding it in. Sounds to me you are blaming yourself or think the whole thing can be turned around and made O.K. Don't go there, don't try to figure it out, let it go. It takes time. You sound like a nice person. At 17 though life can really hurt!

Answer 6

First of all, I've been there following a terrible trauma, my freshman year in college so I really do feel for you. And I understand that's it's a compulsion and it's something you can't even tell your best friend...; I understand the shame involved Regarding getting to see a therapist..; YES YOU CAN!!! GO to the nearest health clinic (free clinic) and talk to someone there. If you saw all of the scars on my arms and hands (and a few on my legs and abdomen), you'd want to stop and would figure out a way to get to talk with anyone. Anyhow, free clinics are full of social workers and this may be all you need. Also, they would be bound by patient-doctor-therapist (even social worker) confidentiality.. and could send yo to someone esle who might be able to help you at no charge. PLEASE do go to talk with someone as quickly as you can, ok? You can get there without them knowing.. say you're going to the library (or whatever); if you don't drive, take the bus! Thisis one case when it's okay to lie to them. You need to save your life! You will need to take some initiative, though.. and you've just taken your first step..
good luck, hon...
BTW: I absolutely love my kids, both of them, more than life, itself... but, if they felt, like you, that they could not talk with me about something like this, I would hope they'd go and talk with whomever it is that COULD help 'em.., so, do what's best for YOU right now, ok?

Answer 7

First off you need to realize that whoever broke you heart is a pig!!!You can do better...please stop cutting yourself because ur not hurting the person who hurt u ur hurting yourself.B4 u can love some 1 else u have to first love u!!!So start doing stuff that u enjoy and don't think about how much it hurts!!!And if u get yourself together the depression will go away.Please don't hurt yourself!!!Because i know that somebody loves you and it will be a great tragedy for something bad to happen. I hope that this helps!

Answer 8

The only one who can truly save you is Jesus Christ, but you also need help from others who can support you. I know about depression. I have suffered from it before. Only the grace of Christ that got me to live life again.

It's hard if you can't talk to your parents about it. Find someone whom you trust and talk to them. And remember it won't be an easy process. It takes time. All the hurt inside doesn't just vanish with the snap of a finger. Just remember that it's Satan that wants you to feel bad. It's his goal to get you depressed cuz actually you are a very talented and special person. He wants to ruin your life.

All the best, I really hope this helps.

Answer 9

You can not do this alone. Depressions are different stages and you are on the second to last stage of it and needs a attention now. I 'm not sure what the cause of the depression but I do know if you don't get help your likely to hurt yourself and could lead to death. I am worried that family issue is the cultprit but if you walk into a hospital in the state of mind they will assist you in getting better. But I don't think its possible that your parents won't find out.

Answer 10

Okay I imagine you are hurting pretty bad right now, it's darkest before the light. It will get better. Look up Crisis Intervention online for your area and talk with someone on the phone. Really consider talking to your parents about this, if you had appendicitis and bad stomach pain you wouldn't hesistate this is just as serious. You need professional help to get better don't be afraid you aren't the first and wouldn't be the last to cry out. Please call a crisis intervetion # they van help you find a way to get help !

Answer 11

I know you dont want to hear this, but your parents are not the enimy. They love you more then anyone in this entire world. I know its embarrassing, and you dont really want them to know, but they are the ones you should go to first. Mom first, she carried you and no one loves you as much as her, or ever will. They may not understand what you are doing to yourself, but that is not the point. They can still get you help, and maybe they need counceling too, if they are part of the problem (since you cant tell them) you could get family therapy and be happier as a family. I strongly encourage you to tell your parents. I think thats the best first step. It will be really hard and you will need to be very brave. Once things are better, you will be glad you told them. I truly believe that.