If you are dating a guy for a little over a month.......... (serious answers only please)?

Question

I met a guy through the personals and talked to him about 2 months online and we finally met. Well we have went out quite a few times (5+ in the past month) and we talk on the phone at least every other day. Well I got asked out by someone else and am not sure if I want to go because I really like this other guy. But we have not had any serious conversations about "us". He is really busy with his kids and work etc and I don't "think" he is really ready for anything too too serious (which it is kind of soon for anyway). Anyway do you think I should tell him I got asked out and see how he responds or just not even mention it? I am not into playing games and I am very honest so it is really hard to not say anything to him. Any opinions??? Please only serious answers. Thanks

Answer 1

You have more than "a little over a month" invested in this guy. What did the two of you discuss when talking online? He's calling you every other day and you've been on 5 dates in the past month. That speaks to me, that he is interested in you. Men don't call a Woman that they occasionally date every other day. Every other 2-3 weeks, maybe, just to keep in touch. You say that he is busy with his job and his children and you haven't had any serious conversations about "us". Guys, too many, don't outwardly communicate their feelings or thoughts. If he hasn't committed information, then you should begin a conversation with him to find the answers that you seek. Communication, communication, communication ... all successful relationships need good communication to succeed. Did you tell this other guy that you are seeing someone right now and that you really like him?

If you really like this guy that you've been seeing, you should at least have a conversation with him to determine where he stands with you. You don't need a firm committment. Both of you should have your walls of protection up and let them down gradually, later, as this relationship progresses.

I was going to look you up until I found this question ... now, I am backing away. You are not available for dating others, in my eyes.

Answer 2

face it, you barely know him and six or eight weeks is not enough to base whether you are in a serious relationship or not. It's wayyyy too soon. If you want to get serious with this guy, then bring it up you really like him and would like to pursue a relationship with him beyond being just friends. Be honest with him, because it sounds like you want a relationship. See if he does. If he says he's not ready, believe him, and date number 2 - you don't need to tell number 1 because you already got the clear that you are not an item with number 1. OK?

Answer 3

I would be sitting down with him and having this conversation. Find out exactly where you are and what his intentions are with you. I wouldn't tell him you were asked out...that's kinda a slap in the face to a guy. Just ask him if he's only seeing you or is he seeing other women as well. Make sure he understands whatever he decides is fine with you.Communication is the key to any good relationship.

Answer 4

Hmmm.....tough dilema. If you DO go out with the other guy and the one you have been seeing WAS more interested than you thought, you risk hurting that relationship. On the other hand if you say something to him about being asked out, he may see it as 'pushing' and THAT wouldn't be good either. I would say have a talk w/him and kinda get a 'feel' for where HE sees things as being w/the 2 of you. From that you can make your decision as to go out with the other guy or not.

Good luck !

Answer 5

Be honest and tell him you had another person ask you out. You have nothing to loose, because if he is honestly and seriously interested in you he (hoping is mature enough to express his feelings) will let you know how he feels about you and your current "status" Good luck! Follow your heart, but stay alert and keep your head on straight.

Answer 6

In my opinion you should tell him that you were asked by another guy out.
If you speak on the phone and you tell some of private stuff, i think its nice to let him know what is going on.
Just like you will say to it your friends, casual. That's my opinion.
Maybe he will get jealous and he will explain the situation between you and him.

Answer 7

I think you just answered yourself. If you think he is the one or at least you think theres something between you two then ask him where you two are in your relationship. If he also thinks there's something and would want to commit to a relationship then stick with him, if he's just wasting your time, then go on the other date.

Answer 8

I think you would be able to tell by his reaction to you being asked out by someone else whether or not he is serious or has any feelings for you. I definitely think you should tell him and see how he acts.

Answer 9

I think you should ask him what is going on between you two. You need to know what he thinks of your relationship and if you are on the same page before you should consider the other guy.

Answer 10

I'd say stay true to yourself and be honest all the way and tell him what's going on. I mean, you said yourself, your relationship with him isn't that serious so...just tell him and share all your feelings about it. Try to make him understand, and that'll probably help. :)