my girl is going to appeal for her application to enter university and she's asking my opinion whether she should continue study or start working.i told her that i prefer her to start working because i think experience is more important than a certificate.i know all the time she been hoping to enter because this is her dream.as she cant make her decision i helped her by asking her to stop thinking about studying and ask her to concentrate on finding a good pay job.she listened to my advice but the problem now is i'm afraid i'm making the wrong decision for her and secretly her to make an appeal.am i indecisive?we are both 20 this year.
2006-06-23 05:17:44 · 22 answers · asked by sam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why are YOU making the decision at all?
It is her decision, and hers alone, to make.
Your job as her friend is to encourage her on the path she chooses for herself, and to encourage her to get to know her own desires, wishes, strengths, to base such decisions on.
If you KNOW its her hearts desire to do something, why aren't you encouraging her to go do it?? What kind of friend do you really want to be? Friends (esp intimate friends), care about each other to the point of wanting what is best for them, and helping them discover that.
2006-06-23 05:25:27 · answer #1 · answered by Pichi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are indecisive because you already know that you should support her on studying. You are both young and have all the time to find a 'good paying job'. Why is it that you both need to have the 'good paying job'? Are you married with kids? If that's the case then you gotta rethink on everything. Since you mentioned that you are both turning 20 this year, I think this is the time that you both go out and finish college and if you really want to work, do a part-time job that is related to your geared major/field. Your school's student services should be able to guide on finding these kind of part-time job. Good Luck.
2006-06-23 12:26:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You screwed up. She needs to make the decision about what to do with the rest of her life. It is important to LOVE what you do, because you'll be doing your job more than anything, even being with your family. Loving what you do is so much more important than finding a high paying job for your happiness. Tell her you made a mistake and SHE needs to weigh the pros and cons of school versus job right now. You both are young...find out what you love, find a way to make it a career and the money will come.
2006-06-23 12:24:56 · answer #3 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm... its always hard making these type of decisions. worse if u're making it for someone else. has she consulted an adult? her parents? and quite honestly, i always believe that a certificate is important. in a way, it would help put u "on top of the pile" when an employer is looking through resumes. a cert is a person's asset. maybe tell her to keep applying for a place at uni while job hunting a little? cuz sometimes, if u're lucky (at the right place at the right time) u might just land a job that offers you great opportunities. BUT, thats a risk. i still think education is always the better choice, specially in the world today.
2006-06-23 12:25:02 · answer #4 · answered by lil'sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Education and experience are both important but in most instances education will be the one thing that gets many young people in the door for an interview. Although you might just see it as a "certificate", employers see it as something much different.
2006-06-23 12:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by justneedascreenname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to finish her studies. The degree is more important. I don't have a degree, and I am losing my job on the 30th, now no one will hire me in this field, I have tons of experience I can do any of it, but you have to have that peice of paper. So now I get to go back to school and be the oldest in the class.
2006-06-23 12:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by suziQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should go on with the appeal..Studies are important.if she forgets about that and starts working down the line she is going to regret not going to school and maybe even hate you for it for not pushing her to fullfil her dreams..she can still go to school and work a couple of nights somewhere where she can still get her studies done..Don't take it away from her..
2006-06-23 12:22:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it is her dream to go to that school and get a degree you may have made the wrong decision. while working and getting experience is important if that is what she really wanted to do with her life she should do it. also, cant she work and go to school? thats what i am doing. but then again if she left the decision 100% up to you it doesnt really matter what she wants. she should have decided for herself.
2006-06-23 12:21:23 · answer #8 · answered by Hez 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never tell anyone what to do. Not that you did but from now on, when someone asks you for your opinion when it comes to "LIFE MATTERS" (and not an outfit or a meal), simply say, "I think that whatever is going to make you happy, you should do and I will support you".
Anything else is selfish. I would go back and say that to her.
2006-06-23 12:21:01 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of letting your views rule what she does let her go make her own decisions. Have you ever heard the saying " if you love something that much let it go and it will come back to you"? Let her follow her dreams or you and her both will regret it later and she may even resent you for making her choice for her.
2006-06-23 12:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by Tammy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋