I was going out with a boy a year older than me (im 12 he's 13) for about four weeks, and it was going great until about 3 weeks after we started to go out, he told me he felt like he doesn't want to do anything with me anymore. But for the stupidest reason--he said "I've asked you if you want to race me in the pool or go off the diving board, and you always say no!" I tried to explain I'm not big on pool games OR the diving board, and I'm not the best swimmer, but he wouldn't listen. He even tried to kiss me a few times, he said, but when he specified the times he's tried, he was just sitting there, staring at me. I just thought, you know, awkward moment. I tried to tell him that, but I don't think he was really listening. I offered to have him over for dinner, but he never came. Then it was like he was trying to avoid me after that. Now, just 2 days ago, he said hi, I said hi back, I sit down next to him...then out of nowhere, he breaks up with me!!!! what should I do??
2006-06-23 07:14:09 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
this is how he broke up with me: he said "Jess...I don't think this whole...boyfriend-girlfriend thing is working out..but I really want to be friends. I really, REALLY want to be friends." I was just kinda staring at him, I didn't really knw what to say, and then he said "What? What?!" like he expected me to be all happy and just push it to the back of my mind like nothing happened. So I just got up and walked home. Do you think I could have done anything? And I DON'T WANT TO HEAR "You're too young to be thinking about that" or "You were going out with a 13-year-old and you're 12?" I hate it when people do that...I'm pretty mature for my age (probably as mature as a fifteen-year-old). Also I know 3 reasons why he might have broken up with me; 1: because he felt like I didn't want to do anything with me. 2: His friends probably were making fun of him because he was going out with somebody a year younger (because I've heard them do that, too) and 3: his friends were ignoring him kinda.
2006-06-23 07:20:15 · update #1
hes already had 3 girlfriends before me and hes kissed girls before...its not like he wasnt experienced....
2006-06-23 07:21:31 · update #2
he also lives across the street from me and is my brothers friend (no idea why a 13 yr old would be friends with an 8 yr old...well come to think of it, he's more like a brother to him...) so i dont know how hard itll be to avoid him so should I just avoid him or be friends, but the problem is every time boys say that they dont mean it.
2006-06-23 07:27:50 · update #3
PEOPLE I SAID I DONT WANT THE 'YOUR TOO YOUNG' CRAP IVE HAD ENOUGH THIS ISNT THE 50'S WHEN IT WAS PRACTICALLY ILLEGAL TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND UNIL YOU WERE LIKE 15 IN MOST HOUSEHOLDS OK IM MATURE ENOUGH TO HAVE A BOYFRIEND I GREW UP IN A PLACE WHERE EVERYONE IS MORE MATURE THAN THEIR OWN AGE OKAY?! HOLY CRAP THATS SO ANNOYING!!
2006-06-23 07:31:03 · update #4
when you are 12 the average relation ship is like 2 weeks, get over it, i hope you look back at this when your older and see how unimportant that relationship really was.
2006-07-06 14:25:42 · answer #1 · answered by matt p 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girls mature a little faster than boys at that age.
Your so-called " boyfriend is just that.....a BOY!
At 13, he's not mature enough to handle a relationship. He has you as a girlfriend, but he still wants to play kid games! (Hahahaha...)
Also, he's going through puberty, and that can really be an awkward stage for him. He has the urges to experiment with sex, but he doesn't know quite how to go about it. He basicaly has that inner struggle of the stage of being a kid, and a being a man.
He is still a bit immature. But that's part of being a 13 year old boy. Don't blame yourself for his strange behaviour. It's nothing you did.
I also think you're too young to be having a boyfriend, but from the way you presented your question, it seems that at least you are a lot more mature and aware of things more than your boyfriend.
Nothing wrong with being friends with boys, but since you're only 12, you should wait a few mopre years before you consider having any type of a serious relationship. You'll have plenty of time for that later on. For now, just have fun....enjoy your youth.
2006-06-23 14:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by Pulse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why it is important not to get so serious while your young. All think it is a big race to have a single person in your life. You childhood is a time to go out and have fun and dating which does not have to be one person. Being a couple is a relationship and how can you base a relationship on hi I think your cute will you be a g/b friend? You need time to get to know each other and know each other well before forming a relationship. That is what dating is all about. You get a wider range of people to get to know. I am going to the mall will steve I am having lunch with robert, phil will be taking me to the movies on saturday --- otherwords dating. while dating all these people you get an idea who you had the most in common with and who you enjoyed the most and who you just can't stand. I know all about peer pressure and people thinking that if your like this people may call you a slu t or something but as long as your not sexing it up with any of them and just going out how can that make you out to be something bad like this.
Its true you teenagers have a million pressure in your life but most of them you put on yourselves. No rush here, you do not need to form relationships yet. Try and see that you only get one childhood and it will end and than it is gone and never coming back. try to not worry and date everyone you like just dont limit yourself.
You are a teen girl and don't you think you are worth the best you can find so why settle for less. and how will you know who truly deserves you if you are not out there dating.
best of luck
2006-06-23 14:29:17 · answer #3 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie, time to just move on and remember you still have alot of growing up to do there is plenty of time for all this heart break and drama later in life not when you are just a teenager. OK, he isn't the only fish in the sea just mark it up as a lesson learned and go on with your life...
2006-06-23 14:21:07 · answer #4 · answered by JACKIE M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have to agree with vegas there. Your'e too young to be dating. You are both immature in dating and you can do all that later. For now, be a kid.
2006-06-23 14:20:08 · answer #5 · answered by lonely_wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is that u are too young. u got lots of time in the future to carry on all this.
2006-06-23 14:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by greatbuddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give him some space my ex-girlfriend was just like that but i needed to give her her space know im single my ex was a year older then meme 13 her 14.
write at tigertmonster@yahoo.com (i know its weird but i had to use my sisters old account)
2006-06-23 14:20:34 · answer #7 · answered by Alexzander 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEEEEEESSS I SEE well you are 12 and he is 13.
so when did you plan the wedding?
Exactly what I thought...
No plans for the future...
2006-06-23 14:18:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing this boy had probably never had a girlfriend and he's expecting you to be able to read his mind. so as a fact he's still to immature to have one so just leave him be be his friend.
2006-06-23 14:20:05 · answer #9 · answered by oaklandolee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU ARE TOO YOUNG TO DATE....STOP, NOW....you have plenty of time for drama and games in a few years
2006-06-23 14:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by twentythree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋