I don´t want this to be a habit with her wanting me to lay down with her until she goes to sleep. What should I do. It is getting me upset with her whining.
2006-06-23 06:43:36 · 11 answers · asked by tapalpagal 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Here is her routine:
6pm we take a walk outside.
7pm we have a light snack, put her PJs on, wash her hands, face, and teeth. Then to bed, where I read her a nice book. Then I give her a kiss and say goodnight. This is when she used to sleep without me, but now she wants me to lay down with her until she sleeps.
2006-06-23 07:06:34 · update #1
My guess is that she just wants to spend more time with you.Try spending qulity time with her one on one like after supper time.Play a game together or something,,maybe something that will tire her out,,lol. Maybe she is afraid to sleep in her room alone now,,did she see a scarey movie or does she see shadows?Try a nightlight ,,leave the bedroom door open. Maybe read a story before bed about good things like princesses or something.
2006-06-23 06:49:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an expert, but I know about breaking a habit. It sounds like your daughter already has the habit in place that if mommy is beside me I am safe and can go to sleep. It takes time to break habits and patience. Be patience but consistent. Try being in the room, but don't lay down beside her. Add some soft music or a favorite lullaby that will repeat and each day stay a shorter amount of time in the room with her. She may cry more at first, make sure she's ok, then she will eventually stop. It's ok to cry sometimes. There are also many parenting sources online that can help you with some ideas of how to get her to fall asleep on her own.
2006-06-23 14:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by twhite00us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Who's the boss?" needs to become your mantra. I actually ask my children that from time to time. . .it helps ME remember, as well as them.
Before my full answer, I just wanted to ask if there were any fears that have popped up lately? Is she suddenly afraid of the dark or something easy like that?
Prepare your child by talking about the fact that she's a big girl, and needs to go to sleep like a big girl. You could make a production about the fact that she's a big girl now - go buy her a special bedtime plush toy and new pajamas or something. Talk it up all day long so she isn't surprised at bedtime.
The fact that you have a routine already will be a huge bonus!
Put her in bed and leave.
If she gets out, put her back. Don't say anything to her.
If she gets out, put her back. Don't say anything to her.
If she gets out, put her back. Don't say anything to her.
Seriously. It works. Yes, it might take a few nights - but not more than a few nights. It's TOTALLY WORTH the hassle to regain control of this area of your life.
I promise you that this technique works! (I personally have the most stubborn child in the world to deal with, and this system worked with her in just a night or two.)
Good luck!
2006-06-25 18:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by IrisInLove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds very cheezy, but I saw it on a nanny show...I used it on my daughter and it works! It's very good you have routines, but even one time of sleeping with mommy can be a disaster (I know!).
Okay, here it goes. Put her to bed the first time just like you normally do, "I love you, it's time for you to sleep in your bed like a big girl. If you need anything right now tell mommy." When she is fine and ready you leave the room. If she gets out, just say this (!!!) nothing else, "It's time for bed, I love you, good night." Everytime after that, you don't say a word...she can be kicking and screaming, but you just stick her in the bed and cover her up. I know it's hard to hear your child cry, but believe me, it works.
Kids are stubborn, I know...my daughter especially, but it only took one weekend to get her in bed every night with no problem. All together she only got out of bed or called me 4 times.
Now she doesn't even wake us up in the morning!! Haha. She lets us sleep until ten!
2006-06-23 14:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by tortasinqueso 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her a routine that she feels comfortable with. Let her pick out her pajamas, give her a bath, put her in bed, read her a story, and turn out the light. Once she gets used to some sort of schedule/routine like that, bedtime should be a breeze.
2006-06-23 13:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may want more mommy time or maybe needs to cut out naps or go to bed a little later. My son went through that and we ended up having to take his naps away. He just wasn't tired enough at bedtime and wanted mommy to stay with him. Or maybe she is scared of something. Ask her...after all she is three and should be able to help you know what is wrong.
2006-06-23 14:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by I love my babies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this with my boys but you are the parent you have to be consistent with what you do every night and let them know who is boss, when it is time to go to bed it is time to go to bed PERIOD. Let her cry she will give it up when she sees you are not giving in! Be the stronger of the two, it will be a pain for a couple of days but after 2-3 days of you letting her cry until she goes to sleep she will quit because she knows you will not give in because rules are rules (BUT BE CONSISTENT)
2006-06-23 15:32:59 · answer #7 · answered by Italian Medallion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give in to her whining-she knows it works. Kids are smart like that.
If it takes you 15 tries, put her back in her own bed, kiss her good-night, give her her teddy, etc., and leave her room. Each night you will notice it happening less and less. She's getting the point. Explain to her, "This is Mommy's bed, this is your bed". Remain calm or she will see your frustration and it will trigger her to try and manipulate you again. It helps her to see you are in control.
2006-06-23 14:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by garayfive 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think b4 she goes to bed you nad her should spend more time doing something together like reading a book or playing a game so when she goes to bed mabie she wont want you to lay with her ...
2006-06-23 13:54:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just going to have to wait this out you created the situation and it feels good having your little one snuggled up next to you and they feel the same but in the long run its damaging to them in a few ways so your going to have to put up with the whinning and everything else until you get the message across this is mommy`s bed and you have yours...sorry,its going to take awhile but be consistent.
2006-06-23 13:52:17 · answer #10 · answered by aminuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋