I have a horrible "grass is greener" complex with women. I can't seem to get over 2 months before I want to move on to someone else. I have dated some wonderful women in hindsight, and I am always honest in my intentions. I'm 32 yrs old and getting tired of this, I just don't want to "settle", or compromise. I'm not conceded or arrogant, but it is not diffucult for me to find dates. I believe the problem is me 100%. Help. I don't want to be alone when I'm 50.
2006-06-23 06:03:32 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Thanks for all the great answers, even the kid who bagged on me. It does sound like I'm whining. Why do women have to be so hot. It is actualy your fault.
2006-06-23 06:14:21 · update #1
u're right by not wanting to settle. no one should just settle. but hey, u know your problem... so start helping yourself from there. the next gal u find chemistry with, try to really get to know her and if the feeling is right, let yourself go. have u been hurt in the past before? cuz u seem to be the type who's afraid to really let go of himself and really allow themselves to care and love another person. with so much experience with women, u probably hav lots to compare before u're completely satisfied (comparing is wrong, but u cant help it sometimes), find a gal who fulfills the basic criterias that u need... let yourself fall in love. thats when ur life starts revolving around hers, and u wont bother checking out the grass next door.
2006-06-23 06:11:28 · answer #1 · answered by lil'sammy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what to tell you other than I did the same thing until I found the right person, then I stopped. I would say just keep on until you find the one for you. One suggestion I have, and I have no idea where you find your dates so this may not be relevant, but don't look for love in a bar. That was my biggest downfall, I met my husband while I was camping. Almost every other boyfriend I had I met at the bar or at a party. I don't know if that has anything to do with anything, just my personal experience.
2006-06-23 13:08:52 · answer #2 · answered by AK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with grazing in dif. pastures, my friend. Sometimes the grass is infact greener. This is coming from a guy who thought he had found the greenest of pastures just to be divorced a few yrs. later. Take your time, look around and make it a solid deal when you find a woman who loves, respects and will honour you. Trust me, you won't be alone at 50 unless your truly unlucky or choose to be. Now go find that amazing woman!
2006-06-23 13:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be too superficial.. Sounds like to me your high maint. Its good you don't settle for ANYBODY but be realistic. Be open and don't come on too strong. Lower your standards but pay attention more to what you have in common with someones inner personality rather then there physical traits. Or maybe it isn't you maybe the girl you date aren't meant for you just be patient your still young the right girl will come along soon just don't try so hard looking for her she'll come to you
2006-06-23 13:09:15 · answer #4 · answered by GiR 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, stop acting like such a kid. Get over it man! You're 32. Know wonder you're alone....the women you date probably can't take the whining!
2006-06-23 13:06:20 · answer #5 · answered by bv715 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know what to tell you besides the fact that you need to find somone who wants to do many things like try new things with you and try and keep it going uf you dont find that type of pearson then i dont know what i can say because you seem like you need a women who wants to do a lot of things and you are not finding that women so look look look and try everything you can but it wouldnt be bad to bone a couple women in the process
2006-06-23 13:08:08 · answer #6 · answered by uwishuweremexx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude,
there will aways be hotter or better women out there, the thing is find someone that will make you happy, and that you like, just let her know what you are going through and she will help you out..
if you get her involved you will have a great relationship.
2006-06-23 13:08:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then stop have big expiation's. You can't find some one that's perfect. that's just impossible. If you find someone you like 80% then the other 20% you guys can work on it together. good luck
2006-06-23 13:08:18 · answer #8 · answered by Girl in love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sometimes finding another girl helps you get over the last b i t c h
2006-06-23 13:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of all the things you get to do now that your single. Then imagine all those things gone or not being able to do them once your attached or married. Now you tell me if your ever going to be happy
2006-06-23 13:06:45 · answer #10 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋