Who should I pick?

Question

It may seem kind of selfish that I am in love with two men. And, believe me I thought that it was impossible to be in love twice at the same time, but what i'm feeling is nothing but love for both of them. One is 19 and the other is 15 I am 16, I don't think age will matter, it's just I feel so comfortable and close with both of them. It seems to me that they both love me the same also. I know I was stupid for putting myself in this predicament, but can n e one help me out?

Answer 1

Hmmm. You sound very lucky to have found two guys who are nice and respectful to you that you can be comfortalbe and be yourself and close with both of them. Not unusual or selfish at all. I don't know where that came from. You're too young to settle down, so enjoy the attention, luv. No one says you have to "pick" or settle down so quick. You can't measure love, just hang out with no pressure.

Answer 2

For one thing, honey, you are 16. How likely is it that you aren't in love with either of them. A lot of girls your age have an attraction to guys who are older than them, and when he shows interest in her, she feels that it is love. There is a such thing as "infatuation". Then, with this guy that is 15, he could just be a friend with some of the same qualities, and likes that you have and you could have a mutual attraction to each other that can also be mistaken for love. I don't think that you are in love with two guys at once, but i think it is possible that hey both may treat you with the same measure of interest and respect and you are attracted to that. Be careful with the 19 year old, he could get into trouble if either of you act on those feelings.

Good Luck

Answer 3

Hey, ever hear of being friends??? Or are you sleeping with them both??? I think 19 is a bit old for you right now. That will change later on, but 15 is much better. Just be friends and don't worry about being in "love"...be in "like". You'll be doing yourself a huge favor, believe the old broad.

Answer 4

Go with the one that is 16.

A 19 year old should know not to date a girl who is 15, therefore he is not very bright after all...

Answer 5

well, if you're mature enough, Id say go for the 19 yr old. Cause most 16 yr old boys are very immature. So are 19 yr olds, but they have a little bit more experience than someone that's younger.

Answer 6

You are not inlove... you just thought you are. There will always be an inferior and a greater kind of love. LOVE centers in one person only. You're only 16 ... someday you'll know what true love really is. Pick the one who you think is the greater one.

Answer 7

At 16, you should not be getting into a long term relationships. Date both of them. You probably shouldn't be getting married for another decade. Pay attention to your school work. Do some volunteer work. Focus on getting into college.

Answer 8

Honey, your still a baby, have fun at 16, make them both take you to the mall, and go to movies, dont tie yourself down and be in love........enjoy your young life, cuz the adult world blows, and life only wears you down more and more........have fun fun fun, finish yuor school, and keep the boys on the sidelines, for weekend and summer Fun!!! besides boys stay pretty immature even up until their 20's!!!

Answer 9

date the 15 year old one. If you still want the 19 yr old when you turn 18, or break up w/ the 15 yr old (if u do) then give it a shot with him.

Answer 10

I think you should stick with the one closest to you own age. You two will have more in common and have more fun with one another. Whereas the other guy may be into stuff that you aren't ready to be into, ya know. I think you'll be happier with Mr.15.