do you think that it is really important as they say in church to wait until your married to have sex?
2006-06-23 07:27:19 · 17 answers · asked by emlorene 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I do. And I don't believe that "test driving" will give you any indication of how a man will be after he is married. If it is what he does to "get you," it's likely to fall by the wayside when he's "got you."
Sex is part of marriage. Outside of marriage, it loses something very meaningful.
You can tell what your chemistry is like before you are married. You can learn what you need to as far as mechanics with each other after you are married. Cliff and Joyce Penner are both Christian sex therapists and have written several good books for married couples.
Sex can hold a relationship together that normally wouldn't stay together. If relationships (outside marriage) are about sex, it's harder to see what needs to be addressed. Incompatibilities are overlooked. It commits you to a relationship you may not otherwise want to be committed to.
If you decide to marry because you know and love someone's character and you share common goals and values, sex is icing on the cake.
2006-06-23 07:53:21 · answer #1 · answered by Contemplative Chanteuse IDK TIRH 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I think it is really important. I am waiting until marriage (six weeks to go!). The Law of Chastity is God's law, and I have covenanted to obey it. Also, I think not having sex outside marriage is a no-brainer for all sorts of reasons, including:
1. Marriage is a new freedom, not a new restriction
2. Zero chance of STSs including AIDS
3. No comparing with other partners
4. Knowing that you share something wonderful and special between you which no one else is any part of
5. Knowing that your partner has enough respect and love for you to commit to you for life
2006-06-23 09:33:52 · answer #2 · answered by sunnyannie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY. I don't believe that Christians should only have sex to procreate. But sex should be shared only in the context of marriage. Otherwise, people's lives get messed up! sex was made as a blessing to be enjoyed in the context of a covenant relationship of marriage (without divorce as a possibility). The reason it has become so accepted is that people have also accepted divorce, and so then marriage isn't much different than just dating. You will be SO grateful you waited.
2006-06-23 07:34:17 · answer #3 · answered by Emily C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope - gotta test drive it before you purchase the car. I think that good sex is important in a relationship because bad sex leads to adultry. If you can't be satisfyed with your partner, you'll go look somewhere else. And how can you know if you are completely connected to a person without experiencing the sexual connection? I personally wouldn't be able to be with someone I couldn't connect with sexually.
Although sex isn't the MOST important thing in a relationship - it is still important.
2006-06-23 07:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Spork 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun Thats The Right Way Married Then have Sex...
2006-06-23 14:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by ❀Mother Of 2❀ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! The Bible is clear on that aspect (the post above is confusing fornication with adultery--the greek words have completely different meanings). If we want to please God in all we do, we'll trust his commands - one of which is no sex outside of marriage. I waited (just got married last year) and have absolutely no regrets. In fact, I'm glad my husband is the only one I've experienced because it make it that much more of a special thing between us with no baggage of past partners.
2006-06-23 07:56:13 · answer #6 · answered by KDdid 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No where in the Bible does it say to wait until you are married to have sex. Fornication is the mistreatment via some act. Its not the act itself that is unclean but the "unfaithfulness" involved in the act that makes it unclean. Sex becomes fornication only when it involves unfaithfulness to your partner. Although you want to make the choice if you are completely convinced in your mind. Romans 14:22 "...Happy is the man who does not condemn himself in what he approves..." Its your relationship with God, love God, love others as you would yourself. Its not what you do or don't do God looks at your heart.
2006-06-23 07:45:29 · answer #7 · answered by AlwaysLaughing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you're not religious and don't want to wait because of what is said in church, consider the many risks and diseases associated with pre-marital sex. I honestly believe that it just complicates things!
2006-06-23 07:35:19 · answer #8 · answered by Candice H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its really important like the bible says, to wait until marriage to have sex.
2006-06-23 07:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by justwondering 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd wait until you're mature enough to consider marriage. After learning the hard way, I'd never buy the car if I couldn't take it for a test drive though.
2006-06-23 07:32:50 · answer #10 · answered by loshea65 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋