Is it wrong to be talking to/dating a female who is in the process of finalizing her divorce? It should be finalized in about a month and they don't live together and are not in love.
2006-06-23 05:05:59 · 37 answers · asked by Ansel P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
id wait until its final.....and i mean final final ink dry on the paper etc
2006-06-23 05:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by Jack Kerouac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't about right or wrong. It's about the timming. Anyone going through a divorce is experiencing tremendous loss regardless of whether or not they are in love. Loss is loss and anyone going through that experience is in a sort of grieving state and not thinking practically and rationally. They are most likely leaning on you for support.
So the answer becomes, are you okay with being with someone who is going to go through a LOT of changes in the very near future which may very well mean they will not want to be dating? If so, great. If not, save yourself for someone who is 100% emotionally ready to be in a commited relationship. But you don't have to pull your friendship from the other person.
Typically, a person in emotional need will be very accomodating, loving, giving and what have you as to not lose the other person so you may be experiencing this from that person and you may be interpreting it as that she really loves you when she could just "need" you.
2006-06-23 05:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Phil-lys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say no that it's not an affair but it can harm her case when finalizing a divorce if the husband found out about it, he can be bitter and discuss it with his lawyer and it can be detrimental to her case and may cause problems with the divorce but thats only if he finds out about it. I say thats it's not considered having an affair unless you started seeing her before the divorce begain and may have had something to do with the initial filing for divorce.
2006-06-23 05:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by Shya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not an affair unless you are having sex with her. If you are the cause of the divorce then...... I would contain myself for the month. I know someone that has been playing a game on a male friend of mine for over 6 months now (and very discouraged and miserable) plying him with excuses and her husband is still living in there home. They do not have sex so she says. (heard that one before) They do have 2 children, her mother is sick, she spent her college grant at the casino, etc,etc,etc............ Hey, be careful there. Don't hang too long there and get burnt... good luck. Remember if the story sounds fishy and smells fishy, it has probably been around a fish. Be careful.
2006-06-23 05:28:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with it. They are just going through the "paper trail" at this point. The only bad part of her getting into an immediate relationship after a divorce is not a great idea --- but it happens.
2006-06-23 05:07:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not an affair but its really to early to establish a true love connection...you risk developing a rebound relationship....not to mention its not over till its over...allow her to see this through without any regret later that she really didn't give it proper thought because her mind was focussed other things.
2006-06-23 05:13:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well inga says YES that is totally an affair!!jk I just felt like someone had to say that. No I think you are ok but be carefull that could invole alot of drama.
2006-06-23 05:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by miss ingie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it could be constituted as an affair, your best bet would be to remain just her friend and wait a month. Its not that far off.
2006-06-23 05:08:50 · answer #8 · answered by sweetdreamin96 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fair game if the divorce is already a foregone conclusion. Once you both decide and agree that you're getting divorced, you're not really married any more.
2006-06-23 05:07:23 · answer #9 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is not a relationship, and they are not living together and the time that they have been apart is decent, it is not an affair.
but, were you with her before she moved out of the house away from her hubby? if so, that was an affair.
2006-06-23 05:09:40 · answer #10 · answered by navymilitarybrat76 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that is not considered to be an affair but you should be careful as that is a rough time to be going through.
2006-06-23 05:07:55 · answer #11 · answered by RainCloud 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋